Rebuilding the Community Village

Just kick a little something with them cars that be bumping.

Yeah, but we need a beat that they can front to.

Oh, have a word.

Be funky.

You know what I'm saying?

Cars, ride, drive, we, we missin' them.

Cars, ride, drive, we.

Cars, ride, drive, we, we missin' them.

Funky.

Cars, ride, drive, we.

All the cars out there and all the brothers.

Cars, ride, drive, we.

I like the front and they ride.

You know it's funky, funky, funky, cause you heard it from hissy.

A jam that you love that don't be getting no airplay.

Strictly, for frontin' when you're ridin' around.

12 o'clock at night, put your windows down.

Headlights breakin' cause your batteries drain.

Armor roll on your tires and a big gold chain.

Parkin' outside all the hip-hop spots.

Push the EQ and play connect the dots.

Leanin' to the side, people everywhere.

The trunk fuller empty, no room for spare.

1017

and truth you are officially tapped into the award winner 1017 the truth happy Friday Milwaukee Happy Friday.

Listen, we made it.

It's been a long week.

It's been a lot of happening But we made it.

I hope that you all are having an amazing Amazing day thus far We got a great show today the first hour.

We are talking community purpose and protecting your peace

Want to shout out send highlights some community events that is taking place in the month of September These events will have numerous of resources for the community Held by some amazing people in the community and at the five o'clock hour.

I got my good sister Kenda stopping by it is ladies edition here man.

Listen Wish I had some wine.

I can use the glass right now boy.

I tell you

Because we're going to have a good conversation.

We are talking about motherhood, sisterhood, as well as relationships.

But first, I want to start with building the community.

How do we build better communities, relationships, families and friendships without allowing other people's behavior, opinions and agendas to steal our peace?

It is Friday, September 11th.

And I want to start today show a little differently before we talk about what's happening in Milwaukee before we get into the community before we talk about our relationships dating sisterhood all of the above I want to get back to announce in my daily affirmations.

So my daily affirmation today is I won't fall for anything sent to disrupt my peace I won't fall for anything sent to disrupt my peace everything that comes across

My phone again, we talked about this earlier in the week does not require a response.

Every time somebody says something does not require me to be defensive.

Every invitation to an argument does not require me to RSVP, right?

And every person who is uncomfortable with my growth does not deserve a front row seat to my next chapter.

So.

Sometimes protecting your peace means saying something sometimes it means walking away sometimes it means setting a boundary and sometimes is having difficult conversations Sometimes it's not responding at all.

You know, I've learned that sometimes people don't want a resolution.

They just want a reaction Especially if they are used to you reacting a certain way They become very antagonistic They become a tag in this dick

Because they want to prove to whoever they lied to about you that you are indeed the person they painted you to be and you cannot allow them to do that so I've made the decision quite for quite some time that I won't take the bait right I won't take the bait.

I Don't know if people are doing it intentionally or they're doing it because they're intimidated, but I've been dealing with some things

And I'm very, very proud of myself.

My responses are completely different from what they used to be, and they should because I am older.

But one of the things that I've learned the past couple of weeks is that, coincides with what my brother, Ray Nitty, was talking about before he got off, change is uncomfortable to some people.

And whether it's good or bad.

And with that, when you are a person who genuinely loves the work that you do or the things that you do,

and other people have their own agenda, or they become intimidated, then they begin to become antagonistic because you are causing a disruption in whatever their agenda is, or you are bothering their spirit.

And it absolutely has nothing to do with you.

But again, it goes back to how you choose to respond.

And your response will ultimately determine where that situation goes.

I'm not allowing somebody else lack of peace to become my lack of peace, right?

That's it.

I'm not allowing it.

So with that being said, whatever your daily affirmation is, I hope that you continue to practice it and hold me accountable.

So if you are seeing me somewhere or you're online and you see jazz, hold on.

Don't respond.

Don't do this.

Don't do that.

Hold me accountable, too, because I am every day learning how to become a better human being.

and to make sure that I protect my peace by any means.

So because we are talking about community, we are talking about building relationships, sisterhood and parenting, and we are talking about what happens when you are trying to build something positive and everybody around you isn't.

building with you.

I want to start with some positive events that is taking place in the city of Milwaukee and I want to highlight some amazing people who have been doing the work, not just because they are doing the work, but because there are so many different people who need these resources.

We are in a time of, in a society where we are not teaching our youth or society isn't teaching our youth what the village looks like, what the community looks like.

And a lot of people who are hosting certain events are doing it because they are attempting to rebuild that community.

Yesterday, shout out to Uncle Vic, Vic Barnett at the Running Rebels.

He sent me a text like, hey, it's two families that just showed up to this open house today because you mentioned it on the radio.

And I don't care if it was just one family, right?

I want people to have the resources.

I'm not a gatekeeper, never have been.

I want people to get whatever it is that they need.

And a lot of times, you know, people feel left out like, dang, I didn't know about this or I didn't know about that.

So I want to make sure I utilize this platform to not only talk about things that people need as far as, you know, the deep conversations we have, but also resources.

Shout out to the chat.

Hey, Kewanda.

She says, Jazz, my love, we love you.

I love you too.

I love you dearly.

Tell your moms I say hello.

I'm continuously praying for y'all.

I pray that you all are, you know, in a better space today.

I know you got to take it one day at a time.

Kawanda, if you still listen, send me a daily affirmation.

I want to know what your daily affirmation is today.

So last week, y'all know we had the Unity March.

It was an amazing, amazing event.

There were a lot of different people who are advocates in the community who were there.

And I got a chance to see people I haven't seen in a long time.

We got a chance to put some things together, to communicate, plan for the future.

And that's what it's about.

That's what it's about.

So when we come back from break at in a couple of minutes here, I'm going to run down.

A few events that is happening.

You got some happening throughout the entire month of September.

And when I mentioned these events in the event, you do not have a way to write down the information or put it in your phone.

You can always go to my Facebook page, Jasmine Tyler, J-A-S-M-I-N-E-T-Y-L-E-R.

I have the flyers posted on there.

You can also follow me on Instagram at the jazzy effect.

That's T-H-E.

J-A-Z-Z-I-E-E-F-F-E-C-T.

And most importantly, you can give me a call or text 833-212-1017.

If you have an event that is for the community, for the people that is happening this month and you want to put it out, please give me a call.

Please hit the chat.

Please text that number as well so that we can get some people to show up to your event.

I also want to send condolences to the young man, Printon Smith, who was assassinated by the Milwaukee Police Department.

There was some things online, and I touched on this a little bit because I didn't know the full story.

But there were some things online from his family as well as Von that mentioned that he indeed did not have a weapon.

He indeed did not have a weapon and that there were only two shots fired and he was the person who got shot twice.

So it sounds like That situation is going to end up being another situation similar to an officer involved shooting with a citizen of Milwaukee, which is unfortunate So we have to wait for the body cams to come out so we can see the real footage and

hold that officer accountable.

So I want to send condolences to his family.

I believe his family works for either 401 for a life or the CI, meaning like the program, the city of Milwaukee program.

Huge shout out to them and everybody who is constantly boots on the ground.

Shout out to my brother, Vom.

And he he'd be putting in work.

Vom be tired, man.

He'd be putting in work.

He'd be out here doing his thing.

And man, that brother there.

I'm telling you I know he be tired because I'll be tired and I don't do half of the things That he do but again today is about community today is about building today is about sisterhood motherhood and relationships So if you have an event or if you know someone who is throwing an event even if it's not a community event if you have Some type of business that is beneficial to the community.

Please give us a call a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7 hit the chat

Hit the text hit me up on social media Let me know what it is plug yourself so that we can get the resources to the people It is time that us the people start meeting the people where they are as you can see throughout this entire world and country Specifically as well Milwaukee There's a lot that we all are dealing with and we cannot do it alone.

We cannot do it by ourselves

We have to, you know, lean on each other.

It's getting a little rough out here.

It's been rough, always been rough with black people, but it's getting rougher, man, for real.

Got to step up to the plate, provide a shoulder, be a crutch for somebody that you love.

Kawana said, I picked up up ashes yesterday and all I heard him say as I got back to the car was, damn, y'all sent sis to get me and Wanda, you still can't try.

That is hilarious because I can hear his voice saying that water Kawada.

That's hilarious I'm glad that you able to laugh now for real We got to go to break when we come back.

We are going to run down Some community events that's happening in the month of September give us a call a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7 or hit the chat to let us know what you got going on as well Do not touch that down.

We got to go to break brother Z 1 on 1 point 7 the truth

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Happy Friday Milwaukee.

Listen, it's been a very long week.

I am excited to have a weekend where I think I don't got to do nothing.

I don't know.

I hope I don't, don't got to do nothing.

Cause baby if I do, I know the only thing I got to do is go to church someday.

But if I made plans with anybody,

I apologize in advance, because I promise you, I am tired.

T.T.

Tired.

Cousin.

Jazz.

Tired.

I'm tired.

So listen, we got some community events that's happening this week.

as well as throughout the entire month of September.

And I wanted to highlight these specifically because a lot of our people who are doing these events, yes, they have promotion, yes, they have an inner circle, but a lot of times their events never get covered.

And there is people who actually need these resources.

And I'm finding that the more we talk about these things, the more that the resources are spread out and people become more aware.

So I want to first start with Mama Farina.

Mama Farina, so Farina Brooks is a 68 year old Milwaukee born and raised her husband James is 69 and for 36 years they lived in the same home on West Center Street never missing a single payment.

of rent they collected social security and both still work and today Farina and James are bouncing.

I'm sorry.

This is not today, but she has been in a situation where they were bouncing in between motels because they were displaced and Mama Farina still managed to come out and do the things that she do for the community.

She still manages to show up for the people.

This is an article that Tom Jens posted in Shepherd Express.

Shout out to Tom Jens.

I just did an interview with him last week and my article will be posted next Monday So you guys will be able to go on shepherd express calm and take a look at that but Mama Farina man.

She's been in the community for a very very very long time Again, she always puts herself first

And she is having an event tomorrow, September 12th.

It's Mama Farina's Rock the Block concert happening from 1 to 5 p.m.

at the corner of 35th and center.

And I want to encourage people to get outside, right?

Sometimes we talk about...

Rebuilding Milwaukee like is some type of giant political or economic conversation But the reality is it starts with the community, right?

It starts with people showing up.

It starts with people supporting It starts with neighbors stepping outside getting to know each other.

It starts with children seeing adults Move a certain way and mimicking that type of behavior, right?

It starts with supporting your people so

Tomorrow from 1 p.m.

To 5 p.m.

On the corner of 35th and center make sure y'all pull up to rock the block bring your kids Bring your family bring somebody who needs the resources They will be there again from 1 p.m.

To 5 p.m.

On the corner of 35th and center So they'll have some food resource vendors a bounce house video game bus

I don't know if you guys ever been on one, but it's pretty cool.

Free haircuts, free braiding for the young ladies.

They'll have some face painting, the nail and spa bus, a shoe giveaway.

They'll have some household items as well as grocery and book bag giveaway.

And this is sponsored by Arterman Stamper.

Shout out to Russ, DJ Sid Money, Embassy Centers, me.

Deandre Jackson who is the orderman of the seven district as well as shoulder They'll have some performances by caught to purpose They'll have a Michael Jackson dance contest for the children.

There will be a cash prize for the winner

in a regular dance contest for all the youth and teams with the cash prize for the winner as well.

So again, make sure y'all pull up on Mama Farina tomorrow from 1 p.m.

to 5 p.m.

on the corner of 35th and Center.

She has some amazing resources, and this is something that she does yearly, right?

And if you don't know Mama Farina, I want to be the first to witness that this is one of the sweetest elders that we have in the community.

This is somebody who constantly puts herself last.

Her son James Brooks.

He is another person, man.

They show up.

They show up for the people.

They show up for the people in more ways than we know.

And I simply just want to make sure that we show up for them.

So please pull up again.

It's free.

It doesn't cost you anything to go and support.

Also women's empowerment weekend.

So.

Ladies this weekend is also the annual women's empowerment weekend happening in September 11th through September 13th at the Mason Temple 60 98 North 35th Street And I love the timing because we are going to spend the second and third hour talking about women But empowerment is more than a word that we put on a t-shirt

Right empowerment is about responsibility.

It's about knowing who you are knowing what you will tolerate shout out to Michelle Pitts So I've seen this on her social media platform Michelle Pitts will Michelle Pitts luck it will be there as well as Lady Yolanda Tatum and Pastor Pamela Hines They will be at the annual women's empowerment weekend

at the Mason Temple, Kojic 6098, North 35th Street, September 11th through September 13th.

And there is, if you go on Michelle Pitts page, she or my page, there's a flyer where you can scan that QR code and you'll be able to purchase the tickets there.

I love women empowerment events.

I actually, I really do.

It's funny because again, later on being

Kind of my homegirl kinda is joining me for ladies edition today and one of the things we are going to talk about is the mean girls The girls who act like they are girly girls, but they are really the mean girls.

We're gonna get into that for a little bit later But again, make sure you pop out to the annual women's empowerment weekend at the mason temple 6098 north 35th street That's all about growth.

That's all about leaning on one another as well Listen

Shout out to Michelle Pitt.

She's another person who does a lot in the community.

Whether you see her or not, she is just not the lady that owns Pitt's.

She does way more than that.

She has contributed and supported our locking program as well as Comfort and various other things.

So I got to give a huge, huge shout out to Michelle Pitt's.

We have a caller on the line.

Kingston, are you there?

Hello.

Hi, Kingston.

Hey.

How you

doing?

I'm doing well.

I'm

doing good.

I just got home.

You just got home?

Kingston is one of my students at Howard, Dr. Howard Fuller Collegiate Academy.

Kingston has its own business.

I want you to tell the people what you're doing, how they can follow you.

Kingston, don't be shy.

Give them some details.

Kingston, you there?

Yeah, I can't

even

know.

OK.

I'm a 17 year old, I'm a senior.

I go to Howard Fuller.

And I'm an entrepreneur and me and my brother provide a multitude of services such as car detailing, lawn care, garbage can sanitation, a driveway slash sidewalk washes with the pressure washer.

I also do garage cleaning and trash removal.

So I can do all of that for

you.

And I'm telling you.

I'm a

mobile detailer.

I'm a mobile detailer.

I can come to you.

His work is impeccable.

His work is impeccable.

He has pictures on his social media Kingston.

Can you tell the people again how old you are in the services that you provide one more time?

Can you tell the people how you are again in the services you provide?

I'm 17 years old and I provide part detailing lawn care garbage can sanitation

and driveways by sidewalk washes.

And I also do garage cleaning and trash removal from your house.

How did you get started in this business, Kingston?

It was my friend.

I had met him at Marshall and we ended up being cool in the classroom.

And we were from doing different things and they got me into doing like lawn care and stuff out of the box for me.

And this is a LLC, right?

We got everything on.

Right.

So, so this young man has his own business.

How can people reach out and follow you as well to obtain your services?

And that's

on Instagram, right?

Absolutely.

Make sure we go

ahead.

I'm sorry.

Go ahead, Kingston.

I got a number two, four, four, four, three, six, three, one, three.

Thank

you so much, Kingston.

Thank you for calling in and promoting yourself.

Man, I love to hear that.

I love to hear it.

I love to hear that our young people have their own businesses.

So again, I'm not saying this to be biased because he is my student, but Kingston does a great job.

Like I'm serious.

He has pictures and proof on his social media.

He could be out here doing tons of other things, but instead he's out here

making sure that he is doing something with his life.

He has an actual LLC, an actual business.

So shout out to Kingston, shout out to all of the youth who are entrepreneurs.

And if you are a youth entrepreneur, please give us a call at 833-212-1017 and let us know what it is that you do.

I also want to read...

a message from my good sister, Kawanda, pertaining to the passing of her brother, Bub.

I love Bub dearly.

He was someone who was close and dear to my heart.

Very, very, very hilarious, a very hilarious being.

She says that sending you your flowers now, affirmation for you, Queen, I am still standing.

You have overcome barriers you once thought you would never recover from, and yet you are still standing, still growing, still becoming everything God created you to be.

Never forget how strong you are.

The road may not have not been easy, and there may have been moments when you didn't know how you were going to make it through, but you did.

And the strength is something nobody can take away from you.

You know, you have known my brother on a personal level, and you have known our family for two decades, and you have shared pieces of this journey with us.

That means more than you probably realize.

As you continue to walk through your own journey, I pray you remember this.

You are not defined by what tried to break you.

You are defined by the fact that you kept going.

The Duke family loves you, appreciates you, and will forever have love for you.

Keep standing, keep believing, keep healing, keep becoming.

You made it through what you thought you couldn't, and there is still so much life ahead of you.

Forever love, the Dukes family.

Kamana, you about to have me crying on a radio.

When I seen that, I thought you were sending me your daily affirmations.

Listen, first and foremost, I thank you for that, especially because today is about sisterhood and it is about building.

I love you Wanda you've known me since I was in middle school right you've watched me grow up And I and I hate that all of y'all got to go through this pain But thank you for pouring into me at a time where you really need people to pour into you That just show shows the world who you truly are and I love you for that I love y'all and I miss y'all and I can't wait to see y'all I cannot

Send me his she says send me his information so I can get him some clientele from family back home We have to help them get to where they are trying to go.

Absolutely.

I'm going to send you can Kingston Instagram page as well as his number so that you can assist with you know Helping him obtain some business, but again Thank you for that.

I needed that today and I want to pour into you and tell you that the same thing I echo the same sentiments

Um, as women, especially black women, right?

And me and Kawana had a back and forth, but she family.

We've had a back and forth before.

We've, you know, have some conversations, but that's what family do.

And at the end of the day, it's about making it through.

It's about having those uncomfortable conversations so that you can get to where you need to be.

Um, and, and yeah, she is older to me.

That's my big sister for real.

But I love you and I appreciate our sisterhood and I truly truly hope that everything that we've built That I can take that and build it continue to build it with the young ladies who are under me as well She says my daily affirmation is to encourage another sister especially a sister of mine's come on now.

Let's go.

Let's go

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It's about community.

It's about the people.

It's about sisterhood.

At five o'clock, I got my home girl, Kendall, joining us.

We are going to talk motherhood relationships and sisterhood.

Earlier I was mentioning some events that we have but again, I want to before we want to break my good sister Kawanda She lost her brother recently a couple of weeks ago, but rest in peace above and it has it was unexpected and it's been quite a journey and she still found a way to Pour into me even though she's the one who needs the porn right now, and I love you so much Kawanda I'm so glad that you sent me that message because I needed it today more than you know

And I encourage others to, you know, call and shout out your sister, man, your best friend, your cousin, whoever it is, just shout out a black woman today that's doing an amazing job.

This world is not only cruel to black men, but it's cruel to us black women as well.

And we need it.

We need the uplifting.

We need shoulders to lean on.

We need the encouragement.

We need all of the above.

So we were talking about some community events that's taking place.

In the month of September because we I am all about and I know that the listeners you guys are all about Rebuilding the village as well as the community There's an event that's happening tomorrow.

Mama Farinas Rock the block concert is happening 1 or 5 p.m.

On the corner of 35th and center Then Michelle pit shout out to Michelle pits

September 11th through so today until Sunday they are having the annual Women's Empowerment Weekend happening at the Mason Temple 6098 North 35th Street and then there is next Saturday September 19th my good brother Brian Von Mays and myself we are open having an open house for life community collective so life community collective is pretty much

The umbrella for the We Locked In program that we have, Von was blessed with a building on Martin Luther King Drive.

And in that building, we are going to build some trades for the youth.

So we'll have barber and cosmetology.

We'll have robotics and partnership with MSOE.

We'll also have an entertainment space.

We'll have carpentry.

We'll have mental health and wellness.

And we'll be hosting the locking programs there as well.

You can also...

rent the space and utilize it for events if you would like.

Probably going to put some free karate classes in there.

Shout out to Sensei Judge Charles Warren.

He was my father's first karate teacher back in the day, back in the 70s and 80s.

I believe his karate shot was over there off of Akison, if I'm not mistaken, but I want to do some work with him as well.

So next Saturday, September 19th,

Come to the Life Community Collective Open House from 1pm to 3pm, 2628 North Martin Luther King Drive.

The goal is to get the community involved.

We still need help with people helping us paint the building.

We need, you know, a lot of the chairs for the cosmetology and barber.

We need supplies.

We need furniture.

We need all of that.

So the goal of this open house is to bring the community in, make it a community investment.

The programming will be free.

So we are just looking to again build something.

We'll also have.

a food pantry.

Mama Farina, she's going to be running the food pantry.

So this particular space used to be, I cannot remember what school, but I do know a few years ago, it was a second location of Claire Muhammad is right next to the post office.

But back in the day, it was a church and it was a place where, and it was a school, it was a place where a lot of people in the community could pull up and eat free meals and things like that.

So we want to make sure that we bring that back to Brownsville, back to.

That area and pull the youth specifically in that area into what it is that we have going on Then you have September 26 intention dads showing up father or in family day So that is happening at 10 a.m.

At the Milwaukee County Zoo on 1001 West Blue Mountain Road again These events that's taking place are not just about

highlighting the people who are doing it is because there are people in the community who actually need the resources, right?

They actually need the resources.

So this is happening again, September 26th at the Milwaukee County Zoo, intentional dads showing up.

You can register today at what'snext414.com.

Registration closes tomorrow.

So this is something that Mentor Greater Milwaukee is doing.

If I'm not mistaken, Unity MKE, which is, I believe, with the Renner Rebels, the city of Milwaukee, African-American Affairs, Goodrich Serenity.

Listen.

Black men, intentional dads, father walking family, they show up, man, show up.

Let's show our young men what it looks like.

Let's show them what it feels like.

Let's show the world what it looks like when you see black families coming together.

So the purpose of me mentioning all of these events is because the more work I do in the community, the more I realize that there is people.

There are advocates who are really outside.

We are trying to rebuild this village that we have, that we used to have.

We are trying to rebuild the village.

But the thing is, I'm not sure if everybody wants the village to be rebuilt, right?

And the reason why I say that is because it comes with responsibility, right?

You can't say you want a village and then refuse to participate in one.

You can't say you want people to help your children while never helping someone else's child.

You can't say you want community support while criticizing every person who is trying to build something.

You can't say you want change while refusing to change yourself, right?

A village is not Amazon Prime.

You don't just place an order and expect somebody to deliver it right in front of you, right to your door.

It comes with compromise and communication.

It comes with self-accountability.

We have gotten into a place in society where

A lot of parents don't like other parents or other adults checking their child.

Now I will say this because I've seen this so many times as an educator.

There is a difference between an adult checking a child because they were wrong in a respectful way and an adult disrespecting a child, talking to them as if they are an adult.

Those are two different things.

I am referring to the first one.

I am referring to the time where an adult can go up to a child who was misbehaving or doing something and explain to them why they need not to without having to worry about the family or the mother or father acting a damn fool.

That's the type of village I am referring to.

That is the village that I grew up in.

I grew up in the community in a village where I was scared to cuss to do certain things around the adults.

And that you better believe if it was something that I was doing wrong, they were going to check me and then go and tell my mom or tell my answer to somebody, right?

That is the type of village that we need.

So that means that the adults, we have to hold them responsible as well.

We have to hold ourselves responsible.

If we are really going to rebuild this village, everybody has to be included.

Not only when it's beneficial for you, right?

That goes back to what I said a couple of weeks ago as well.

Don't wait until it's your child or your loved one before that something happens to them before you begin to become active inside of the community, right?

Don't just show up to these community events and take, ask them, how can you volunteer?

How can you get involved, right?

Pull up on some of these events purposely so that you can network to figure out a way to volunteer.

Matter of fact, when was the last time you actually volunteered to do anything?

And I get it.

Trust me.

I work two jobs.

I work two jobs and I raise my children, but I still find a way to make sure that I am given back or volunteering in some capacity to my people.

Right?

So do something different when you go to any of these community events that we have, ask them what they need assistance with.

Ask them if they need assistance with, you know, setting up, right?

I was an event planner for many years.

And one of the things that is challenging is finding bodies who are willing to help, right?

And a lot of times we don't have the budget to pay, but we can get you some gift cards, we can get you some food, some resources, whatever the case may be.

But the people who are actually putting on these events and going to find the funding to make sure they have the resources to give out for free, that is hard work.

And it's even better when you have the community and the village who are willing to assist you through that.

We have to go to break coming up at the five o'clock hour.

It's ladies edition.

I got my home girl, Kendra, stopping through.

We are talking about mean girls.

Y'all know what I'm talking about?

The ladies who act like they support women, but they are really the mean girls.

We're talking about motherhood and relationships.

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She is your girl, Jazz Tyler.

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And today we are talking about community.

We are talking about sisterhood, motherhood, as well as relationships.

My home girl, Kenda is on the way for a ladies edition.

I want to give a shout out to my mother.

And this is coming from a shout out that Kiwana just sent me that I am going to read as well But if you have a black woman in your life that you want to uplift, please give us a call 833-212-1017 We need love too man.

We do and we are the mothers the doctors the therapists the Everything right and we carry so much on our shoulders and it's not to say that we aren't appreciated or that we don't know we are appreciated

But I do believe that black women need to start showing more affection and appreciation to other black women.

So that's not to say that men can't call but women.

specifically black woman I want to hear from you today a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7 if you want a text call hit me up in the chat if you want to hit me up on social media shout out an important black woman in your life right shout out anyone can call but I really want to hear from my sister today I want to give a shout out to my mom

Right, we had a rocky relationship when I was younger because I didn't understand a lot of things But as an adult I realized that my mom did the best that she could She did it by herself.

My mama og for real for real like I got three kids.

She had four with no help from nobody.

I have help I don't even know how she got it done But she did right and she continues to show up and she continues to get it done So I want to shout out my mother man Bernadette

Y'all may know her.

She was the coldest bartender back in the day at 70s ARJs manning vits.

She was that girl.

Yes, indeed.

I love you, my shawanda kawanda.

I'm sorry.

I got another text from shawanda.

I'll read after this book.

Wanda said.

A shout out to the real VIP, the original Ma Dukes.

Today I want to honor my mama, not just because she is our mother, but because she is a mother who is having to learn how to navigate a life she never imagined having to live, a life without her baby boy physically here with her or living under the same roof.

There is no manual for losing your child.

There is no right way to wake up, breathe, smile, or keep moving when a piece of your heart is no longer here in the physical.

But if you know our mama, then you know she is something special.

God gives mama strength and somehow she turns around and pours that strength into all of her children.

Even while her own heart is hurting, she continues to love, encourage, pray, and hold us together.

She is grieving.

She is adjusting.

She is learning this new version of life one day at a time, and she doesn't have to pretend to be okay every day.

She deserves grace, patience, love, and the freedom to grieve her baby in whatever way her heart needs.

Mama, please know that you don't have to carry this alone.

Your children are here.

Your family is here.

And the love you poured into us is coming right back around to you.

You are the real VIP.

the original Ma Dukes.

Listen.

Kawanda, you're really trying to have me in my feelings, man.

I felt that to its entirety, and I want to send my love to your mom as well as other mothers who have lost their child.

That is something that I couldn't imagine, that heavy load.

And just for showing up, period, right?

A lot of times,

Like, we go through things with our parents as teenagers because we think that they never been through anything or that they don't know anything.

And by the time we become adults and have our own children, whether we do or not, we start to see things differently.

And one thing I will say is that you only get one mother, right?

You only get one mother.

You only get one life with that mother.

And if I had to do it all over again, I would want the same mother in each life.

While your mother is here, cherish her.

While your siblings are here, cherish them.

While your family is here, cherish them.

Find time this weekend to spend time with people that you haven't had a chance to, right?

So one of the things I've been working on is building this sisterhood, not just with myself, but with my students, with their mothers, with, you know, my bonus mom.

Shout out to Dee Dee.

She is the mother of my high school sweetheart who was murdered over a decade ago.

She shows up for me in ways shout out to miss Aziza Islam shout out to miss area cobwebs shout out to miss Pamela Bolton to miss seafiz These are black women who were my teachers in elementary middle and high school growing up and shout out to miss Jacqueline These are women who paved the way for me and who showed up for me in ways that I couldn't imagine and didn't even realize until I became an adult Shout out to my best friend Shanika and Sharika

Man listen those are my sisters for life and no matter what we go through There always be my sisters, and I'm glad to have them a part of my life shout out to my sister my blood sister Katrina Johnson

That is my dad's second oldest daughter.

She is my second mama.

She is my best friend.

She is my accountability partner.

She is somebody who has been through so many different things in her life and she continues to show up for me.

So because I have some amazing black women in my life, I choose to take that and give it back to the young ladies that I teach, right?

I take that and try to give it back to their parents.

And I take that and I try to give it back to my circle because we all need it.

We need it, right?

We have enough of the secret competition behavior when it comes to black women in particular.

We have enough of the envy over somebody dealing with your ex and you don't even know this woman, right?

There's a lot of issues that us women, especially black women face.

In society and we don't support each other enough We don't you know, we become and this is honest truth, you know, we become very very Clickish, you know very caddy very emotional very intimidated and as soon as those insecurities start to kick in

Sometimes it causes you to lose out on potential relationships that could be meaningful in your life because you are stuck in your ways or you are dealing with something inside of you that has nothing to do with anyone else.

And another reason why I'm speaking about this is because we all know that black women are the head of the community, right?

Yes, we have amazing black.

men in the community, but the Black women, we most definitely make the community and the world go round.

And we have to start setting examples for our people, for the baby, so that we can begin to rebuild this village, rebuild this community, and be what it is that we were supposed to be.

We all know the saying, it takes a village to raise a child.

We all know that we cannot do it.

Alone, right?

We all are dealing with things that we don't want to.

Sometimes the burden is heavy, but that's why a lot of times I talk about self work and self accountability because the things that we are battling not just in the flesh, but spiritually is sent to destroy us as human beings is sent to destroy the generation under us.

And we have to do a better job at trying to be a better human being so that we can be there for each other, man.

That's what it's about.

That is what it's about.

I am a girl's girl.

I used to didn't be growing up.

I was a tomboy.

I played basketball, played football, cans, all the ghetto Olympics.

And I always hung around boys because.

A, I just wanted to beat them in every sport that they did.

I really did.

And B, because growing up, I didn't really have a lot of young ladies who, you know, they just they wanted to fight.

They always wanted to fight.

I never really got close to any except for a couple of them.

Didi, Shanika and Sharika.

And those relationships showed me and still to this day, showed me that it's OK to embrace.

Another woman it's okay to build sisterhood.

It's okay.

A lot of people say no new friends I don't say that right and my apprehensive a little bit Absolutely, but I am completely okay with gaining new friends Black women are dope to me.

We are amazing beings Women in general we are amazing beings right and I want to make sure that we begin to lift each other up a little bit more so

Every month we are going to do the ladies edition where I bring my homegirl, Kinda, and sometimes occasionally we'll have other women who I am friends with where we can have real in-depth conversations, right?

We can begin to talk about relationships in motherhood and sisterhood.

And we do it purposely so that people can not only have an insight to how we feel and how we think in the conversations we have in private, but because we want to show the world what it looks like to have a healthy conversation and a healthy relationship between black women.

I don't always agree with my friends.

They don't always agree with me, right?

I don't have yes man friends.

If I feel away or they feel away, we tell each other.

Right.

And if we, one of us is in our feelings, then hey, she'll be all right tomorrow.

Right.

We don't agree on everything.

But at the end of the day, that is still my sister.

That is still my support system.

That is still somebody that I don't have to be in secret competition with or feel a way about a, because it's enough for everybody to go around and be because I know that they have my best interest.

I think a lot of times the reason why black women don't know how to get along is because they don't check their insecurities at the door.

They become too intimidated.

It's weird how some women will befriend you just to steal your style, steal your personality because they insecure and want to do what you do and then turn around and unfriend you and take whatever they learn from you and run with it instead of working with you.

Right.

It's a lot of weird behavior like that.

And it's no judgment.

It's just simply saying a lot of us grew up in an environment where, um, you know, that was the case.

It started with your cousin.

It started at home with a family member and, um, it becomes toxic.

It becomes a situation where, uh, you know, you just begin not to trust women.

So once a month, we're going to have the ladies edition and who.

I might even do the men's edition as well.

I've been meaning to get my homeboys I'm not talking about people that I've had dealings with I don't do the fake brosus thing, but my real homeboys I'm thinking about doing a men's edition to get them on here as well So coming up at the five o'clock hour.

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What's up, Truth Nation?

It's your girl, Jazz Toddler.

Got my home girl, Kendah, in a building with me.

Yes, indeed.

So we are having a conversation about sisterhood, motherhood relationships.

Before we went to break, we were talking about non-negotiables, right, in serial dating.

I want to get into a new topic The chat city five four two one say a whole segment of women who've been damaged by dating too early and opening themselves up to the wrong man, um Right First and foremost Who said as I recall you're in a five-year relationship, right?

And I've been and I've been married before so I'm not sure if he's bitter

or if where the miss communication come in at.

But the whole segment, the purpose of the segment is because this is ladies edition.

So if you aren't a lady or you don't want to hear ladies talking, then maybe you should find something else to pay attention to.

So with that being said, the next topic in conversation is, is it OK to date your friend?

And I'm not talking about the fake like.

You know, the fake bro sister thing.

Yeah.

But like a real friend, like someone who has been a friend for many years or someone who was just, you never flirted, you never dated, you never had a liking for them or nothing.

And then all of a sudden they confess their love for you.

Like, man, I've been, I tried, I've been.

Yeah.

And now you looking like, hold on, bro, or hold on.

What is, you know what I'm saying?

Where he's

coming from?

What do you think about

that?

Do you think that's healthy?

I think it can be, it can be healthy, but it also can be, it can throw you off for sure, you know?

Because now you gotta choose,

you know, I

gotta choose if I'm gonna stay friends with you or if I'm gonna take it to the, to this next level

and

then we could potentially lose everything.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

And do we want to take that risk of losing everything when I still love you as a friend?

Yeah.

You know, I love his love.

It is.

So

let's

just let's just figure that out.

I think

it's

difficult.

Yeah, I think it's difficult to your point what you mentioned, but also because

Oftentimes we say you want to date your friend meaning like you want to be in a relationship with your friend Yeah, you want your man to be your best friend to have that friendship Yeah, and on the outside looking in stepping back.

It's like, okay if we're friends already then we

No, I already know the things about you.

Like you said this to me before, I know the things about you already.

I don't have to meet the representative.

I don't have to try and date you to understand that part, right?

I know who you are as a friend, but I don't know who you are as a man, intimately.

Yeah,

romantically.

That part.

Yeah.

So it's, and to your point, I think that is difficult because it's like, in the ideal world, right?

If you date your friend and something doesn't go the way that it should and you break up, um, if you understand each other and you are truly friends, you'll remain friends to a certain degree.

Yeah.

Now long as you ain't hurt me.

Exactly.

I don't think that is healthy because I am a person who would choose my friendship first.

If I feel like the relationship could taint or diminish our friendship, I won't take that chance.

Are you not wrong?

I won't take that chance.

But I do find from pre-conversation, huh?

Well,

what do you think about this person just harboring that though?

Now they just telling you, but they've

been

harboring it, and they gonna keep harboring it.

That's the thing

that bothers me because I be trying to prove I have 10 brothers.

And the older brothers always be like, man, why are you trying to hear that?

That's joke, man.

Ain't no f-

Ain't no man, friends with no woman, and he don't find her attractive.

You know what I'm saying?

All my homegirls bad, but I talk to them.

They look good.

It's like, bro, I really have real male friends that I've never dealt with, even if you mention it, it makes me sick to my stomach.

I would never, ever talk to them, and they would never talk to me.

So if I was in a situation where it was a person who's like my real friend, and then you start confessing all your love, I'm gonna be like,

Not looking at you sideways, but it's awkward.

Yeah, it is because it's like, okay How many times we was kicking it how many times we was talking and these you know even having

thoughts, right?

So like it is is the representative gone like you know what I'm saying like Do I really

know you I don't know and then it makes you question like yeah, can you really be friends with the opposite sex?

You know what I'm saying?

Can you really be friends with the opposite sex without one person being attracted to the other person?

If you had all of these thoughts and things for so many years, it's hard to... That is hard.

That is

really tough.

That is hard.

That is very difficult.

At the same time, in the same breath,

I do believe that a healthy relationship comes from friendship first.

Me too.

And from building.

But not necessarily somebody you are already friends with.

Maybe somebody new and you become friends with them first and then you get into the relationship.

But dating someone you've been friends with.

It can be tricky.

It is.

It is.

And then now you got to answer all these like, I know it.

You told me about that shit show, Sissy.

You told me about that shit show, bro.

You're all bed messing around like, nah, we haven't.

It just happened.

You know what I'm saying?

But you have to go through all of that, all of the chaos of trying to explain that it never was like this and that it did just happen.

You know what I'm saying?

And stuff like that.

And to me, that's just too much.

What about that new rule?

I say new because I didn't hear about this as often before.

where they say, oh, if a man is telling you, or if there's a man that's been chasing you, or has been liking you for a long

time,

they say, avoid that person.

Run.

Run.

Run.

I agree.

What about this?

Run, sis.

Get out of there.

Run as fast as you can, because those are the worst ones.

Yeah, they want to humble you.

They want to humble you, and they want to prove a point.

And I've seen you say something about experience you.

Yes.

Yeah.

So a lot of people, right?

And this I think can go both ways.

But I think it happens more with women than men.

A lot of men create a fantasy about a woman that they secretly admire or want.

And they live in this fantasy, whether it's sexual, whether it's a relationship, whatever it is that they create.

It's almost like I don't want you, I just want to experience you.

I want to see what it's like, not just sex, but just you, right?

Like I just want to see what you're like.

I just want to, I don't want to commit to it though.

I'm intrigued by the fantasy that I've created inside of my own head about you, right?

And I think sometimes women

Mistake that someone want a man wanting wanting to experience them for them actually wanting to be with them or them being fully attracted to them It's like no since you're just a fantasy right your mysterious You are somebody that they're just you intrigue them.

Yeah,

and they want to know they're curious.

Yeah That's it and I can be bad for you.

Yeah, they're just curious.

Yeah, but a lot of times And and I won't be biased.

I'm not gonna say that

Someone who's been chasing you for a while are all, you know, they're not all bad.

No, because that's an old school love too.

Like I've heard old guys say, man, I wanted her for it.

I had to put work in, right?

And then me, it's like, well, yeah, prove it.

Show me that you want me.

So, but I think that ultimately a man who, the reason why I say that initially is because a man who chases after you for so long, but does absolutely nothing.

to try and keep you is not for you.

Well, I've experienced that.

Yeah.

Let me tell my story.

Come on now.

He was watching me on social media for years

and he

sent me this message and it caught my attention out of all the other things.

That's okay.

Well, you know, let's hang out.

We hung out.

We had a good time.

We became friends.

Yes.

And I decided to lock in with him.

He was locked in.

Yeah.

You know, but

It didn't work out.

It didn't work out because I stumbled across.

This was one day on accident.

And I wouldn't recommend going through phone draw, but I did.

It was open.

It was open.

I'm sorry.

But I'm not sorry because I found out what I needed to know.

He had been sending the same message that caught my attention to several other women.

I was just the one who responded.

I took the bait.

I took the

bait.

We off wash shirt.

So we are, we are far short.

There's a thing too that men do to your point.

They have group chats and they bet to see who can, you know, I've had men run, try and talk to me run the same storyline.

Like I'm slow, like I don't know that it's the same storyline.

You know what I'm saying?

And it's like, but again, to your point, I've been in a situation like that.

Where a person and say they'll chase you and chase you and chase you and then I have to think like why should I talk to you?

Because if you've been chasing and want me for so long you went and it's the difference now Let me explain there is one person.

I won't say his name, but there's one person who is so consistent But when his consistency in that conversation he talks about marriage.

Mm-hmm.

He taught he's very intentional.

He talks about a wife

a husband, you know what I'm saying?

It's not like I've been, I want to kick it with you or whatever the fantasy is.

But then you have other people like, man, I've been, I've been wanting you for years.

I've been da-da-da.

Ain't did nothing.

To even show.

To even show.

So why would I even give you the time or a day?

You

know what I'm saying?

Why would I give you the time of day?

We got to go to break when we come back.

We are going to finish this conversation.

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I got my girl, Kinda in the building.

It's ladies editions, man, listen.

We are having an amazing conversation about relationships.

We were talking about dating friends, all of those things.

Very interesting conversation, by the way.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Again, I am not opposed to building a friendship.

But I think the line gets tricky when it's dating someone you've been friends with and never had any relationship with.

Yeah.

Like I have to choose the friendship because if our friendship is true and genuine, I'm going to choose that.

I don't want to risk that over emotions.

Yeah.

You know?

Yeah.

Don't want to

do

it.

That's yeah.

I'm with you.

I'm with you, girl.

It's difficult.

It

is difficult.

You have to be... I'm a person who's very intentional when it comes to dating.

Again, I'm not perfect.

I'm not a person who's like... Like I said, I stop blocking people when I don't like them no more.

That's good.

Or if they do something, like my sister training, she be like, girl, she get somebody 30 days.

Like, if I get somebody a chance, she give them 30 days.

You ain't don't like them.

And it's not me being picky.

It's not me being damaged.

It's not me being, you know, leading with my trauma.

It's just, I know what I want, right?

I'm on my path.

I mean, I'm on my journey.

A lot of things that people indulge in, that's not my life.

You know what I'm saying?

And people show up with their representatives, right?

Like, we all, you'll see of it.

You know, I got moments where there has been moments where I would, that's why I'm single.

Because I don't want to be in a position to where I feel like I can't be myself.

And that is the raw honesty.

I

have had put my representative on before going on a date.

And it was because I was uncomfortable.

Not because I was trying to pretend, but I was uncomfortable.

That's a problem for me.

I have to be myself at all times on all levels, right?

And if that's not good enough, then it's not going to work.

But I'm just very intentional about it because I already know what I want.

Have you ever been on a date where you felt like you needed to cut it out in the middle of it and say, you know what?

This isn't going to work.

And you don't give me the check or you got to call your home girl and be like, get me out of this mess.

I was I was I

was on a date with the guy about a year or two ago, maybe two years now.

And when I say date I don't this is not me being intimate.

Yeah, so I want to put that out there for somebody think we some three No, no, this is literally just going on dates to get to know somebody this has nothing to do with intimacy But I went on a date with a guy and he started to ask me about a celebrity I was working with Mmm, what was it like?

What is it like working with this guy?

How did this happen?

And man, I love him and I would love to meet him and da-da-da-da, like a groupie.

And it was like...

You're

supposed to be about me right now.

You're worried about him.

No, for real.

I was turned off.

Yeah,

I

would have been too.

Absolutely ready to go.

Ready to get the check.

I'm like, hey, my kid's calling.

I'm sorry.

I gotta take this.

I gotta go.

Yeah, I see you.

I gotta go.

I'm gonna step outside, take this car.

Yeah.

Out of here, go, go.

Can't do it, can't do it.

Those are some of the challenges that I've run into.

That's why I am by myself.

I think now dating at this age, and I think we talked about this before, it's difficult because I was married before and I don't have, all three of my children are by my ex-husband and I've known him since I was five.

You know what I'm saying?

So I really, I have wife qualities.

I don't know if I know how to be a girlfriend, which is not anything to brag about because I need to go back to just, I don't want to overplay my role.

You

know what I'm saying?

That's what I had to check myself on.

Like, oh yeah, I used to be a wife.

I got wife qualities.

And then I find myself overplaying my role because this Negro ain't looking for a wife.

He want a girlfriend.

You know what I'm saying?

So it's like, yeah, I have to learn how to be a girlfriend.

And I think that's the problem with dating.

I'm very traditional.

My grandparents, my grandmother passed when she was 103.

They got married in 1950.

So a lot

of