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Hi y'all feeling man a 3 3 2 1 2 10 17 is the number to dial a 3 3 2 1 2 10 17 is the number to dial You can text that number as well y'all few if you just joined in us And you missed lunch We had a very interesting lunch break today man folks that are just joining us.

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We doing a lot of things that are growing, man, and I'm very, very proud of how far we're coming.

And the conversations that we have in today was very interesting, y'all.

We were talking about relationships today and, you know, it kind of just spiraled.

into a conversation of its own.

We had a whole show prepared.

And we really, it started from the very opening.

We never really, when you really think about it at 1205, it was live.

And we just kept rolling.

Shout out to everybody in the chat man that kicked it with us.

We hit another record today of participation.

in our YouTube chat, man.

So make sure you head over to our YouTube chat.

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That's where we interact with folks.

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So as I was saying, man, we was talking about relationships and all of these different things and red flags and, you know, commitment.

We have also today, what's on Erica coming in again?

Ah, right now.

We have Erica Odom, coach Erica, my Riverside compadre.

Hey, Basah, Erica, how you feeling?

Hey, can you hear me?

I can hear you.

I can hear you.

I'm just waiting for

this screen.

There you go.

I was waiting for the screen to catch up because, you know, it's a little lag on the computer.

I'm like, where

is

it?

How are you feeling?

No, I'm glad it's Friday been a long week.

It's been a tum tum

about the week.

How's the week for

you?

Listen, I'm going to tell you, it's never a dull moment in my life.

I believe you be working, girl.

Been busy today, busy all week, but I'm glad we the week is closing out.

So.

How has it been?

I know you've been on the journey to show back poppin.

I've been seeing the clips you've been fitted on the YouTube

I'm still you

putting it on you feel me looking like a tiger that you are So

how how's

it been getting back in the swing of things?

It's been one good.

Um Everything has been going well.

Just you know continue to push along on the journey to success as we say

Man, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha, gotcha.

So, before we get into the questions and everything, you know, I like to go off script, especially when it's on family I'm chopping it up with.

From, and I know you've been doing the show for a while, right?

And the name of the show is on the journey, right?

Well, I wanna talk about your journey from when you first started, your very first episode, right?

to your most recent episode.

What do you feel is like one thing that you've learned from where you started on with the show version to where it is today?

And then we could get into the fun stuff as well.

OK, so compare.

Are you referring back to when I first started on the true?

Correct, correct.

OK, so from the very

first show, let me think about the very first show.

From the very first show compared to now, I would have to say it's definitely been some growth.

Definitely been some growth.

I think we talked about that before, that I am very big on just reflecting and overall looking at everything for myself and

I do we talked about this because I I mentioned that I do actually go back and watch my videos And I would I think just from that very first episode up until what is this episode three coming up?

I think this Saturday Um, it's definitely been some growth over all just with the show the topics It's getting better that's what I'm gonna say it's getting better

nice

Nice.

Well, you know, it's always good to have you on the show, man.

You're my Riverside homie.

And I'm very, very excited to see and be a colleague as part of the growth as well and see what you do.

And not only from when we was like 16, 17, 15.

Now I'm 42 and the knees is locking up in all of these things.

And I think I was like

14.

Yeah, because you was a freshman or something when

I was a

senior.

I was a freshman.

Yeah,

I was like 14.

I was in there with my little sister.

That's what's up, man.

I love chopping it up with people from Riverside before all the noise.

You know what I mean?

So it's always a special time for me.

So we have Coach Erica.

All right.

We got Coach Erica on the journey.

She has the show every first and third Saturday.

From 11 to 12 if I'm not mistaken, right?

That's right every first and third Saturday from 11 a.m.. To 12 p.m.. So we got some questions here for you and for those of you who are just joining us We have coach Erica on the show.

We're gonna be asking there some questions What inspired you to create on the journey and who do you hope to reach?

so

The journey to success, that verbiage is very intentional.

What inspired me to create it is my own journey to success.

And so I was through my own experiences in real estate, my own experiences and my financial losses that I've had along my journey.

I've always said like I wanted people not to never have to experience what I, what I've went through.

So the whole journey process burst.

part of this because I wanted to be able to start opening up platforms where people can actually have real conversations about real experiences and if you watch my show or people who just know me who's been to a workshop who's talked to me worked with me they'll tell you I'm very open like I don't sugarcoat it I'm very open about my experiences I like use myself like always that I throw myself under the bus

So other people don't have to and they don't have to feel uncomfortable in the room.

So I'm very open about just my overall experiences in hopes that if somebody is experiencing it or may be close to, they don't have to and they can take something from that.

That is amazing.

That is amazing.

So what does be it before I get to that question?

For those of the folks that aren't watching on YouTube, I would like for you to tell us the.

Say out loud the quote that you are sitting in front of.

Oh, behind my desk.

Yes.

I heard around.

I can

see it.

I just want everybody to

hear it

because I think it's important for the conversation.

OK, so it says success doesn't come from what you do occasionally.

It comes from what you do consistently.

And I want you to go into that a little more and then I'ma get into some more of the questions because I was reading that and I was like, I know it got to be more over

that that I

can't see and I wanted to know the whole quote.

So

it is.

So this is, this is right behind me.

I'm very firm on this because and that's why it's a journey to success.

Correct.

Because a lot of times.

I just feel like we get like caught up into like oh it's only success if it's this oh it's only like I'm gonna use real estate for example a lot of times I have conversations with people and the first question they ask is well how many properties do you own and I always think like well that doesn't mean you're successful or not I'ma just leave that nugget or there because it goes a little bit deeper than that but I'm pointing that to bring everything full circle to say like success

looks different to everybody.

And you got to stay consistent.

Like if you stay consistent, you may start off with one property.

For example, that doesn't mean you're unsuccessful.

You're successful because you got the stride to get that one property.

And at one point in time, you didn't have that one property.

But now that is an excess success.

In my book, other people may disagree with me.

But the consistently part, that's key because a lot of times we accomplish something that we want to do.

Whatever that looks like for us.

And then we're like, you know, maybe at a standstill for a second, but then you think you're not successful, but you really are successful.

And it's just the keys.

Stay consistent.

Keep doing what you're doing.

Um, if what you're doing consistently, if you feel like it's not working, then that's where you pivot to make the changes necessary so it can continue to work for you.

We are live on the award winning one on one seven and truth with coach Erica or show.

Excuse me is every first and third Saturday from 11 a.m.

To 12 p.m.

When we come back after break y'all when we come back we're going

to have more of a conversation.

We got a lot more questions to get into.

And I want to get into a preview of tomorrow's show as well, because I heard you got some dynamic folks coming on the show as well.

So we want to get into that with you as well.

Don't go anywhere, y'all.

When we come back, we'll get into more of the interview with Coach Erica right here on the award winning one on one, seven to

true.

to the award-winning 10170 Truth, live from the American Family Insurance Studios.

It is your boy Ray Nitty.

And I got coach Erica, my Riverside homie, live with us right now, man.

We talking about on the journey.

And we also going to get into some of tomorrow's topics and the things that she has going on.

I said, guess, I meant to say topics and whatnot.

So what does being a part

the journey team me

We ended together That's why I referenced journey team Because I want us to be a part of this discussion the journey together.

So the journey is all about coming together It's about empowerment.

It's about uplifting.

It's about educating.

It's about bringing insight so

you'll find a lot when I'm on air or even on my social platforms.

I never make it about me.

It's always the journey team.

How are we doing today, journey team?

What's our next move, journey team?

Because we end this journey to success together.

Our individual journeys look different, but we here together to make this happen.

So I got another journey team question.

How does one become part of the journey team?

and just join.

There are no limitations, right?

Nobody's journey is perfect.

And I'm not here to tell people how they should be or how they need to be.

You come as you are on this journey team.

Come as you are, be who you are.

And again, it's all about just coming together and just having a safe platform.

to be able to talk about different experiences when it comes to financial things and real estate things and whatever else, quite frankly.

And then, you know, just that encouragement and uplifting, but you just joined.

There's there's

no fee or

nothing.

No,

there's no fee.

I don't

charge no

fee.

I mean, I wouldn't mean that, coach.

Let me know when the next team meeting.

I got some more questions for you.

So.

I feel like we asked you this one before, but I'm gonna ask it to you again, because we don't know who's listening to that.

What can someone listening to the, for the first time expect to hear from your show?

You definitely, like I said, the journey to success, I'm very open about my experience.

So you definitely will hear me share openly about my experience, whether it be financially or real estate related, we're definitely going to hit

some sort of topic when it relates to money, whether that be an investing standpoint, a real estate standpoint, budgeting.

I mean, it just depends on what we're talking about that day.

But we will have a tip on that.

You also will get the opportunity to, I call it the real estate corner.

So the real estate corner is my way of highlighting something from either our market or just different things that we're being faced with around the world.

And also, I love to bring on guests.

So I always like to try to find guests that I think will be good for our discussion, because I give my perspective, but my perspective is just one piece of the pie.

I think it's important to get other people's perspective in the field, and that makes everything a little bit more well-rounded when it comes to the conversation.

Got it.

So speaking of guests, let's talk about the guests that you will have tomorrow.

Yes, so tomorrow we do have our guest and we have a feature guest.

We have William Newman coming on from Newman Realty Company.

So I'm excited for him to come on tomorrow and share his experiences and his journey to success in real estate as well.

I don't want to give it all away, but there's lots that he do in the community as well.

So I'm excited for people to be able to make that connection.

Because that's the other thing.

When I bring guests, I'm very intentional about making sure that people can connect.

Networking is huge.

So when these guests come on, take that as an opportunity to network to connect.

And then the other person we have is coach Tana Patterson.

She is my feature guest tomorrow.

We actually have an event coming up.

So she's going to be on the show talking about our upcoming events.

That's what's up.

That's what's up.

So you want to tell us about the event?

Sure.

So we decided we, me and her got together and we decided like when we think about wellness,

what do we think about?

And I was like, well, when we think about wellness, I think, you know, my physical health, my mental health, but also my financial wellness, because it all plays a part of the pie.

So I'm like, so we, we kind of collaborated together.

And so we have an upcoming workshop on October 10th.

She is the owner nutrition and Sherman Phoenix.

So we decided to collab together and do a wellness event for fight, basically preparing for the holiday, the total wellness experience.

And with the holidays approaching, you know, we get, we like to spend and

then we

also like to eat stuff.

We don't have a conversation about both about how do we keep our health as well as our pockets together for the holiday and not overdo it.

Got it.

So I heard you mentioned.

something about mindset, right?

And yesterday, we actually had an amazing conversation about how important it is to have the right mindset, to have a strong mental focus, right?

How can changing, in your opinion, how can changing your mindset help you take that first step?

And we're talking about tomorrow's topics.

We want to get a preview of what you got going on for tomorrow's topics.

So you're saying how can a person change your mindset?

Yeah, no, how can change in your mindset like the action of changing your mindset How can that help you take that first step in whatever it is that you you are trying to take that step in oh

Yeah, change your mindset.

It's pivotal.

I I'm big on mindset I don't even go into talking about money without talking about mindset first just because I'll just say this to keep it simple

Like a person could talk to you to you blue in the face.

You

can listen to every audio book.

You can read every book.

You can send it every workshop.

You can do everything.

But if your mindset is still in old patterns,

old

thinking, behavior, old habits, you know, it goes so much deeper.

But if you still in that same pattern of thinking, nothing's going to change.

And it's the same way.

And so it really does have to start here.

If it don't get right here, it's like a domino effect, at least in my experience.

And again, I speak for my own journey to success.

And when my mind wasn't in the right place, what it needed to be when it came to finances and then just overall lacking knowledge that I needed to know, it was terrible.

It was a, you know, it made things bad for me.

So tomorrow's theme, right?

Highlights ordinary people doing extraordinary things.

Why did you choose that message?

Because I think that sometimes we don't do enough with highlighting the amazing people, talent and businesses that we have.

I always say like people sleep on the city of Milwaukee.

And I truly believe that because there are some amazing people here and there are some amazing businesses here.

But I just feel like sometimes people don't get the recognition that they need to get maybe because you're not popular or maybe you don't hang with this crew versus that crew.

But they are really doing amazing things.

And so in my book, I feel like everybody should be highlighted.

It doesn't matter.

Which way you go like if you're doing amazing things people need to know about what you're doing

Got some more for you.

What would you say to someone who feels like home ownership or?

Investing is beyond their reach.

I Would challenge them on that I would and I would number one I would want to know why do they feel that way because I mean I can't say they can't feel the way they feel It's a reason why they feel

that is beyond them.

So my first thing, let's start there.

Why do you think that way?

And then depending on how they will respond to me, then that lets me know how I need to take the conversation next.

But I'm an advocate for homeownership and I know it's a lot of

Um, conversation about this, especially with the market.

I'm fully aware of what's going on with the market.

Um, but I'm always at the end of the day going to support and encourage somebody that home ownership or getting some investments going for themselves as the route to go.

Got it.

Um, what else I got for you, coach?

So you have, uh, a reoccurring segment.

That's about to start previewing coming up.

Tell us about this reoccurrence segment.

Explain fit of the week.

Oh, the fit of the week.

Yeah, explain the fit of the

week.

So I this season wanted to do something a little different.

I guess I could compare it to like.

You know in class when the teacher gives you a icebreaker instead of going right into the lesson I wanted to have a icebreaker so to fit of the week with birth as my icebreaker for the show Just just to kind of give it, you know a little twist a little bit for me to show Give viewers a little bit more of my personality and who I am as an individual Before we dive into the deep stuff

Got it.

OK, that's just like a little like you said, a little ice breaking.

We just we just getting things started.

So OK, so what is the money minute?

So the money minute is where I was saying you will get conversation around we're going to focus.

It depends on what I pick for the week,

but

that'll be investment related income related budget savings.

It just depends on the topic.

But it has to do with just helping our overall financial situation, having a conversation about that.

Got it.

So how does real estate, how does the real estate corner help listeners better understand buying, selling, and investing?

You got some dope, reoccurring segments, by the way.

Thank you.

So the real estate corner... You got to coach me on the

segment.

I

need to coach me up on the segment.

The real estate corner is really...

real estate focus and the last two shows I've been kind of building on this because again I know this is like a big topic of discussion where we are with inflation the market so

The real estate corner is just really bringing perspective and conversation about some of the things that are happening in real time when it comes to real estate, whether it be the market, the housing market, other things that they're talking about implementing.

It just depends on what our focus is, but it's definitely related to what's actively happening in the world.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

Nice.

What else I got for you, coach?

You flying through these questions.

So for someone considering home ownership, right?

Now, we ain't talking about the ones that think it's out of their reach.

We're talking about the ones that's considering it now, right?

Because you done coached them off the ledge and now they're considering it, right?

We're walking through a lot.

There's a live coaching, by the way, if y'all ain't even peeping how the question's flowing.

What questions should they ask about their own readiness?

Number one, you got to start.

Well, I'm going to say mine is that number one, because I'm a, you know, kind of reference some of the things that I saw people commenting on one of the segments I posted home ownership is a lot of work.

It is a lot of responsibility and you have to ask yourself, number one, are you ready for that?

Because you can't call your property manager, you can't call your landlord, it's you.

And so you have to be ready to take on those things and a lot more other things.

But the other thing I would say is just truly, especially where we at with the economy, I would say just really making sure that from a financial standpoint that you feel comfortable and you're ready.

And that's gonna look different person to person because, you know, it depends on that individual's own financial situation.

But just truly asking, like, are you ready when you look at your finances?

And I would definitely say get you a financial advisor.

Get you somebody to sit down with.

Even if you don't have anybody, you can sit down with my team.

It's a team of us.

It's

not

just me.

And we could you know, we don't charge to do a financial needs analysis So you truly need a financial needs analysis to really look at your situation from income debt You know expenses the whole we look at the whole picture to see where you actually are so we can figure out Where are you financially?

Does it make sense right now?

Or do we need to take some other steps before we get you to that point?

Man coach, I know you supposed to um

Believe in that 2-3, but I still got some more questions for you.

Do you have time for at least one more segment so we can finish the questions or you gotta go close the deal?

Listen, I really today, it's been a day.

And that's

why I'm virtual today, because it's just been a super busy day today.

Understood.

Understood.

Well, leave the listeners with one thing before we go.

Please let them know when the show is again.

Anything you want to share before you got to get back to work today.

So tomorrow I will be live and ready to go at 11 a.m.

to 12 p.m.

on of course the award winning 1017 the truth.

Make sure you come on if you want to know everything about mindset money or real estate.

It's gonna be the place to be to have that conversation and be ready.

We got some extraordinary people coming tomorrow and they are definitely gonna be worth getting some information from.

Appreciate you coach Erica.

Thank you for joining us on the award winning one on one seven the truth y'all make sure y'all tune in tomorrow for on the journey with coach Erica at 11am to 12pm.

Don't go anywhere when we come back.

We'll continue the conversation right here on the award winning one on one seven the truth.

What up y'all welcome back to the award-winning one-on-one seven the truth live from the American family insurers studios to boy Ray nitty Brother Z holding it down with the production and sound How y'all feeling today, man?

We just had a nice conversation with coach Erica main make sure y'all to

in on the journey tomorrow with Coach Erica.

It's going to be a very, very, very fulfilling show tomorrow.

They got a lot going on tomorrow, man.

I'm going to make sure I tune in, make sure I tune in on what they got going on tomorrow.

But yeah, we were today, we was talking about.

You know, the.

The.

How do I want to phrase this?

We're talking about relationships.

We was talking about men and women and I feel like people don't genuinely like the person that they're with.

I'm not saying that they don't love them, but there's a large number of people I'm assuming that they don't like.

the person that they're with, they could still love them.

But they don't like them.

And it seems like everything annoys him about this person.

And I guess my question is.

Why.

Would somebody stay through all of that?

We talked about that today and, you know, conversation took a different turn.

But why do people stay through the things that.

You know, they don't want.

Today, we heard about somebody who felt like, you know, the guy that they are now with or was with for a while was scammed into the relationship.

He borrowed the car.

He borrowed money, borrowed this and that to take this person out.

And I was like, well, sound like that brother went above and beyond to court this person.

But.

You know.

Women was like, are you a bomb?

He got nothing.

He has nothing.

And I feel like we're in this world right now, man.

Where I don't like the.

Is it tension, I want to say or friction, friction feels better.

Friction between the conversation we have with men.

and women, especially black men and black women.

And Michelle had fun today.

We, you know, we had a conversation today.

Obviously, you all know a lot of times the things that we talk about is spirited and.

You're just having a good time.

But there's a real life.

Sector.

Of folks who really lean in to the discourse between man and woman.

especially in our community.

And I think it is created an environment.

To where everybody is just trying to one up each other.

Now, everybody is just trying to get over on each other.

Now, you have a lot of these.

Unrealistic expectations.

I ain't saying no has standards.

I ain't saying no have morals.

I'm saying.

Realistic expectations.

I'm willing to go as far as saying I feel like and call in if I'm wrong.

833-212-1017 is the number to dial.

833-212-1017.

I feel like the list of things are different.

If you put.

A box up on one side, you have.

List of things that women look for in a man.

And then the other side, you have a list of things that men look for in a woman.

Shannon.

Shannon just said, men looking for something in men, that's what they want.

They want to be with their friends.

And I feel like...

The women's side, the list would be.

At minimum double the length of what the man's side would have.

Just just my thought.

I feel like the women's side would be double.

And I said, don't have morals, don't have things that you just, you know, deal breakers don't have.

I'm not saying no haddos.

I'm saying, are they realistic?

Are we being realistic?

Women, you want.

Let's let's start with women first, because I don't want women to attack me.

Men, well, what are some things you look for in women?

Probably smart.

features like, you know, pretty.

Smart.

Like, I don't think we have.

What do you look for in a in a woman, brother Z, if you looking for somebody day attraction and.

I don't annoy you.

I feel like the men's list is usually way shorter than the women's list.

See, it don't

take much.

Well, I'll give people example of your list.

I mean that's exactly like don't be annoying exactly Be supportive sometimes you don't even got to

be pretty Just don't be annoying don't just start arguments for no reason don't just always look for a reason to bicker Hey our list is very short women

If you in the chat, what do you all look for?

What does a woman list look like when looking for a partner?

And I know we in the world today where they could be looking for a man or a woman.

So what do you look for in a partner?

Call us up, 833-212-1017.

What do you look for in a woman, in a partner, women?

I'm assuming I don't want to assume, okay?

But I feel like a lot of women would say things like to have money.

Say he gotta have a car.

He has to be handsome.

He has to be tall.

They're already doubled our list right there.

I keep going.

He has to be, not only does he have to be tall, but he has to be over a certain height.

They probably want to be six, five on top of being tall.

Then you got to have a certain type of car.

Then you got to be able to provide for the lifestyle they want you to provide for them that they probably not even living right now.

It's a difference if you got to maintain what somebody's already.

doing on their own.

But, I'm gonna get in trouble, I can see it now.

It comes to the table with a bunch of expectations that they don't realistically have right now.

They not living that right now.

You don't have, you know what?

I just want to say I think the list is skewed.

We have very minimal.

We are so low maintenance.

We're so low maintenance.

We don't demand enough fellas.

Because we have to come together for the women.

We have to be on top of our stuff.

All right.

We got to be on top of it.

But we don't.

Well, maybe not everybody.

Maybe not everybody.

But I feel like we we lower the bar for ourselves because we just want peace.

And I feel like we feel like demanding or not even demanding.

Asking or having all of these other things on our list, it just won't come peacefully.

So we like, you know what?

We just want peace.

We want you to be funny.

You know.

When we come back, says in the beginning, Loran says in the beginning, nobody shows you who they really are and slowly they let their guard down and the real person arrives.

and you may not be happy with who they are.

When we come back, y'all, we're going to get into that comment right there because that is a very interesting comment and is what we were kind of talking about earlier today.

So don't go anywhere.

When we come back, we'll get into it more right here on the award winning one on one seven.

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How y'all feeling, man?

We having a conversation here, y'all.

We haven't a very, very interesting conversation.

We talking about.

People showing up as some true selves as well.

It's a very loaded conversation.

Brother Loran said in the beginning, nobody shows you who they really are and slowly they let their guard down and the real person arrives and you may not be happy with who they are.

So this is this is very, very loaded and real statement.

Very loaded and very real.

Because.

How do people show up?

How often do people show up?

People.

Barely show up as them real selves online.

the the Facebook profiles, the Instagram profiles, all of the we was having a good time today, like I said.

You know.

And it sounds like jokes, but.

There is a sector of.

Folks that really like.

I've seen something that maybe this is a very small fraction.

OK.

But I've seen some folks where the makeup that they did was so transformable.

My God, you wouldn't even believe it was the same person.

Some of these these videos that I've seen.

Or even just the filters that folks put on top of the makeup when they take the picture or post it on Instagram is like.

Who is this person?

And that's why people say like that part.

You don't look nothing like yourself in person.

Because it's a whole different person.

It is all of these filters, all of this foundation.

I'm not saying don't wear makeup.

I'm just saying when we talking about showing up as your true self.

OK, when we hold each other accountable for how we show up.

And this ain't just about.

Makeup, right?

It's not just about that.

It's not just about natural hair because I don't think that is.

That important.

I think when people overdo it and they always want to have this face on and they always want to have this hair on and they always want to have this costume on.

That's when it becomes a little bit like.

All right.

Let's see.

Let's just get a little bit of the dude.

You know.

You know.

You think some people wake up like that.

We don't show people our real selves.

Shannon said earlier, we see a representative.

We see a representation of the person that we're meeting, whether it be for the first time or the first year.

And then when that real person shows up.

OK, and that's not always looks.

OK, it's not just always about how the person looks.

or what they wear.

It could be simply the attitude.

It could be simply the mindset.

Could be simply, oh, this is how this person really thinks.

OK.

We put on these facades every day.

This ain't even about just relationships, right?

We don't put them on because.

People.

People would assume based off of the conversation today that we're talking about people putting on these, let's just call it representations of themselves.

To impress somebody else or it's all for somebody else and I beg to differ.

I feel like people are doing that for themselves because they aren't confident with who they are.

So in order for them to be comfortable with themselves, we put this representation.

OK.

Perfect.

I give you example.

I always like to use myself as example.

I wear black a lot.

I like black.

But y'all know I've been on this this journey.

Shots out the coach.

My weight journey and I look better in slimmer and black.

So I wear black.

All right.

I show up better in black and pictures.

So I wear it.

And the funny part, I'm gonna get to the funny part when we get it, when we come back from these messages.

Don't go anywhere, y'all, when we come back.

Oh, I got time still.

I'm trippin'.

So I get to the funny part.

Very rare.

This is funny.

Usually when I wear black, somebody says, damn Ray, you're losing some weight, ain't you?

And I always joke back and be like, nah, I'm just wearing black in a tight shirt today.

So it just, but I'll be serious.

Because when I wear the colorful shirts and the peach shirts and the pink shirts and the mauve and the ox blood.

You know, they'll ever be like.

They look like you lost away.

Literally, people have said, boy, you've been eating good, haven't you?

Literally.

So.

I get into that comfort level of like, I like black.

And for some reason, I feel like I'm telling y'all too much of my business now.

I also wear black, I ain't gonna tell y'all that.

That ain't even important.

But the way that we show up, the way that we show up, right?

The representation that we put on, it's not just in relationships.

It's not just.

Romance.

How we show up in that job?

How we show up at work?

How we show up in our friendships?

How we show up in our families?

How we show up?

What version of ourselves shows up for our friends, for our families?

Our colleagues?

What version?

What version do you put on?

We have several stations in life that we operate in and each station probably gets a whole different version of us.

You might show up to church one way.

And at work, you show up a different way.

In your relationship, you show up another way.

With your friends, another.

What version do you show up as in your several stations in life?

When the goal should be.

To continuously walk upright in our several stations.

See, I'm getting into something I don't know if I should even be talking about right now.

See, the goal should be we walk it upright in our several stations.

Sure, get dressed.

If you want to put a little makeup on, put it on.

But how you show up, I ain't talking about your physical appearance, your real true self, your heart.

How does your heart show up?

Behind the filters, behind the haircuts, behind the wigs, behind the makeups, behind the wallet.

How does your heart show up?

Because sometimes I know we.

Get women a hard time on this show.

We play a lot of games or whatever.

But sometimes the biggest filter a man could wear is his wallet.

The biggest filter a man could hide behind sometimes is the wallet.

That's the only filter some of them could hide behind.

I make too much money.

I do this.

hiding behind the wallet.

That's a huge filter.

When we come back, we're going to get into some more conversations, right?

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Go ahead and tell everybody.

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We have the filters section again, right?

What were some of the filters that people wear in life?

We even had homework.

We gave y'all homework on one of the shows about the filters that we wear.

But the homework that we gave y'all yesterday was what was that thing?

That you sat down that you you you you you did not Continue to work on You were supposed to pick it back up All right We were supposed to pick it back up and we were supposed to get active and write three things down

We're supposed to write three things down.

You're supposed to write.

The people.

That pushed you forward.

Could have been one person, right?

Supposed to write the people that push you forward.

That was one task.

One or three Just somebody not not the folks that was like and see those are those are how some people show up to When I say how we show up for our friends some friends show up real jealous Some friends show up real envious You shared that dream with them and they didn't even retweet you they didn't even give you any

Good energy about it.

They just told you how much it was going to fail, how much this doesn't work, how much nobody's going to pay attention to that.

We didn't say, write those people down.

We said, write down the people that pushed you forward, even when you wasn't pushing yourself.

Who were they?

Then we asked you to write down.

Three steps that you were going to take towards getting That idea that gold that vision whatever it was back on track.

I did my homework I Didn't do my homework all the time in school, but I'll do it I'll do it now on the truth with y'all All right So for me it was

My studio, my space, my creative space.

I had got busy.

There was a lot of things going on.

Dealing with the situation at the builder.

Being frustrated with how things have been going.

It weighed on me.

It weighed on my mental.

We talked about mental make it wait on my mindset Literally a new spot that we just built and my creative space.

It was leaking to this day.

I was in there last night Still leaks But I've been pushing through and and pushing through I mean I've been

Hmm.

Not going as hard as I can in the space because of the conditions.

Lost a lot of energy about it because of the conditions.

And I ain't even talking about the whole business behind.

I'm literally talking about.

The space I'm in.

Leaking steel to this day.

So, yeah, that's a little bit discouraging when something's supposed to be brand new and you can't really.

You know, you pay for some.

You put money up for it.

You want it to be operable.

You want to be able to use the space the way you intended it to use and you should be able to use it the way that you were supposed to be using.

I lost clients.

I lost.

Tenants, I lost partnerships.

All of these things weighed on me, man.

So my homework was.

I got to get the space in order, despite other conditions, I have to figure out how to make it work.

Despite other conditions, the business side, we could figure out and get to, but the dream must continue.

See, I was allowing.

adversity, whatever, all of these things to interrupt my vision.

I allowed it to weigh on my determination.

I allowed it to hold me down.

I allowed it to get me off track.

So that was my homework.

I wrote down the studio, the creative space.

and three things that I said that I was gonna do.

I'm sharing my homework with y'all.

I hope y'all got yours.

I hope you wrote down that thing that you gave up on.

It could be a friendship.

It could be a relationship.

It could be an argument.

It could be an idea, a business idea, an invention, a puzzle, something small.

But you was like, I just don't got time for that no more.

I don't got the energy for it no more.

But the three things I wrote down.

For my space was.

I have to get back there first and foremost.

I have to get back there, be there.

I gave myself every excuse not to be there.

Oh, man, I'm on the radio.

CC, you go.

That's our CC, man.

Holding us down.

I gave myself every excuse y'all.

Man, I'm sick of this.

I don't like how this is going.

But at the end of the day, the dream is what suffered ultimately and I became guilty.

Because at the end of the day.

The circumstances don't kill the dream you do.

You kill the dream when you stop.

That's the only time when we fail.

When we give up when we stop.

I'm not talking about taking a break.

It's OK to take a break.

It's OK.

To regather yourself, get your energy back.

But when you stop.

And I'm talking about stop.

Year months.

Let's use a diet, for example.

When I was super on it, I was feeling good.

I started seeing abs showing up, pectorials was starting to stop looking like boobs.

I was feeling good.

I was walking around, I was going to the beach, taking my shirt off, not wearing a beater.

Was feeling good taking pictures walking on the beach photo shoot me and my woman like I was just something Looking strong Took me a year to get there paid for it too had a trainer I Was consistent I was on it.

I was locked in I was determined.

I was showing up at five in the morning waking up at four.

I Was focused

No matter what every day and I saw the results and then I celebrated I celebrated and I did a hard stop I'll tell y'all I was I was at 240 or something when I start when I started that gym journey then I got down to like 215 looking lean

Now I'm 255.

Easy.

It's harder to get that momentum back, especially as you get older.

It's harder to get back on track, especially after you get older, because you start mentally believing that you're tired.

I got so much going on.

Hmm What is that dream What is that thing y'all We had a dream ten years Took us ten years y'all imagine the disappointment ten years you had a dream of putting amazing residential apartments in your community on

32nd and Senate and then abandoned the warehouse.

The old bricks of strength.

You had the alderman believing.

It's not easy to get an alderman to believe in a vision.

And when they do, they expect you to deliver on what you say you're going to do because they names writing on it.

A developer can always go develop someplace else, but all they got to show up in that community and answer to the residents that didn't get what they was promised.

When we come back, I'm going to continue this question of this dream, y'all.

We're going to have this conversation.

Don't give up.

Stay focused.

It took us 10 years to get to this point.

And then we had a cat... What's the word I'm looking for?

A catastrophe.

But a catastrophe event would have been grammatically wrong.

A catastrophic event where we had to evict families.

It derailed the dream.

And I'm going to tell you all some of the things that I saw from that derailing.

Don't go anywhere, y'all.

When we come back, we'll get right back to this amazing conversation right here on the award winning one on one, seven to truth.

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You got to live your life man to the fullest at every time we only get one of these things y'all I Know some of us, you know

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That's for sure.

OK.

We talking about not giving up on the dream and what does it cost you when you slow down when you stop and you can start over and pick up momentum again.

But you got to make that ground up.

We talking about the community within the corridor development 10 years.

10 years it took us to get it there.

I'm thinking of all the things I put on hold, my own dreams because I was adamant about seeing the community within the corridor through.

I was adamant about the role that I played in delivering what we said to the community.

I knocked on every door in that neighborhood from

Damn near 27th to 35th Street.

Asked families what they wanted.

Took it back to the team.

Put my name, my face, my whole brand on the line.

Told people, this is what's going to happen.

And then we had a hiccup, y'all.

We had a hiccup.

We had a hiccup.

We saw families get evacuated.

Evacuated for the TCE.

We had to evacuate families in a snowstorm.

This was our dream.

This was supposed to be the most catalytical development in Milwaukee's history.

It was the first of its kind.

Right here on 32nd and center street, y'all.

Shots out to Alderman Russell Stamper.

Believe this up.

I could physically tell you.

Russ was skeptical.

And he's he gay.

He's like nitty.

This got to be right.

This has to be right.

Y'all know how rusty this got to be right for the community.

And he get to talking about the community, but it's all about the community if the community don't like it nitty we can't do it This is his words to me This one know just I you is who you is and I'm a ride with you like no But the dreams I put on hold for it right I was a part of

Shots out to Russet again and all the women cogs.

The arch program.

We talked about it on here, taking city-owned houses.

I saw a need where young creatives, not even young, just creatives in general, didn't have enough spaces or opportunities where we could sell, create, shop, build, but we had what?

A surplus of city-owned abandoned houses.

It was two needs happening at the same time.

The city needed.

To get rid of these dilapidated homes and they needed to get them back on the tax roll so we can make some money.

Let's be honest, right?

But we also saw a need for creatives needing a place.

So Russ and Cox helped start the arts program where they took city owned properties and turned it in.

To creative spaces.

I was supposed to be working On my own arch program that I advocated for it and I put it to side Remember yesterday we talked about you got to be prepared for the blessings that you ask for Are you prepared to receive it?

So imagine how I feel I don't convince two orders to create an amazing program that

Few folks have taken advantage of and are doing very well shots out to the arch program houses that are going on in the city of Milwaukee right now I truly believe that program needs way more funding than it gets and That's why I said when I was running for fourth district order the money that that salary was going to pay I was gonna put it back into the arch program I Wasn't gonna accept the salary

Well, not all of it.

Let me not sit up here and tell y'all no lie.

I was going to take some of it now.

Still had to get to work downtown and things like that.

But majority of it was going to go back in to the arch program.

That was a dream.

I ended up running because of the situation where I felt like nobody was paying attention to the environmental injustice that our black and brown communities was going through.

I had to go against the team.

I had to go against the dream.

I had to get in a whole different uncomfortable situation just to make people aware.

You gotta continue the dream.

So now I'm back on the dream.

You gotta find your motivation.

You gotta one day at a time, 10 pushups at a time, then you go to 20, then you go to 30.

It was something that.

Let the fire back in me.

I was on 32nd and locus head into the building.

So it had to be maybe two weeks ago.

Two weeks ago.

Maybe three, but I feel like it was about to.

And a young kid couldn't be no older than.

Nine couldn't be no older than nine, maybe eight.

See this young kid get hit off his bike.

In the neighborhood, I just walked in and I know I knocked on all them doors.

And this dream, this vision of having this community that was going to transform, I felt like I was literally.

Seeing the opposite.

When I saw and we was sitting there aiding that young boy seeing him seeing the blood Then the family we had to run down the block to go knock on doors to figure out who kid this is that just got hit I'm knocking on Miss Marjani door because she always she knows everything in the neighborhood.

She feeds the neighborhood She sets clothes and furniture out for free That was a dream

Elevate the Miss Marjani's in the neighborhood.

Elevate the lady on 30.

What street is that?

33rd.

That has the garden over there.

That was a dream.

How long are you willing to hold on to it?

How long are you willing to hold on to it?

And then I had to understand that sometimes dreams change, right?

But then I realized my dream It was never about the building The building was just a conduit To energize people I always said it's easy It is extremely easy to redevelop

buildings.

But the real work is, how do we redevelop families, people, children?

How?

That's what the real dream was.

And if anybody know me, you can get Michael Q. I know we ain't chopped it up in a while, Q, but my position never changed.

Always said.

We can redevelop buildings easy, but how are we going to redevelop the people?

So I realize.

I let the hiccup of the building.

Determine deter me from staying focused on a dream for the community.

The building is just a piece, one piece.

I started thinking about the building more.

You feel me?

I started thinking about, oh, TCE, the people, the community.

When you going to light that fire back?

When you going to stop being comfortable?

When are you going to stop being complacent?

When?

It's nothing wrong with slowing down and catching your breath.

But when we going to get back focus?

I see a lot of complaining, a lot of complaining about politicians.

A lot.

I complain about politicians, too.