Road Rage, Blender Battles, and Oshkosh Mornings (Hour 1)

Coming to Northeast Wisconsin live from the Civic Media Studios, this is Mino and the Mayor.

And

here are your hosts, John Mino and Jim Schmidt.

Todd, it's never good when Jim and I are looking at each other and making motions and pantomizing what to do dealing with equipment.

Pointing to our ears.

So

just so you guys know when

we're

on location, our noise or our sound from the audio from the studio has to drop before we go live.

So

that's why I went.

Oh, I thought he was.

No, no, no.

OK.

All right, anyway, so we can.

Tell everyone where we are.

This is good morning.

Look

at that beautiful sun coming up over the water right behind us.

Great.

Isn't that I just wish there were some warmth in it.

I know.

But it's cold.

It's a little chilly out here.

We're in Oshkosh.

We love being in Oshkosh.

You know, just driving into the looking for a gas station by my my monster.

I don't want you guys to judge me for drinking.

I got to tell you that.

You know what?

I could hang out if they had a quick trip at five twenty seven in the morning.

Okay,

with all the trades people.

It's all yellow.

Totally completely.

That's great though.

They're getting hot dogs.

Yeah.

Yeah, they load up.

That's, that's

always fun.

I don't know or something about that.

I just, I really like, but, but the thing is, I was saying how I love this.

I should share you so much when coming in.

Through this street and that well whatever whatever 6th Street and although over there Oregon Street and coming right down the two blocks from here Just beautiful greenery right on the water and it's got up there.

You know built 1883 and the next one next what 1889

And this one right next to us, a fire station when I bet they used horses.

Absolutely.

You know what I mean?

Oh, yeah.

We're right.

And didn't you say, Todd, this is where Oshkosh started?

I mean, pretty much right by the fire station there, right?

Back when it was Athens, it was right on the river and all that kind of stuff.

Did you actually close that?

Yeah.

Is it bothering you?

It's kind of burning up the redness.

I won't be the surgeon.

Get this wart right off my face.

But it feels good.

It's nice down here in Oshkosh.

Beautiful, beautiful morning.

Not warm.

38 degrees in Green Bay, 39 in Apton, 41 in Oshkosh, but it is sunshiny and the forecast mid to upper 50s today.

So a little chilly today.

And then after this, pretty much kind of.

Oh yeah, this weekend is.

Gradually.

I think we might even hit 80, which is, wow, it's been a while.

Now it's going to be great weekend.

So, hey, I was going to ask you, we took different cars because we have different things to do after this, but.

You know, you think 435 people be nice.

There's a little road rage.

I felt with a guy next to me.

Did you get running?

The traffic was more than I thought.

No, you're good.

Well, yes and no.

Okay.

I just, and that made me think of, did you see that road rage thing where that.

guys driving and that road rage with a motorcycle?

No.

Oh, you got to see this.

Oh, wow.

And they're going back and forth and finally the motorcycle.

As they're driving?

As they're driving, you know, left lane, right lane, right?

And finally the motorcycle just comes right next to this guy, probably, I don't know, two feet and just giving him the finger.

The guy just jerks to the right, knocks the guy off.

Wow.

Yeah, and I think he lived, but boy did he, that guy went flying.

So anyway, that's too much road rage for me.

Boy, but what I'm saying is, okay.

Was it a motorcycle or something?

Yeah, there kind of was type of thing.

You know, knowing I saw it, okay.

But I was talking to the guys yesterday and what guys had lunch with angle and they just told horror stories left and right about They just call it the gauntlet when they come here early in the morning,

you know

And it's it's 85 87 miles an hour and it's it's So so I guess I'm used to it in a certain way and you just kind of you know hunkered out and getting the flow

what we In Green Bay, you know you walk to work and I drive two minutes to work.

So I was just

It was fine.

I just was like, wow, they're, this is a little aggressive.

I was

wondering,

but I played late to it.

Is he

late for work?

That guy who was me.

No,

I know.

Cause we had, there's

one guy passed me, blew right past me at whatever.

Then there were two semi.

They was in the three lane area and there were semis in each of the lanes, which is kind of freaky.

Cause I've gotten caught in between them.

So I bet he went a hundred.

They're kind of messing with

you a little bit when they both pass you at the same time and you're in the middle.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Anyway, yes, but I bet he went I bet he well easy 90.

Yeah, he's going.

Oh, yeah.

Yeah.

I did my cruise on an 82.

So I didn't want to get a ticket.

No.

Hey, today is Thursday, May 8th.

It is no socks day.

I like going without socks, but man, my shoes stink then

with

sandals.

No, I don't know.

But I mean, to the point where it's like, if you sit in the living room, it's like,

what is that?

Then you realize your shoes are like under you and that's what it is.

You ever have that?

No.

Uh,

no.

I mean, maybe as a child, but

then, you know,

as you grow up,

you go, well,

I'm just not going to do that

anymore.

Or you're going to wash your socks or your feet or just not, or wear socks when you have shoes and not wear socks when you have sandals.

So that's, but okay, that's, I

will never, I'll tell you one thing on there.

I'll never wear crocs.

No.

Oh, I

see.

I like him just if I'm going to run out to the throw some garbage out or like that I'll throw him on real quick as I go outside.

Kind of like a pair of slippers for outside.

But you have slippers.

I have slippers.

OK,

you think.

OK, I was so excited to wear a bathrobe in New York.

That's right.

Because I hadn't worn a bathrobe

since I

was seven.

Do you think I

own a pair of slippers, Jim?

Not that.

Like your kids would give them to you for like, you know, something.

But yeah, I got a pack of slippers.

I got I got different kinds of pipe, three, four pairs of slippers.

Um, you have bear for each day of the week.

Who you

ask?

Um, today is ovarian cancer day, very important day.

Ovarian cancer, man, that is affecting other ones affect so many people and they've made great strides with that.

Have a coke day.

All right.

Is, is coke coming out with another new thing that they're really pumping?

It's like something like.

This is like another new break and that's one of those entities.

Why don't you say what's like, what are you doing?

Just

let it be.

Yeah, I know.

But I always do want more shelf space.

Is that the energized?

Is that what it is?

I mean, that's there's something like that.

They have a new orange cream flavor.

OK.

And by the way, I think Khan actually loves that stuff.

He would.

Yeah.

He would.

You would.

Wow.

Yeah.

So there's

a. So that's

what

it is.

There's an orange cream and an orange cream zero, I believe, zero sugar.

All right.

Yeah, he actually got

me some as a

thank you and it's not bad.

Really?

Yeah, it's not bad.

I don't know that I would go buy it

I'm gonna tell you something that is so good that I could market this I could market this and I'm not lying.

I'm gonna do I'm gonna do next time I'm gonna here's I'm gonna do I'm gonna I'm gonna make a jug of this I'm gonna make a jug and I'm gonna bring into the studio and every guest we have that I'm gonna give them a sample

Say hey, what do

you think

about this?

Okay?

Okay like that

Do you want me to tell you what's in it?

Sure.

Okay.

Tang.

Okay.

Vanilla flavored protein powder.

Okay.

Avocados.

Little bit of banana.

Okay.

And pistachio seeds.

And it's blended all up and it tastes half between an orange cream sickle and a pistachio bar.

That

sounds good.

It's

unbelievable and it's so good for you.

It's mind-boggling I don't think you could I don't think you could put anything in your body.

There'd be better for you than that I'm not even joking about this as you come up with that.

I did it on my own Yeah,

it's like sitting here with emerald legosi.

Yeah, you know BAM I'm doing this mate, but I gotta buy a new but my bed blender is so gross.

Is there anything worse than cleaning a blender?

I Was clean it every time.

Oh, it's that spot.

I bet you don't clean your blender every time

Well, I was going to yesterday.

That's why it's

hard to

clean.

To the point

where I just took dove laundry soap and just right now it's still soaking because once that stuff gets in there.

That's true.

Oh, is that hard to get

out?

But you take it apart

too.

I know, but then you got the blaze.

But

what I'm saying is to use it that one time, the effort afterwards

to clean.

Don't you have a dishwasher?

Yeah, but I don't think you're supposed to put those in dishwashers.

I think

you can.

I don't know, I do.

I think you can.

Can you?

Yeah, I think so.

Okay, that'd do it for you.

But you know what I mean?

It's still it's like can't they come up with something that just stays a lot cleaner when you make it or easier to something

something what you put in there if you just it's what you put in there that makes it stuff cling to the sides.

I mean, if you just do it with like water and tang, yeah, it'll be a problem.

So no, you have to do that.

And you got to do it right away.

Like when you're done.

Yeah,

that's what I mean.

Because if you right away, if you wait for it, then it's yeah.

Yeah.

If you make something in the morning and then you wait till

I get night, it is

coagulated in there.

It is so hard

to get over.

I was actually

thinking about taking a toothbrush or something to get into those spots to get that stuff out.

So if I do it for you guys tomorrow, it's still going to be on my gross one because I don't think I have time to bite into it.

No, I'm not drinking

that.

You guys want to wait?

I'll probably pass.

I'll pass.

Yep.

Now, I don't know how long that, you got some things in there that spoil rather quickly.

Yeah,

I know.

I've been eating so many avocados though.

You know what's a good sandwich?

Let me guess.

You're sardines and avocado?

No, but that's not a bad idea.

The lettuce with avocado that I was talking about.

Yeah.

And either turkey or ham, OK, a little bit of mayo.

Yeah.

But heat it up first before you put the mayo on.

It's

fantastic.

That turkey and ham, though.

Ham is it.

But you know, is that turkey processed?

Are you getting like a breast of turkey and then slicing it?

I

just I

kill one of my turkeys.

What do you think?

That's not that process.

That's not really that good for you.

Actually, it's better for you.

Cause it has all the chemicals to

get, you know, keep your body has more to

it,

but it's great.

It's good.

I'm going to make you guys one of those shakes though.

Oh, I'll buy you a blender first.

Um, it's donkey day.

It is coconut cream pie day.

You know, yesterday when we're, no, the other day when we had Sean in for Merida and those things.

And that, I remember when it used to get Tommy's buy rate, this little story, a little mom and pop little store and coming home from a little league game, buying one of those things for 15 cents.

And

then the

coconut cream pie ones, which were.

Amazingly good.

We just stuck with the apple.

But yeah, that's no, I don't like coconut.

So I don't like

all

coconut

cream

pie

to me is banana

cream.

All those.

I'll just sit there

and eat the whole

thing

for my birthday.

My son Dom gave me that coconut.

I gave you some.

Didn't I?

Yes,

they did.

Give me the last slice.

Yes.

From the Union Hotel from the Baker at the Union homemade coconut cream pie.

That was amazing.

Wasn't it?

Oh, yeah.

What was your favorite pie, apple?

I like rhubarb.

Oh,

you

would.

What?

Nobody likes Rubar, probably.

Children's Book Week, which is great.

Your daughter wrote a children's book, right?

Didn't she?

I thought she was writing something.

She writes a lot.

No, it was more short stories.

She doesn't have her own book published.

But was it

towards kids?

Yeah, that was something that was we were kind of talking before the show that was she had a booth and everything at Art Fest.

I'm sure you've done that too.

But yeah, it's so that was cool.

Well, that's cool.

Yeah.

That's very cool.

Happy birthday, Enrique Iglesias, 50.

So that's the young one, obviously,

son,

his kid.

Melissa Gilbert, 61, little house in the prairie.

Half pint.

Half pint.

Yep.

Didn't sound like her and the other girl.

Anderson.

Melissa Sue Anderson.

Got along.

And the one from Nellie.

You know who I mean, Jim.

You were at the event.

I was out with her at Heritage Hill.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Uh, real name.

I can't think of Allison and Greg.

Yes.

Yes.

Three, you know, they say in baseball sometimes you have, uh, you know, 20 guys in the team and after a game, 20 different cabs.

Cause every, you know, that's the way it sounded amongst those three.

Like, I bet it was tough.

Yeah.

But I think there were some, uh, stage moms that got involved in the whole thing.

And yeah.

Yep.

But she told some good stories about how Michael landed sometimes it looked like he had a cup of coffee and I think it was wild turkey Ronnie lot is 66 Ronnie lot was there when the Green Bay Packers Pick was up for the NFL draft and they took

Rich Campbell, who never played.

I think he played one game his entire career.

Here's a Packers number one draft pick and like two picks later, I think it was San Francisco took Ronnie Lott, who was one of the all time greatest safeties in the history of the National Football League.

Hall of Famer, first ballot Hall of Famer, Packers passed him up.

Alex Van Halen, 72.

I don't think he's got much going on these days.

No.

I mean, he had his thing with his brother.

Phillip Bailey.

Who's Phillip Bailey?

So Earth went in fire and he had a duet back in the 80s with Phil Collins.

Easy lover.

Remember that song?

Oh, sure.

Yep.

Phil Bailey.

Oh, cool.

Tony Tenille,

85.

Come on.

Wow.

That's like almost 100.

Oh, my God.

85 is not just a, well, you remember that.

I do.

I

remember her.

No, but remember in 20 years when you're 85,

we'll be like, Jim, it's

almost 100.

that's good that's good uh let's see um good morning guys you three are as cool as a cucumber in a bowl of hot sauce brian brian

brian's getting better he's that was nice right

he always starts

that he does feel snarky

but he's he always does he's got any haskell in a way we got a bunch of good ones here folks stay with us we got a great show coming for you downtown oshkosh back at this

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As we mentioned, 38 in Green Bay, 39 in Appton, 41 in Oshkosh, mostly sunny today, high in the mid to upper 50s, but it looks like a great, great weekend coming up.

We got some great guests for you coming our way from down here.

I'll tell you what.

Todd, let's talk a little bit about our first guest that's gonna be coming up.

in about 10 minutes.

Alicia Wenger, Executive Director of the Christine Ann Domestic Abuse Services.

What a history to this.

This great entity they put together, huh?

Well, and you hate to say it spawned from tragedy, but but it

did

but

it did it was it did and I'll tell you it's been it's been a it's been a anchor in our community for a lot of years and just recently they had to expand from a rather large Victorian type house in Oshkosh to a much larger facility which allowed them to expand and help more people so she'll be in to talk a little bit about that but the history you guys were talking off the air why it's called Christine Ann and all that

quite sad interesting

and you know it's too bad that you had to move from the Victorian house to the 64 bed and now right in Green Bay they put that golden house that I don't know we better get that under control I think that that's been around for a long time but never talked about so now that it's out in the open I think people are you know hey look you had to do this is just crazy some of the stuff that

I mean I don't know if that's good or bad that they had to expand does that mean there's more victims happening or does it mean there's more victims coming forward we'll ask her but I think it's the latter

I hope so.

I mean, that's good then, you know, hey, you know, something yesterday I was driving on Mason and it's going to stop traffic.

What's up the old truce house?

Oh, truce.

Yeah,

we had them on.

Yeah, but she mentioned, you know, we're a lot bigger place in your and I was stopped right there and I was that does go way back.

Like, you know, when you drive by it, you think, well, okay, a person, you know, one family

might stay there for holy crap.

That's big back there.

That's the other room and they got great community rooms and

Yeah, it's I wonder.

I want to ask her how they did for.

Remember we they were worried about the draft that they were going to get full.

They're always full that they needed some extra houses.

So a lady was listening to us and she wrote me a letter.

They had to get references.

If you want to open up your house to the Altrusa.

Oh, I

believe that.

Sure.

Yeah.

So she will you write my reference letter?

I'm like, yeah, absolutely.

So

anyway, I.

So

much better so much I

walk in today.

She's at her desk.

I walk in which I first thing she does get she gets up, but she closes the door She wanted to do that before you got here, but she's like damn there he is We got some text here.

See from Dave the mayor is even above foot odor Okay, all

right, Dave

Todd and Dupir says Jim not only has multiple pairs of slippers, but I bet they're all embossed I won

Anybody surprised

by that

yes, they're gifts.

Come on.

Good morning to in my opinion the best morning talk show in the whole wide world, Mike.

Thank you, Mike.

Love you, Mike.

OK, is this legit?

Well, this one just puts soap and water in it, let it run after you use it each time.

OK, that's fine.

I'll try that.

Allison from Allentown, Pennsylvania.

That's where she's listening in.

Wow.

So.

How cool is

that?

Turn your blender back on after you put soap and water.

That's a good idea.

I don't I never would have thought of that.

Yeah, but you don't want your next drink to take, take.

Well, you got to rinse it out and stuff, right?

But that

is a great idea.

Allison, tell us about why you're listening to us from Allentown, Pennsylvania.

All right.

That was the biggest.

It was the number one hit in December of 1982.

Billy Joel.

Yes.

Living here in Allentown.

Yes.

Okay, so anyway, but that's great that you're listening.

Thank you very much.

And did we ever hand out our $25 gift card?

Not yet

for the tagline.

Can we keep it going

to this?

Yep.

Our snarkiest tagline.

Here's how we do it, folks, since, you know, we were number two for the morning shows.

And we're proud of that.

We're proud of that.

You know what?

Doggone it, you're all winners.

And we were coming out taglines yesterday.

Mine on the bear.

And then you fill in the rest.

I kind of like the one.

What did you expect?

There were a

couple

really good ones.

There were some really good ones.

So we have to.

So we're continuing that one today.

Fill us in on your best slogan.

Mine on the mare.

Our tagline.

Yada, yada, yada.

And people are going to be like, OK, that's cool.

Yes.

That's not a bad one in itself.

Mine on the mare.

Yada,

yada,

yada.

That's true.

That is true, Todd.

That's not bad.

I came up with that.

I get the $25

card.

Also coming up today, Kaden Lederhaus and Feneke Thompson, Bike Osh 25.

I am the community inside iCare.

Tell me a little bit more about biking in Oshkosh, Todd, because that is so big down

here.

This is an event coming up in a couple of weeks.

It's with some of the students in town.

And basically you're going to be able to bike around the city, stop off at certain points to have your your little card punched or whatever.

This is really interesting.

because you're right, biking is big in this city, and these two young men will talk a little bit about this particular, and I think it's pronounced, we'll have to find out, but like bug gosh, so it's like, bug gosh, bug gosh, 25, I think.

But this

is a big biking community,

right?

I mean, like community, biking, groups.

This is their ninth annual, so they know what they're doing here, but they really want to educate people on the bike lanes, and really, because there's responsibilities.

Everybody's like, well, the cars, the cars, the cars.

Well, the bike, because they have some responsibilities, too.

So I think they try to educate the whole community on.

But biking's big, no doubt about it.

So did you?

I know.

Yeah, I got busy yesterday.

I had to go pick up some stuff for that party I'm having.

Tell me it's going biking.

I did.

But I went and rented the table and chairs.

I had to pick all that stuff up yesterday.

So I don't have to do it today.

Also, just want to mention that did you ask

your neighbor if he's got a gel seat for me?

No, yeah, I can tell you what I this is this is kind of sad I don't remember his dog died and he's like us So they're in mourning.

No, I didn't go over there.

Okay

All right.

Sorry

about

that.

Just wanted to mention that that particular segment is our new eye in the community segment.

And it's brought to you by Insight Eye Care, the eye doctor that was on with us last time.

Oh, yeah.

He was great.

So big thanks to him and his locations.

We'll learn more about that in the next couple of weeks.

Oh, that's fantastic.

Yep.

Oh, glad to hear it.

Really glad to hear it.

Then Connie Carmichael, Oshkosh Chamber, coming on to talk about some great things.

Oh, they good.

They got so much going on here at the chamber.

And what's cool about their chamber, I mean, just not just the 900 members that they have in networking and doing business to business.

They actually give you their mailing list for free.

Isn't that cool?

So you got 900 friends.

You can just email to tell what you're doing.

Absolutely.

There's so much else going on there.

So that's it's great organization.

All right.

We just had

a quick break.

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Here's John Mino and Jim Schmidt.

Hey, welcome back.

Come on in on the Mayor.

coming your way from downtown Oshkosh and a beautiful but chilly Thursday morning 38 in Green Bay 39 out in 41 Oshkosh high today in the mid to upper 50s I told you we've got a full slate of great guests we always do when we come to Oshkosh Todd and Lisa always put together a great great ensemble Alicia Wenger executive director of the Christine Ann story here domestic abuse services and we were just talking during the break and we were just

Wide-eyed her mouth's almost open.

You tell me about the day-to-day that you all deal with with this, but first I want to back up if you don't mind Christine and we need to acknowledge that more than just her name Can you tell her story and why your center is named after this young lady?

Absolutely.

Well, thank you so much

and welcome by the way.

Yes, hi Great to say we love being here.

We absolutely love being in Oshkosh and

you guys got it going on in Oshkosh and we got I just

Johnny's talking about we have a great lineup today, but Oshkosh is it's a big city Yeah, and we got this guy's gonna talk about bikes We got the chamber coming in but there's also some issues here that need to be dealt with right and we've had the homeless guy on before we had the food pantry and and you're here talking a little bit about domestic violence, which is

You're doing something about it.

You know, people who don't talk about it don't do anything.

It gets worse.

So I just

Yeah, for that.

But I was also to another discussion Jim and I had right before you even came in.

Todd was telling us about how you had this facility, this big old house, and he had to expand or whatever.

And the question we had is that a good thing or a bad thing, meaning.

Domestic abuse is continuing at an accelerating pace or does it mean that you guys have done such a great job getting word out there that you were there to help that more people who maybe would have been What's the word?

Reluctant to come and ask for help now.

They realize you guys are there for them.

So

First of all, welcome.

And we just threw about 27 questions at you in our introduction.

So thank you for being

here.

Our next guest coming up.

Turn her mic on.

All right.

Welcome.

Thank you.

Thank you so much for having me.

We'll start with Kristine.

Yeah.

So Kristine Ann Clark, she grew up in the Oshkosh area, went to school at UW Oshkosh, where at that point in time, she had met her.

her boyfriend Alan and soon after they graduated they got married and things were and became very abusive and domestic violence a lot of times is not visible to the outside world.

There's so many people in our lives that are impacted by abuse and we have no idea because it's kept behind closed doors and that's really what was happening with Christine Ann and she was

They ended up having a child together a daughter and They the abuse had gotten so bad that she actually fled to a shelter in Milwaukee and Like the cycle of violence You know Alan convinced her to come back and so She tried and it got worse and so she ended up leaving it was at that point that she had told her family about

what was what was happening and What had happened essentially then was they went through the divorce, but they had 5050 custody of their daughter and during a child custody exchange Allen had convinced her to meet in a different location that was more secluded and It was relevant to their relationship when they were together.

It was a spot that they knew and he had

ended up taking her life and leaving the daughter unharmed.

Um,

can I ask how old the daughter was at the time?

She was very little.

Um,

I mean, no disrespect, but at least she didn't witness it firsthand type thing.

Yeah.

Um, she was with, I believe within her first two years of life and so, um,

Daughter was unharmed, but some people who were passing by ended up finding Christine and called the police and Alan is serving life in prison.

So her story is really important to tell because our organization, we started in 1984 and we were named Regional Domestic Abuse Services.

And this is one of the worst case scenarios that could have happened and right here in our community.

And it was right when our movement was really taking off.

So our agency actually approached her family and asked if we could rename our organization in Christine Ann's honor.

And they agreed.

And so now her name lives on as a symbol of hope for others in our community.

And in her case, she had left.

She had left that relationship, right?

And that is the most dangerous time in an abusive relationship is when somebody is leaving or preparing to leave.

And it's sad as that is, if that's not the only story.

I mean, even, I think Wisconsin, safe, nice people, what do they call that?

Wisconsin nice.

Wisconsin nice, yeah.

It's not all that nice because you were even saying that statistically we're a little higher than we should be on the map.

Yeah, so Wisconsin is eighth in the nation for domestic violence homicides.

So one in every

six states are like one in

every six domestic violence homicides are taking place in Wisconsin.

So that's.

Yeah,

not in a good way either.

So it is something that is continuously rising from year to year.

And we try to do as much as we can to get the word out, do so much community education, help people understand what domestic.

abuse is and that there's assistance.

And it's not always 21, 23-year-olds.

There's some older people that need to see a two that have been

living

this life.

Men, women, children.

We almost like brag about how much we drink in Wisconsin, the drunkest state, whatever.

Is that a factor?

You know, so what I will say is that drugs, alcohol, stress, mental illness are all things that can

Exaggerate the really exaggerate the abuse, but it is not the cause okay, so But those are definitely factors that can often escalate a situation

Wow So you this is your focus.

I'm gonna ask you yeah, why you got into that before I do that The the support from the community it's there.

I'm assuming you're a nonprofit.

We

are right and you've expanded from what six seven eight beds to

Don't you have like 64 now?

Well, so we were actually 37.

We were.

Yes.

So we were a pretty decent

size.

Pretty good size.

Yeah.

But our our shelter, our previous building had a lot of limitations.

And so it

all buildings always

do.

They do.

It is.

It

is

an absolutely gorgeous home.

And it did us well for over 30 years.

But we had two separate buildings.

And when we're talking about domestic violence survivors and the safety aspect that goes along with that, having two separate buildings where we're housing people in our shelter for them to walk outside and go into the main building, which is all open, right?

There's a security risk in that.

And so that was a big factor in us.

And

the other thing I think you'll have to understand is what when, so I work at a homeless place when a homeless person shows up there alone.

They have nothing.

When people show up with you, they may have kids in tow.

I mean, it's it's like 64 families is a heck of a lot more than 64 people.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I mean, you must have a lot of support to get that done because these kids got to go to school.

They got to get their health checkups and they got to eat.

We have, um, we have about 30 staff.

So, um, a lot of people are surprised by that too.

And, you know, and we have definitely

expanded.

I think we, a lot of people, and I, we've both dealt with you, your type of organization.

So we kind of see the behind the curtain, but a lot of people might think, Oh, it's just one little house and this poor lady went there and she got to, they have no idea the magnitude of what you guys do.

Do they?

Yeah, absolutely.

A lot of people just view us as the shelter, but, you know, we offer so many different services.

The shelter is just.

a piece of what we do in the community.

But it is a very important piece because it offers that safety and security for people who are fleeing that active domestic violence.

You just briefly said men and women.

I think everybody thinks it's a hundred percent.

And I look at the Chinese said we've worked with people like not you specifically but organizations like yours.

That can happen too.

That's got to be tough that first step to come forward.

Absolutely, you know I think that our name being more female centered a lot of people have the misconception that we only serve women and children and that is not the case We have Our agency serves everybody domestic abuse does not discriminate and neither do our services So they're inclusive.

We have a handful of men that stay in our shelter every single year more so that

that work with our outreach services.

But in terms of men who are impacted by domestic abuse, there's a lot of barriers

also.

As victims.

Yes, as victims who maybe feel that they can't come forward or there's a lot of shame surrounding that or feel like I should be able to handle this or I'm not gonna be believed.

And a lot of people.

That's one of the biggest curses guys were born with.

Asking for help or do you know what I mean?

I will 100% say that the majority of the people that we see are female or women who who are seeking our support but

But it is very important to know that every single person, anyone can be impacted.

So let's talk about, I mean, you're the director, right?

Yes.

You're the executive director of the Christian Domestic Abuse Services.

And we talked about you got a new facility, 64 people you can answer.

But you must have a...

Outpatient.

You call it outpatient.

People would just call and say, look, this isn't working for me.

I mean, tell us about people that can just contact you anonymously, I hope.

Yes, absolutely.

So we have a 24-7 helpline.

We have trained advocates that are there.

24-7, 365 days a year.

They're there answering the phones, providing that support.

Our 24-7 helpline is anonymous.

So people can call and just, I want to chat about what's going on.

Or if you're a friend or family member of someone who's impacted by abuse, and you want to know how to best support them, that's what that 24-7 helpline is for.

So we offer that along with our 24-7 emergency shelter.

And then we do provide outreach services.

residential support.

We actually have three locations so our primary shelter and location is here in Oshkosh off of Algoma and then we have an outreach office in Monashah inside of the Levin building and we have another outreach office in Green Lake inside of the Town Square community

building

because our our agency serves all of Winnebago County and all of Green Lake County.

I'm gonna slip you read this because I don't want to ask it on the air.

Oh sure.

Ask this question.

Yes,

okay.

I was go ahead and so what I just wrote down because I didn't know

if it was so it did What he asked was did the little girl turn out okay?

It was tragic.

I didn't want to hear about it on the air and no deserts I don't want to bring up something so tragic.

No,

I'm sorry.

I Yes, and

A really powerful and wonderful moment that we had, Kristine Ann's daughter was, her family actually came and did a tour this past summer.

And they got to see the new building and I actually got the chance to meet her family and her daughter.

So it was a really, it was a really wonderful moment to be able to meet the

whole family.

Yeah, absolutely.

All right.

I

want to talk about some of the programs you offer, because I think people just think it's a shelter.

But I mean, you have everything in here from the advocacy, the teen programs for kids.

Yeah,

we

do.

I want to

get back to some of those, because I think people look, I think we know it's an issue.

but it's just not, here's the place to sleep.

There's

so

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So with your facility that you have here, this Christie Ann Domestic Abuse Services, again, I think

people know and that it's a shelter.

People that can get away, but let's talk about a few other things that you offer.

I want to talk a little bit more about the children and teen programs.

Like I said, we know the shelter, but education, prevention, tell us what other things you offer there.

Yes, so I was kind of talking a little bit about our outreach services.

So just to put into kind of like numbers, our shelters

in our previous building, we don't have the numbers yet for this new building, but we served about 300, between 250, 300 individuals in our shelter.

We serve upwards of like 600 plus in our outreach services.

So those are the folks who maybe don't need the safety of the shelter, but they still need that emotional support, options, resources, material assistance, whatever that may look like.

And then we also provide legal advocacy.

So that's a huge piece of what

we

do, which is

helping people with restraining orders, divorce, custody.

We're not lawyers, but we are immersed in the legal system and can help them walk through that very intimidating and overwhelming

process.

I'm sure one of the first things you gotta say is, well, I don't know if this is that big of a deal, but he does this once in a while, and your first thing's gotta be, that's not okay, because it just escalates, I mean.

Yeah,

well, a lot of people think that domestic violence is just physical.

And it's not.

It's so much more than that.

There are so many different tactics that are used in an abusive relationship where it's financial abuse, it's emotional abuse, it's psychological.

There's so many different elements that could go into it.

If

I could ask a follow up what Jim was saying, when should somebody make that call?

When would you say is that, okay, that's a tipping point.

You know what I'm saying?

Yeah.

What advice would you give on that?

What I would say is that every single person

has a different point in time in which they feel is the time for them to come forward.

They are the experts of their own lives.

But what they need to know is that we are here 24-7.

Our 24-7 helpline, there's no obligation to give us any information.

If you just want to talk, we're there.

If you want to figure out your options, we're there.

If you just need that extra support or that validation.

We are there.

So that helpline, that phone number is 920-235-5998.

And like I said, there is a kind, compassionate person on the other end of that phone.

And it just takes a phone call.

Right.

And Johnny's asking about, what's the flare on this thing about?

Controlling is.

really with people power and control it is it's can be like you said it can be the female controlling the male I mean it doesn't always have to be this guy but that can escalate and you hear these stories some of this stuff escalates pretty quick too which is surprised me but yeah I'm so it's never too early to call you

absolutely and so another program that we offer to is our youth services so we have an

a team of advocates that work specifically with children who are impacted by abuse in some capacity.

So whether it's happening within their home, between their parents or their guardians, or maybe they're a teenager, they're getting into their first dating relationship, and it's not a healthy one.

We have advocates that go into the schools, they meet one-on-one with kids, they provide that additional support for them, and we're just a safe person for them to help process through what's going on.

We also do prevention education in the

So we're doing presentations to classrooms or sometimes even auditoriums on what is healthy relationships, what is...

what's a healthy friendship, boundaries, consent, what does that look like?

And so really breaking it down to help prevent the cycle of abuse from continuing.

You know, a lot of kids

that are

growing up in that environment,

those are

exposed to.

And they think that's, it's okay.

Yeah, it's normalized.

And so that's really what we're trying to do

is

interrupt that cycle.

It's just wonderful.

Just fantastic, man.

I'm glad

you're getting into those schools because you hear about, you know, everything abuse, I think they think it's like,

you know, Christiane, that's married for a year or two, things went, you know, but schools, you hear these stories

about

their abusive relationships and they're 16, it's like, that's not gonna get better.

And then I just wanted to touch on briefly, there's people who are older and they're 60s

that should

come and see you as well.

I mean, that's tough to do, because I've lived with this guy, but it's like, you gotta,

You're still an individual.

You've got to get out of that

thing.

It's hard.

There's people who could be married for 30 years and are just afraid of the unknown of what does it look like if I leave?

Will I be able to support myself?

Are they going to harm me?

Are they going to harm themselves if I leave?

So there's so many different factors.

And you answer that.

That's going to say the first thing.