Coping vs. Surviving Continued

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Happy Tuesday, beautiful people.

It has been an amazing three day weekend.

for the educators, the students, everybody who had a chance to rest yesterday during Labor Day.

Much needed, much needed.

Hope that you guys enjoyed your weekend.

I got to give a shout out to Marmar, Brother David Muhammad, and Aziz.

The event in Meach, the event Friday, the Unity March.

Shout out to Golden Child, Chicago showed up, man.

It was...

Simply amazing.

We got a chance to all gather at Moody Park.

I was going to say Moody Pool telling my age.

We gathered at Moody Park and we had a Unity march.

We had some conversations.

We got a chance to speak with neighbors in that community.

Shout out to Miss Patterson, man.

She came up to me at the event and was like, you're my girl.

I'll be watching you all the time.

and proceeded to have a conversation about some things that's happening over in that area.

A lot of our youth was there and had some conversations as well, and it was very, very, very impactful.

So, 101.7 the truth, we were there, me and Meach, as well as a lot of local community advocates and activists.

So again, amazing weekend of events, which brings me to my topic today.

What if some of the things we call personality are actual survival strategies?

What if the environment we live in, the expectations society places on us and the stress we repeatedly experience shape what we call happiness?

So I got a chance to kick it with the good people on 24th and 23rd in Berlai.

A lot of the conversations we've had, not just people who live in that area, but people who live throughout the entire city of Milwaukee, a lot of the conversations that we had brought me to this topic today.

And you all know, every day we come in here and we talk about what's happening in the world.

We talk about Trump, Congress, the economy, crime, education, whatever is being said on social media, right?

But here's what I've been thinking about this past weekend.

What if the biggest story in black America today isn't something around us?

What if something happening inside of us is the bigger story, right?

We know that this is black talk radio and to me black news can't just be about someone getting shot violence arrested racism and politics That's not the entirety of black life

Sometimes black news is just asking a black woman such as myself Who spends my day in her entire day taking care of people?

Are you okay?

Sometimes black news is asking that brother Who has missed the day of work?

Who hasn't missed the day of work who take care of his children who pays all the bills, right?

Are you good?

Are you truly okay?

And that's where I want to

Go today.

Are you happy or are you just coping?

Because I think that we get the two confused.

So, yes, we got up this morning by the grace of God.

Yes, we went to work.

Yes, we got the kids sent off to school or daycare.

Yes, we pay our bills.

We answered the phone.

We check on everybody, right?

And tomorrow morning with God's grace, we'll be doing it again.

But that still does not answer my question or determine if you are truly indeed happy.

And when we talk about this, again, the reason why this is important to me is because we're gonna break it down.

There's a lot of things that plays a role into what that looks like.

Obviously it's not nobody else's job to make you happy, but your environment matters.

That determines whether or not you can truly be happy.

the things that you are around, the type of work you do, all of these things play a part in.

I noticed something this weekend.

When I was at this event, I noticed how many people say, hey, Jazz, how you doing?

I said, hey, I'm doing all right.

But they proceeded to walk away as I was responding, right?

Because it's a greeting.

It's not that people are actually, well, some people are.

Right?

Not all, but it was it's becoming a greeting to ask someone.

Hey, how are you doing?

Instead of actually meaning it and we become so accustomed to saying, hey, I'm doing all right, lying right through our teeth.

Obviously, we don't want everybody to know what we are going through.

But I just noticed that this weekend, like it went from, hey, how are you doing?

Stopping having a conversation is a real conversation about it to it become becoming a greeting.

And one thing about black people, we know how to survive.

We know how to make something out of nothing with our famous lines.

I'm going to be all right.

God ain't bring me this far.

I just got to keep on pushing.

And that's true.

But listen to those words.

Are those statements of happiness or are those coping mechanisms?

So I'm all for talking about.

politics, I'm all for talking about the education system.

I'm all about accountability when it comes to everything and everyone else.

But at some point, if we're going to talk black news, the real black news is self accountability.

The real black news is how do we have these conversations with our children?

The real black news is what's happening inside of our household.

We are always focused on what is happening in the outside world.

One thing's for sure, and two things for certain.

When it comes to politics, when it comes to systems, these are things that we will never be able to change potentially, right?

And I'm just being transparent.

We have to, we've always, as a people, had to figure out a way to maneuver through it.

But one thing we don't include inside of Black News is the state of our minds.

the state of how we are feeling.

Everything is about what is happening around us and not about what's happening inside of us.

And maybe you aren't depressed, maybe you are not in crisis, maybe nothing is dramatically wrong, but maybe you are just existing.

And because yesterday was Monday and we had the day off, today we're going to do mental health Mondays, even though it is Tuesday.

So again, I want to hear from you.

A three three two one two one zero one seven.

You decide.

And I want to hear your opinion, right?

You don't have to give out your name or anything like that.

But are you happy or are you just coping?

Some of us have gotten so accustomed to existing that we stopped asking whether or not we are really enjoying life.

And I'm including myself in this conversation because I am a black woman.

I know what it means to keep moving because people depend on me, right?

But here's what I'm questioning When did being able to carry everything become proof that everything is okay And maybe I'm good is one of the biggest lies we casually tell each other right again a lot of times we walk around with smiles on our faces Even though what we're feeling on the inside is completely different and

I've been seeing this a lot, not just in specific places, but just overall, right?

The weight of the world is on a lot of people's shoulders.

I see what's happening with my generation, with all generations, and people are really tired.

You know what I'm saying?

People are tired.

People are going through something, and it seems as if it's getting worse.

The mass is getting worse.

Every day we are constantly lying to ourselves.

Every day we are constantly caught up in the news.

Every day we are constantly caught up in something to distract us from the real issue, which is us.

So when I say, are you happy or are you just coping?

I'm not asking because it sound good.

I'm not asking because I expect for everyone to walk around with smiles on their faces.

I'm asking because we are in a time.

We are in a climate where mental health is at an all time high.

I don't care how old you are, the things that is happening with our water system, the things that are happening with the food, the things that are happening with the lynchings, with everything in this world, everything in this country is affecting us on a day to day on top of being able to maneuver through life and whatever it is that we are currently dealing with.

in our everyday lives, right?

Sometimes the biggest story isn't what's happening in Washington.

It's what's happening inside of your house.

And I know I get it.

This is not again a topic that a lot of people want to talk about because rarely do you find people who hold themselves accountable.

This is the conversation you make, been avoiding with having with your children, right?

This is the relationship you are trying to hold together.

Because what happens inside of our communities just doesn't stay outside.

The environment we live in affects how we think, right?

What we repeatedly see affects what we believe is normal.

What society tells us we are supposed to have by a certain age affects how we see ourselves.

Somebody listening right now may be sitting.

Trying to figure their life out.

Somebody may be at work pretending like they are okay.

Somebody may be raising a child and have absolutely no idea on what they are doing.

And somebody may simply need to hear that they are not crazy or feeling what they are feeling alone.

So don't just listen today.

I want to hear from you all.

Your voice matters.

833-212-1017.

And I don't want a politically correct dialogue answer.

I don't want the church answer.

I want real life.

Are you happy or are you coping?

833-212-1017.

Want to go to break, whether you agree or not?

Let's talk about it.

She girl, Jazz Tyler 1017 the

truth.

Here the wounded, then you stab me in my back again.

You the type to play the joke and try

to hide your hands.

One-on-one, seven in truth, it's your girl, Jazz Tyler.

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And today we are talking about mental health, but not just mental health as it pertains to our everyday lives when it comes to, you know, hey, am I happy because of materialistic things?

Or am I happy because someone else is making me happy?

We are talking about...

coping.

We are talking about environments.

We are talking about systems, things set up in place that actually assist with whether or not we are happy in our lives in the state of our mental health.

And we do have a caller on the line.

Collie, are you there?

Yes, I am.

Thank you so much for tapping in.

How are you?

I'm good.

How are

you?

I am well.

So you have a comment about the black community solution.

But before we get into that, I have to ask you

Are you happy or are you just coping?

I'm happy.

I'm kind of broken.

I'm 53 years old.

Oh, yes.

I've

worked in the same profession going on 30 years now.

I mean, my job is secure, everything's secure.

The worst thing about me is what I do.

Like, if I choose to go splurge or, you know, then I have to pay the kind of money for that, but I'm good.

Absolutely.

Thank you so much for sharing that with us.

My thing is this.

I want to start this conversation with a question.

Does money solve all issues?

No.

It doesn't.

It doesn't make your mental health better.

It doesn't make your relationships better.

But what money does, it takes the burden off of people.

It loosens, you know,

the day-to-day thing, with more money, you're better able to absorb losses, upsets, and everything else.

Absolutely.

Okay, now here's my thing.

Would an upcoming election come?

Mm-hmm.

I'm gonna place up in really, really devices.

I've got a lot of pushback on this.

What happens if black people don't vote this upcoming election?

Well, if...

Tiffany wins this this governor's race There's a couple of things that's gonna happen and that that one of those things will be We will not have Resources that we need we already don't have enough resources, but we're gonna have less resources than what we already have

Okay, do you think Democrats will then take black people more serious?

So, you know

Let me say this first.

My opinion does not reflect the opinion of this station.

But my personal opinion is that politics is politics on both sides.

They just wear a different

mask.

What happens if black people do not vote in this upcoming election?

We all

know what's going to happen.

Time typically is on winning.

What message does that send to the Democratic Party?

That we don't support.

No, now that we don't support we felt our issues on address and so we chose to step back What do you didn't think will happen

My outlook is a little different because I ran for office.

So my personal opinion is

that What happened did you lose?

So I removed myself from the

race

You have a political background.

What happens if black people do not vote for Democrats?

Not only that don't vote at all.

I'm not gonna go I'm not gonna go be a trooper or go for time.

What if black people don't vote in this election?

Okay, tell me

First of all, the Democrats will be Second, I think Democrats will then have to relook at what they're gonna do like when Kamala laws what happened

And they're going to look back.

They're going to do an autopsy.

And they're going to say, we didn't get the black vote.

So what do you think they're going to do?

This isn't new, though.

This has happened multiple times before.

No, but only in the law.

A lot of times, they still don't come back and say, we're going to address black issues.

Right now, they just say, we're the better alternative to Trump.

They're not taking on black issues.

They're not.

Oh, the Democratic Party?

Yeah, they're nice.

Well, I don't know like

we're better than that's all they tell me What are they promise?

What are they promise?

Okay, I'm 53 then in the same 30 years.

What are they promise me?

You tell me

So this is the thing though The question is are you happy or are you coping and the politics of it later on?

will be discussed as it pertains to this, but this isn't about politics.

When I just started the show today, I said that every day we talk about politics, Trump, what's happening in Washington DC, everything, but yet we are not holding ourselves accountable based off of what we're going through mentally.

Today is about us.

Today is not about just the government alone.

Today is not just about politics alone.

Today is just not about pointing the fingers.

Today is about

What is actually happening with us in our communities?

How do we hold ourselves accountable?

How are we making sure that our mental health is together?

We have another caller on the line.

Kay, are you there?

Yes, I'm here.

Thank you for curbing that.

Absolutely.

Thank you for tapping in.

Yeah, because at the end of the day, you can play crazy if you want to and not vote.

and not vote and tell us how that's turning out for you.

But for everybody who call it, oh, they just fine.

You a lie.

Absolutely.

You a lie.

You are a lie.

I don't care how many years you've been on your job.

Ain't nobody life happy, hunky, dory.

Yes.

So stop the lying.

Because guess what?

Then guess what?

Then you don't think past your front door.

Come on now.

Because I can guarantee you somebody in your family is suffering.

Somebody in your family his family right now ain't got a pot to pee in and a winner throw it out Somebody is hungry.

Somebody can't pay their bills.

Stop it.

Yes.

Yes.

I'm so glad you brought that up.

Ain't

nothing cute.

Ain't nothing ain't nothing ain't nothing cute about it.

Yes

I'm blessed.

I am happy because I woke up this morning.

I am grateful for the little things, but if I was to sit up here and call and tell you, oh, I'm just fine because I've been on my job this many years and I have a pension and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, it's a lie.

Thank you.

Because if you care past your front door, you have a problem with people with homelessness.

You have a problem with addiction.

You have a problem with everything that is not going right for us.

And we don't have time in the day right now to be sitting up talking about if we don't vote.

Boy, goodbye.

And you heard it straight from Kay.

Have a

good day.

You as well.

Thank you so much.

And I just want to give a shout out to Kay for explaining that because she actually

Um, understands what I am referring to, to its entirety.

Um, it's not a trick question, but it is a real question because oftentimes we, uh, we mistake peace for happiness or happiness for peace.

What I have is peace, but I am not happy.

And the reason why I say that is because as long as we are in the positions we are in as black people, I will never be happy.

I will never be happy waking up watching the case unfold of Carmelo Anthony or Nolan Wills.

I will never be happy riding down Green Bay in Capitol and seeing homeless people everywhere or seeing our babies go through the things that they go through.

One of the reasons why I talked about this show was based off a conversation.

I'm sorry, this topic today is based off a conversation I had with multiple people, but a specific citizen.

at the event on 24th and Burla.

And also because I had a conversation with one of my students.

One of my students disclosed that he had been sober for eight months and he's only a sophomore.

And this had me thinking, how long, first of all, have you been doing whatever you've been doing since a grade?

Automatically, my mind goes to smoking marijuana.

No, he's been, he was taking ecstasy pills since the eighth grade.

His parents knew nothing about it, still don't know anything about it.

And he uses music as a way to cope.

These are the situations that we are dealing with on a daily basis.

I'm not talking about a story news line, I'm talking about right at your front door, right in my classroom at my front door.

So as long as these things are happening, I can maneuver peacefully.

I can have internal peace through chaos, but I would never be happy because my people, we are constantly in the situations that we are in.

Shout out to the chat.

Tino says, can't just rely on the Democratic Party.

Gotta look at the overall picture, that part.

Fonzo, Marty, what's good?

He said, happy Tuesday, much love, much love and respect.

And again, I'm not opposed to because politics isn't everything is political.

We understand that, right?

But again, we cannot turn this into a conversation about just the government or about the election and about the politics.

There are real things that's happening in our communities right now.

Again, every day we are distracted with the news every single day.

We know what's happening on Washington.

We know what's happening with NPS.

We know what's happening Over there off of you know, whatever street somebody got shadow over this past weekend because there were multiple shootings But do you know what's going on in your own house?

Do you understand where your children's mental is do they know where your meant mental is where your mind is?

These are real conversations that we have to have this is black news This is black news as well

We got to go to break when we come back.

I want to talk about nine eight eight day I'm not going to spend too much time on and just going to give some information or surrounding What is that and then we're going to talk about if your environment is talking to you?

Because where you live what you see when you step outside of your house every day matters That matters when it comes to mental health.

I want to hear from you a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7.

Are you happy?

or are you just coping?

She Girl Jazz Tyler, do not touch that dial.

She Girl Jazz Tyler, you are officially tapped in on the award-winning one-on-one seven The Truth.

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We have a caller on the line.

T, are you there?

Yes, I'm here.

Thank you so much for tapping in with us.

How are you?

I

am doing wonderful.

I'm blessed.

How are you?

I am well.

I am hanging in there.

I'm hanging in there.

The question today is, are you happy or are you coping?

I am definitely

at peace but I am coping as well.

I'm a middle-aged African American woman who I thought I had my stuff together.

I had a great job as a director for a progressive company organization and I fought for the same issue on a daily basis that

are at all of our front doors.

And now I'm going through those same issues.

I am unemployed, unemployment, facing eviction, having to pack my stuff up and move in with my 21-year-old daughter.

So definitely coping, but I am at peace.

And you know what?

First and foremost, thank you so much for sharing that with me and the listeners.

And what I do want to tell you is that...

Sometimes God is saying, not a no, but not right now.

And sometimes our lives have to be reconstructed in order for us to receive whatever it is that we're going to receive.

So whatever it is that you're going through, because he knows your heart and because you have been doing the work, there is something greater that is going to come.

I truly believe that.

And I thank you for keeping it real

with us.

I believe that it will.

Yes, thank you.

No problem.

Do you need any resources, T?

I believe I got all the resources, so I appreciate that, but I'm definitely working on

it.

Absolutely.

If you do, please give us a call back.

Not any like, I'm not saying it just to say it because we're already old, but there is a lot of people that we have connections to.

So if you need anything, please give us a call.

Reach out social media, whatever the case may be and and I'll be praying for you and I want to tell you through My most success came from me praying through the hardest times in my life

Yes,

whenever we are chest highs You know sometimes people don't know how to take the pressure, but keep taking that pressure and watch God bless you

Yes, ma'am.

Yes, I definitely am and I know God has something greater in store for me.

Absolutely

Absolutely.

Thank you so much for tapping in with us today.

You're welcome.

You have a wonderful day.

You as well.

Shout out to the chat.

My cousin, Marty Grace.

Listen, I want to give a shout out to T2 because that's brave.

A lot of people are so again, I'm trying to make this normal for us as black people and I get it.

We are traumatized.

We are traumatized with being vulnerable because

Since we were kids, we've had friends who are closest to us that will take our business and spread it all around across the city whenever they become upset with us.

We have family members who don't like your mama and then they don't like the kids and begin to talk.

So we have been used to not being vulnerable.

We have been used to using, hey, how you doing as a greeting and not genuinely meaning it because we have been programmed this way.

We a lot of us have been programmed to be this way our entire life That ties into the next segment your environment is talking to you Your environment isn't just a backdrop your environment gives your brain information every single day What are we talking about jazz we talking about when you step outside of your house, right?

So when we were

on uh by moody park today i'm sorry on friday and we had the unity walk and it's nothing out of the ordinary that we typically don't see right i'm always in the trenches because that's where i'm from that's where the people are right so and i'm not saying it in a way to make it sound cool like it's dangerous i'm saying i literally am because that's where the work where we need to do the most work

And as I'm in this environment and I'm seeing how many people are happy, but I'm also hearing based off the conversations you got Miss Patterson was talking about how a lot of is dark.

This is one of the things I hear often.

I've heard it so many years is dark, right?

In that neighborhood or when the street lights are supposed to come on, they don't.

And then you have crackheads running around stealing the electrical wires.

From the lighting.

This is a real thing.

This is what's really happening, right?

So when you are sitting inside of your community, let's say you want to go sit on a porch.

What do you see?

A vacant house?

You see grass about five feet tall, trees that ain't been cut down, trash every single where.

When you step outside your house, let's start there.

Let's start with the conditions you're living in, right?

Do you have a slum lord?

Because it's inflation, is there enough room for everybody in your household or do you got to make a way?

When you step outside your house, you see this abandoned house.

You see the grass, the environment looks the way that it look.

The kids can't play at night time because the street lights don't come on.

That is a part of your mental health.

That is a part of are you happy or are you coping?

Right?

Are you happy or are you coping?

When an environment repeatedly communicates danger, instability, or unpredictability, the body doesn't simply ignore that information.

So when we are talking about happiness, we can't pretend everybody starts from the same environment.

That's not the case.

But what's even more important...

And no, this is not about politics, even though everything is political, is who gets to decide what your environment looks like.

This is where the accountability comes in at, right?

We talk about mental health like it's only a subjective thing, like it's just one person's responsibility.

I'll go to therapy, go see a counselor and change your mindset.

No, what if what happens when the neighborhood doesn't have safe places for children?

What happens when there is no investment?

What happens when nobody is concerned about the violence?

What happened when your housing situation is unstable?

It's hard to get up.

It's hard being black first and foremost let alone getting up every single day dealing with the things

That's just a vision in your mind, wherever you are, that this is your everyday life.

If it's not every day, you wake up, you got a slumlord that don't take care of your house.

You got a neighborhood that looks the way that it does.

This is the environment that you around every day.

Tell me who's going to be motivated by this.

Some people have we've taken it in the past and use it as motivation.

But this is not the case with our babies.

Can public policy become a mental health issue?

I'm not saying an elected official is responsible for your individual emotions, but they do play a part in what your community looks like.

And no, I'm not about to tell you to go vote.

I'm not turning this into a political campaign.

But what I am going to tell you is that

When they have them town halls and community meetings, show up.

I know a lot of people, especially the elders that say, man, nobody never listened.

They don't ever call.

They don't ever come check on us.

They don't do this.

They don't do that.

Well, now I'm going to summon the people in the community.

If you know that there are people, a single mother, a single father, an elder in your neighborhood who are experiencing something, be the advocate for them.

Are you around family members, loved ones or people who constantly keep you in the state of mind that just to remind you of where you come from?

That's a part of it too.

The food that we eat.

I was having a conversation with the Miss Patterson and realized that the closest grocery store with fresh fruits and vegetables and food was more than two miles away.

Maybe two miles, but maybe a little over two miles.

So when we're talking about environment, we're not just talking about who's all living in your house.

We're talking about the environment you live outside of your house.

How does that play a role in your mental health?

Guess what you eat plays a role in your mental health.

I'm not blaming those who live in environments that cannot afford these things or don't have access to them.

Yes, I grew up on 14th.

It's easier for me to go get some nachos off 12th and Keith.

Then it is for me to go to Gallux to buy groceries because a pack of ground beef there is $20.

Ground beef is already high.

Gallows just add a couple extra dollars on top.

It's quicker for me to pull up to a corner store and go get a sub sandwich.

Then it is for me to go to an actual grocery store.

It's quicker for me to pull up to Dollar Tree.

or family dollar to get frozen foods and processed food.

Then it is for me to actually go to a grocery store.

Yes, your environment matters when it comes to your mental health.

Absolutely does.

It absolutely does.

You know what also matters?

How we take care of our community.

The grace.

that we have to have for one another.

We all are going through the same thing.

We're going to finish talking about it.

The question for today, if you are just now joining us, is are you happy or are you coping?

And we're not talking about tangible things.

We are talking about the state of us.

If we're going to talk about what's happening in Washington and we're going to talk about what's happening in MPS, let's talk about real black news.

Are you happy or are you coping?

833-212-1017, it's your girl Jyce Holla, do not touch that

dial.

Yeah, put up with it in Texas time Thought I'd surprise you had you on my mind Lights real low, something's filling off Too quiet in here, where you at?

Don't hide Keys at the table, I'm calling your name No reply, now I'm feeling the way Walk to the room, heart-switching pace Soon as I look down, yeah, everything changed

Tryna play it cool, but I know what it is Ain't no way I'm mistakenness Those ain't my shoes under the bed Those ain't my, got me in my head Don't thinkin' again, but I know

my shoes under the bed.

Don't even try to explain.

Whoa, yeah.

You've been moving differently.

Phone on solid screen face down daily.

Oh, oh.

Sing inside.

Run away from me.

Oh, now it's making sense.

Yeah, it's hard to crazy.

Yeah.

Got a sin in the air I don't wear.

In that size right there.

Yeah, that ain't

fair.

Oh, pick them up.

Yeah, I know.

me questioning all this time trying to play it cool but I know what it is ain't no way I'm mistaken this those are my shoes under the bed

You ain't even gotta say nothing cause I see

it.

One-on-one,

the truth is you broke jazz, Tyler.

We are Live and Direct.

If you are just now joining us, the question for today is, are you happy or are you coping?

We have a caller on the line.

Al, are you there?

I'm doing just fine.

What I was gonna ask you is, please don't hold back.

I heard they feel us.

It's better they hear it from you, okay?

Let's be honest.

Some of the people in our neighborhood don't need to be here.

They need to go and take their kids.

Helicopter parents, PWKs and the people who's worried about CPS that you can't test kids.

Just say I'm black.

I'm lazy.

I don't want to do nothing.

Get your stuff and get out.

Okay.

Absolutely.

If you, if you don't want to vote, don't vote.

Okay.

We don't want to force you to vote.

You're giving them the reason not to do nothing.

That's why your politicians only move for white folks like nose on good cocaine.

Nothing left in the mirror.

So if you don't want to vote,

free will.

Either you can deal with it or get your life together and move and let it rock.

That's it.

Absolutely.

Some of you got family members who ain't no good, was never no good.

You're waiting for them to take their last breath.

They shouldn't be living unless you're living with you anyway if they get in a check.

Okay.

You control your mental health.

Do not let nobody put this label on you because as you know jazz when it comes to black people.

We got poverty after the excuse.

We're only good for section eight where you got a three-bit room for $75 where you got three dumps you picked up by waste management that they put them back there on the putting back there on an angle or you're good for food pantries.

Okay.

So it's up to each and every individual to change and control their mental health.

turn your reality into success but do not fall into the realm of everything has to be low vibration because it seems to like it is now jazz everything that's dealing with black people my mama was my mama had seven kids we got addicted somebody was in the house with junkies doing good don't i just i used to get beat up

There is somebody who went to college, somebody who got out is always a pity party.

But you don't see white folks say that.

Do you see white folks say that?

They can be sleeping with the brother and sister.

They go to be great things.

But for some reason with black people, we got to be part of the struggle, food stamps, sex and age, scatter housing.

And you ain't gonna have no people to speak up for you because we didn't have people to speak up for you.

You didn't want to vote because you was worried about how you look the way folks come on now have me a

drink

Thank you so much for tapping in shout out to the chat Marty says too many Mike Browns Trayvon Martin's too many Sandra Bland's and too many Nolan Wales for me to be happy black people are being murdered in our face Exactly now.

I hear Theo Malcolm Jamal Warner was murdered absolutely Absolutely, and that's the point that I'm trying to make no we shouldn't have excuses right, but let's understand something because

One things for show, two things for certain.

I asked someone who is and have been a part of this community for quite some time and I don't mean just popping up doing little stuff.

I mean on the front lines.

The reality is, yes, there is no excuses, right?

We should be able to find a way.

We always do.

However, the amount of work that has went into us being oppressed.

is something that I cannot ignore.

The amount of work that continuously goes into us being oppressed is something that I cannot ignore.

We should be able to have clean water, fresh food, right?

A grocery store in the outer city because we're left out of everything, should not be two miles, two to three miles away.

It should not be.

And then let's pay attention to...

The grocery stores, this is the conversation we were having before a break.

When you look at the grocery stores, that's in some of these neighborhoods, right?

And I gotta say it, how it is.

The Peets, the Gallots, they are too expensive.

I shop at Peets.

They have some of the most fresh fruits, vegetables, meat.

But when you go to anything outside of the meat, fruits and vegetables,

is double the price.

A jar of mayo is $8.99.

If you go to Gallets, think about the grocery stores that's over there in District 1.

You have Gallets.

A jar of mayo is $8.99.

Everything is overly expensive in the environment.

that get left out of all of the resources.

And that is a problem.

What we eat dictates our mental health.

What we see when we walk outside our homes dictate our mental health.

Yes, there are programs.

Yes, there are grants.

Yes, there are things set into place to make sure that we can try to combat that.

But the reality is...

Are you happy or are you coping?

Based off your environment, based off the state of black people, based off everything, are you happy or are you coping?

And to Al's point, and to the point of the caller earlier.

Okay.

Let's talk about the life that you was promised.

Let's talk about the life you was promised.

Let's talk about you go to school for 12 years.

And the goal is for you to go to college.

And the goal is for you to graduate from college, to have a family, have that white picket fence, that American dream, all of the above and be successful.

But the problem with that story is, is that it does not coincide with the environments that we live in.

No, I'm not saying that we have to make excuses because a lot of us, especially in my generation and above, the generations before me,

always made a way out of something.

Still don't mean it was fair.

Still does not mean it was fair.

But the life that a child is promised if they go to school does not coincide with the neighborhoods that they live in, the environments that they live in, right?

I always say there is no one rule book for every single thing, for every single body.

Nobody told us that life doesn't actually work that way.

Nobody told us that you can accomplish the checklist and still feel empty, right?

So let's say you do make it.

Let's say that you do come from a area of poverty.

Let's say you do, you know, graduate college or even if you don't, but you just made something out of yourself.

Let's say you do make six figures.

Let's say you have purchased your home.

Let's say you've done all of these amazing things, but you still feel empty inside.

You can become successful and discover that success doesn't answer the question, who am I?

Because a lot of times what happened, this is what this country does.

What this country does is build us up into believing that things that are tangible defines who we are.

So much to the point that...

When it's taken away, our entire identity is taken away.

Because to Al's point, black people, what we do, this is a part of mental health.

We hold on to whatever it is that people say we don't got or can't have.

Everything in life is always about proving something and not living.

We internalize a definition of success and don't reach it, right?

And when we don't reach it, we begin to question ourselves.

What's wrong with me?

Maybe you aren't behind.

Maybe you are following a timeline that wasn't designed for your life.

Are you happy or are you coping?

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Happy Tuesday, beautiful people.

It has been an amazing three day weekend.

for the educators, the students, everybody who had a chance to rest yesterday during Labor Day.

Much needed, much needed.

Hope that you guys enjoyed your weekend.

I got to give a shout out to Marmar, Brother David Muhammad, and Aziz.

The event in Meach, the event Friday, the Unity March.

Shout out to Golden Child, Chicago showed up, man.

It was...

Simply amazing.

We got a chance to all gather at Moody Park.

I was going to say Moody Pool telling my age.

We gathered at Moody Park and we had a Unity march.

We had some conversations.

We got a chance to speak with neighbors in that community.

Shout out to Miss Patterson, man.

She came up to me at the event and was like, you're my girl.

I'll be watching you all the time.

and proceeded to have a conversation about some things that's happening over in that area.

A lot of our youth was there and had some conversations as well, and it was very, very, very impactful.

So, 101.7 the truth, we were there, me and Meach, as well as a lot of local community advocates and activists.

So again, amazing weekend of events, which brings me to my topic today.

What if some of the things we call personality are actual survival strategies?

What if the environment we live in, the expectations society places on us and the stress we repeatedly experience shape what we call happiness?

So I got a chance to kick it with the good people on 24th and 23rd in Berlai.

A lot of the conversations we've had, not just people who live in that area, but people who live throughout the entire city of Milwaukee, a lot of the conversations that we had brought me to this topic today.

And you all know, every day we come in here and we talk about what's happening in the world.

We talk about Trump, Congress, the economy, crime, education, whatever is being said on social media, right?

But here's what I've been thinking about this past weekend.

What if the biggest story in black America today isn't something around us?

What if something happening inside of us is the bigger story, right?

We know that this is black talk radio and to me black news can't just be about someone getting shot violence arrested racism and politics That's not the entirety of black life

Sometimes black news is just asking a black woman such as myself Who spends my day in her entire day taking care of people?

Are you okay?

Sometimes black news is asking that brother Who has missed the day of work?

Who hasn't missed the day of work who take care of his children who pays all the bills, right?

Are you good?

Are you truly okay?

And that's where I want to

Go today.

Are you happy or are you just coping?

Because I think that we get the two confused.

So, yes, we got up this morning by the grace of God.

Yes, we went to work.

Yes, we got the kids sent off to school or daycare.

Yes, we pay our bills.

We answered the phone.

We check on everybody, right?

And tomorrow morning with God's grace, we'll be doing it again.

But that still does not answer my question or determine if you are truly indeed happy.

And when we talk about this, again, the reason why this is important to me is because we're gonna break it down.

There's a lot of things that plays a role into what that looks like.

Obviously it's not nobody else's job to make you happy, but your environment matters.

That determines whether or not you can truly be happy.

the things that you are around, the type of work you do, all of these things play a part in.

I noticed something this weekend.

When I was at this event, I noticed how many people say, hey, Jazz, how you doing?

I said, hey, I'm doing all right.

But they proceeded to walk away as I was responding, right?

Because it's a greeting.

It's not that people are actually, well, some people are.

Right?

Not all, but it was it's becoming a greeting to ask someone.

Hey, how are you doing?

Instead of actually meaning it and we become so accustomed to saying, hey, I'm doing all right, lying right through our teeth.

Obviously, we don't want everybody to know what we are going through.

But I just noticed that this weekend, like it went from, hey, how are you doing?

Stopping having a conversation is a real conversation about it to it become becoming a greeting.

And one thing about black people, we know how to survive.

We know how to make something out of nothing with our famous lines.

I'm going to be all right.

God ain't bring me this far.

I just got to keep on pushing.

And that's true.

But listen to those words.

Are those statements of happiness or are those coping mechanisms?

So I'm all for talking about.

politics, I'm all for talking about the education system.

I'm all about accountability when it comes to everything and everyone else.

But at some point, if we're going to talk black news, the real black news is self accountability.

The real black news is how do we have these conversations with our children?

The real black news is what's happening inside of our household.

We are always focused on what is happening in the outside world.

One thing's for sure, and two things for certain.

When it comes to politics, when it comes to systems, these are things that we will never be able to change potentially, right?

And I'm just being transparent.

We have to, we've always, as a people, had to figure out a way to maneuver through it.

But one thing we don't include inside of Black News is the state of our minds.

the state of how we are feeling.

Everything is about what is happening around us and not about what's happening inside of us.

And maybe you aren't depressed, maybe you are not in crisis, maybe nothing is dramatically wrong, but maybe you are just existing.

And because yesterday was Monday and we had the day off, today we're going to do mental health Mondays, even though it is Tuesday.

So again, I want to hear from you.

A three three two one two one zero one seven.

You decide.

And I want to hear your opinion, right?

You don't have to give out your name or anything like that.

But are you happy or are you just coping?

Some of us have gotten so accustomed to existing that we stopped asking whether or not we are really enjoying life.

And I'm including myself in this conversation because I am a black woman.

I know what it means to keep moving because people depend on me, right?

But here's what I'm questioning When did being able to carry everything become proof that everything is okay And maybe I'm good is one of the biggest lies we casually tell each other right again a lot of times we walk around with smiles on our faces Even though what we're feeling on the inside is completely different and

I've been seeing this a lot, not just in specific places, but just overall, right?

The weight of the world is on a lot of people's shoulders.

I see what's happening with my generation, with all generations, and people are really tired.

You know what I'm saying?

People are tired.

People are going through something, and it seems as if it's getting worse.

The mass is getting worse.

Every day we are constantly lying to ourselves.

Every day we are constantly caught up in the news.

Every day we are constantly caught up in something to distract us from the real issue, which is us.

So when I say, are you happy or are you just coping?

I'm not asking because it sound good.

I'm not asking because I expect for everyone to walk around with smiles on their faces.

I'm asking because we are in a time.

We are in a climate where mental health is at an all time high.

I don't care how old you are, the things that is happening with our water system, the things that are happening with the food, the things that are happening with the lynchings, with everything in this world, everything in this country is affecting us on a day to day on top of being able to maneuver through life and whatever it is that we are currently dealing with.

in our everyday lives, right?

Sometimes the biggest story isn't what's happening in Washington.

It's what's happening inside of your house.

And I know I get it.

This is not again a topic that a lot of people want to talk about because rarely do you find people who hold themselves accountable.

This is the conversation you make, been avoiding with having with your children, right?

This is the relationship you are trying to hold together.

Because what happens inside of our communities just doesn't stay outside.

The environment we live in affects how we think, right?

What we repeatedly see affects what we believe is normal.

What society tells us we are supposed to have by a certain age affects how we see ourselves.

Somebody listening right now may be sitting.

Trying to figure their life out.

Somebody may be at work pretending like they are okay.

Somebody may be raising a child and have absolutely no idea on what they are doing.

And somebody may simply need to hear that they are not crazy or feeling what they are feeling alone.

So don't just listen today.

I want to hear from you all.

Your voice matters.

833-212-1017.

And I don't want a politically correct dialogue answer.

I don't want the church answer.

I want real life.

Are you happy or are you coping?

833-212-1017.

Want to go to break, whether you agree or not?

Let's talk about it.

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And today we are talking about mental health, but not just mental health as it pertains to our everyday lives when it comes to, you know, hey, am I happy because of materialistic things?

Or am I happy because someone else is making me happy?

We are talking about...

coping.

We are talking about environments.

We are talking about systems, things set up in place that actually assist with whether or not we are happy in our lives in the state of our mental health.

And we do have a caller on the line.

Collie, are you there?

Yes, I am.

Thank you so much for tapping in.

How are you?

I'm good.

How are

you?

I am well.

So you have a comment about the black community solution.

But before we get into that, I have to ask you

Are you happy or are you just coping?

I'm happy.

I'm kind of broken.

I'm 53 years old.

Oh, yes.

I've

worked in the same profession going on 30 years now.

I mean, my job is secure, everything's secure.

The worst thing about me is what I do.

Like, if I choose to go splurge or, you know, then I have to pay the kind of money for that, but I'm good.

Absolutely.

Thank you so much for sharing that with us.

My thing is this.

I want to start this conversation with a question.

Does money solve all issues?

No.

It doesn't.

It doesn't make your mental health better.

It doesn't make your relationships better.

But what money does, it takes the burden off of people.

It loosens, you know,

the day-to-day thing, with more money, you're better able to absorb losses, upsets, and everything else.

Absolutely.

Okay, now here's my thing.

Would an upcoming election come?

Mm-hmm.

I'm gonna place up in really, really devices.

I've got a lot of pushback on this.

What happens if black people don't vote this upcoming election?

Well, if...

Tiffany wins this this governor's race There's a couple of things that's gonna happen and that that one of those things will be We will not have Resources that we need we already don't have enough resources, but we're gonna have less resources than what we already have

Okay, do you think Democrats will then take black people more serious?

So, you know

Let me say this first.

My opinion does not reflect the opinion of this station.

But my personal opinion is that politics is politics on both sides.

They just wear a different

mask.

What happens if black people do not vote in this upcoming election?

We all

know what's going to happen.

Time typically is on winning.

What message does that send to the Democratic Party?

That we don't support.

No, now that we don't support we felt our issues on address and so we chose to step back What do you didn't think will happen

My outlook is a little different because I ran for office.

So my personal opinion is

that What happened did you lose?

So I removed myself from the

race

You have a political background.

What happens if black people do not vote for Democrats?

Not only that don't vote at all.

I'm not gonna go I'm not gonna go be a trooper or go for time.

What if black people don't vote in this election?

Okay, tell me

First of all, the Democrats will be Second, I think Democrats will then have to relook at what they're gonna do like when Kamala laws what happened

And they're going to look back.

They're going to do an autopsy.

And they're going to say, we didn't get the black vote.

So what do you think they're going to do?

This isn't new, though.

This has happened multiple times before.

No, but only in the law.

A lot of times, they still don't come back and say, we're going to address black issues.

Right now, they just say, we're the better alternative to Trump.

They're not taking on black issues.

They're not.

Oh, the Democratic Party?

Yeah, they're nice.

Well, I don't know like

we're better than that's all they tell me What are they promise?

What are they promise?

Okay, I'm 53 then in the same 30 years.

What are they promise me?

You tell me

So this is the thing though The question is are you happy or are you coping and the politics of it later on?

will be discussed as it pertains to this, but this isn't about politics.

When I just started the show today, I said that every day we talk about politics, Trump, what's happening in Washington DC, everything, but yet we are not holding ourselves accountable based off of what we're going through mentally.

Today is about us.

Today is not about just the government alone.

Today is not just about politics alone.

Today is just not about pointing the fingers.

Today is about

What is actually happening with us in our communities?

How do we hold ourselves accountable?

How are we making sure that our mental health is together?

We have another caller on the line.

Kay, are you there?

Yes, I'm here.

Thank you for curbing that.

Absolutely.

Thank you for tapping in.

Yeah, because at the end of the day, you can play crazy if you want to and not vote.

and not vote and tell us how that's turning out for you.

But for everybody who call it, oh, they just fine.

You a lie.