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You should grow up, Jazz Tyler.
You are officially tapped in.
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It's a beautiful day out.
I hope that everyone had an amazing weekend.
What y'all do this weekend?
Y'all went to Bastille Days.
Got some of that French cuisine?
Listen, before we get started, it has been an emotional roller coaster this weekend.
I want to send my love and condolences to my sister-in-law, Jenae Austin, who lost her cousin's sister, Amy Austin.
She was one of the pedestrians who was hit on Titanian, 20th in Titanian.
Anybody that knows Jenae knows Amy was more than just a cousin to her.
She was like a sister.
So I love you, sis.
I'm always here for you.
I also have to send my condolences to the Williams family on 14th of Berlai.
Bonnie Williams passed away.
I grew up with his children and we four generations and our entire family grew up and it was unexpected.
So shout out to Quinn and then Simone and Kiki and everybody, all of the Williams.
We all are mourning that lost as well.
Outside of that, I hope you all had an amazing weekend this weekend.
It's crazy because last week we actually was talking about grief and maybe that was God's way of preparing me to prepare those around me For these situations on how to deal with it.
So again, I send my love and condolences to you all Today we are talking about friendships Who earns a seat at your table?
Friendships is one of the few relationships that we actually get to choose
Which is, it's crazy, right?
Once you think about it, I didn't start thinking about that until recently.
You don't get to choose your parents, you don't get to choose your children, you don't get to choose your family, but you do get to choose your friends.
And the friends that you choose is extremely important and matters.
And then this is stemming from a situation that I'm more than sure you guys are aware of and have been following with Nolan.
And Nolan Wells is the young man from Mississippi.
So this story obviously captured national attention, 18 year old Nolan Wells, a young black college football player from Mississippi died after a fourth of July trip to Horn Island with three of his friends who happened to be white.
And authorities say the investigation is ongoing and while drowning is currently suspected, no final determination has been made.
Nolan's family has been raising questions about the circumstances surrounding his death and is asking for a full transparent investigation.
They even hired attorney Ben Crump recently as well the past couple of weeks.
And as we wait for answers, this tragedy raises important questions that goes beyond one case.
What does it mean to be a true friend?
If you go somewhere together, do you make sure everyone gets home?
How do we respond when someone in our group is missing or in trouble?
And why do some stories spark conversations about race, trust, and accountability?
Today, I want us to think about friendships, not just something we enjoy, but as a responsibility.
A real friend doesn't leave you behind.
A real friend looks out for you for your safety, speaks up when something is wrong and values your life as much as their own.
So we're taking calls this evening at 833-212-1017.
What does true friendship mean to you?
The good and the bad.
Have you ever had a friend who stood by you when it mattered most?
Have you had friends who left you when it mattered most?
And what lessons can we learn from stories like the Nolan Wells situation?
I've been watching this the story unfold and I don't like to discuss heavy topics because I'm an impact I feel everything but this one is near and dear to my heart because I have a son and not only that Nolan is all of our sons right and all of our He's a baby to all of us and the more I watch this story unfold the more I
Take a look on social media when it comes to different Conversations and opinions about what happened and the fact that his friends family are judges and lawyers Which means that they have a certain type of entitlement in which if something was wrong They will be able to cover it up, but it was one clip in particular from an older white gentleman who basically was saying that
um as a white man who has a biracial son he tells his son not to hang around rich white children because of the privilege and entitlement and just because they are typically involved not all but some are typically involved in activities that they should not be involved in and as this story continues to unfold there are recordings coming out where you can hear
Nolan saying that he doesn't want to he doesn't know how to swim you can hear them making like monkey noises you can hear them Teasing him pretty much telling him.
He you know, he's trying to run home to his mom and all of this foolishness and nonsense But there was something in particular that stood out to me and that was someone who is Testing to be Nolan's best friend and stated that indeed he was at pool party the friends pool party
And another friend stated that the friends he was with are known to use certain substances.
And whenever they use these substances, they tend to, you know, act crazy.
And they're wondering if they had given him something.
And then also, allegedly, they're speculating that he was actually he died at the house and that they moved his body to the lake.
All in all.
Just oh, I'm sorry.
Let me back up The last thing I seen today was that he initially told the family that they didn't know where his phone was or anything like that But allegedly they had his phone after he went missing.
Why would you have his phone?
So there's so many different things that's happening And to me is is very important not just for adults, but obviously for the youth and how we
Assist our children and the youth that who are in our lives when it comes to making decisions about their friendships I was taught growing up Whenever and I I go I live by it to this day Whenever I'm going to somewhere with my friend if we came together we leave together, right?
There are certain circumstances where obviously, you know, if
opposite sex isn't involved and it's their mate or something and they want to leave with that person okay cool but who I came with is who I left with who I'm around as far as my friends will make sure that I'm safe and I'll make sure that they're safe we don't you know partake in certain conversations and activities that could potentially cause someone their life even at
their age, even as a teenager.
I didn't have friends like that.
I didn't have friends who wanted me to be in a situation that would, again, potentially cost me my life and I didn't want them to be in that type of situation either.
So this story, again, as it unfolds, it has me questioning some things and not just about the case, but just about
um, how to relay these things to my children, um, as well as myself and making sure that I'm always around people who have my best interests because you never know, um, how someone is feeling.
There was a comment on social media, not sure if it was fake or if it was real, but there was a, uh, another, I guess, peer of his who stated it was get back for some girl or something like that.
But basically there's a underlying issue.
Um, and it's all folding out.
It's all coming out.
Um, I also seen the young man, um, Carmelo that, uh, supposedly they are supposed to be reopening up his trial because there's a new video that surfaced of him actually being jumped by the young man, um, that he killed.
And, um, apparently the judge wants to reopen the case.
So I'm saying all of this because.
There has been so the past two weeks there has been so much happening really the past two months a lot with our young black men Where they go to events with their friends and and something happens.
They either end up in jail or dead There was a other another young black man who was in Mississippi He went to a festival and was found hanging from a tree outside of that festival.
So again, it's you know as a community as parents are we doing
what it takes to make sure that our children are in the best company and sometimes.
A lot of us spend our whole life working to become successful so that we can move our children out of areas where we fear for them hanging around the wrong people and getting into the wrong things.
And we oftentimes believe that moving them to the suburban areas or having them go to private schools is a better option.
And I think that these stories are proven that it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter.
Obviously around those things, you know,
you will assume that they wouldn't be exposed to as much.
But again, as I've stated before, when it comes to black and white crimes, there's a different because we're labeled as criminals and what they do is just corruption, right?
And the reason it is that way is because of the entitlement, because they have family members who sit in high positions who can cover up things for them to make sure that their future is secured.
So we have to be mindful about
you know, who we allow our children to be around just because they attend a certain school, living in a certain neighborhood does not mean that those things can't happen to them as well.
So, again, today we are talking about friendships.
Who earns a seat at your table, right?
Who are you giving a seat to?
833-212-1017.
When we come back, when we come back from break, we're gonna dig into it.
A little more and I want to hear from y'all.
Where did you meet your your best friends?
Where did you meet your people at?
We got to go to break do not touch that doubt your girl Jess Tyler One on one point seven in truth it's your girl
Jazz Tyler, we are live and direct today.
We are talking friendships and I want to hear from you.
Truth nation Milwaukee a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7 a 3 3 2 1 2 1 0 1 7 Where did you meet your friend at right?
I have quite a few best friends and I Was just telling my nine-year-old daughter this a couple of weeks ago helping her to determine
what person should be place where, like everyone is not meant to be your friend.
You have friends, associates, best friends, you know, things like that.
And I started to reflect on my own life and the people that I have in my life.
I have three male best friends and two female best friends.
My best friend, Greg, I met him in fourth grade at Hartford Elementary.
I met my best friend Shanika and Steve in my neighborhood on 14th of Berlai.
And I met my best friend Sharika and Trayton when I was 15 and we was working for the Midwest Express Center.
And these are prominent people in my life.
These are people who we've had some ups and downs, but we've managed to get through.
We're over 25 years in as far as friendship.
people that I don't have to question, people that show up for me, people that hold me accountable, people that if I feel a way, we know how to talk through it without us arguing and getting into it, or someone, you know, telling each other business.
And I was thinking about the term best friend.
And I remember growing up that it used to be a thing where you can only, well, we only had like one best friend, like everybody didn't get that title.
That wasn't a title that you just threw out there.
Friends, period, wasn't a title that you just threw out there.
It was something that you had to earn.
And I think that's something that we have to instill in the younger generation now.
And even within ourselves as adults, just stop automatically assuming that everyone is your friend just because you've known them for a long time or just because they say that you're a friend.
If they have never been tested,
Right.
If they've never been put in situations to prove why they are, um, or why they should be your friend, let alone a best friend, then you need to rethink those situations and those relationships.
Um, but for me, I am grateful to have these, uh, people in my life, they are, uh, what'd I say, season, reason, reason, season, lifetime.
They are lifelong friends and.
I tried my hardest.
I tried my hardest to make new friends.
A lot of people, especially our age and our generation, always tend to say no new friends, right?
We have this culture where we don't want to meet new people.
We don't want to get to no new people.
We're afraid of it because it takes us out of our comfort zone, right?
And although I do agree with that to a certain extent,
because of the line of work I'm in and because I am naturally a person who loves to connect with people and network with people.
For me, I had to learn that just because you're networking and connecting with people doesn't mean that they are your friends.
That is business.
A lot of times those are people who are opportunists.
So again, I'm not opposed to having new friends, but I know that I can't
Give that term out easily because a lot of people haven't done anything to prove why they should be my friend and vice-versa, you know if I'm someone that's in your life and You want to you know continue to build as a friend then put me to the test as well And I don't mean little childish games, right people do a lot of childish things Just to try and prove something.
I mean you have to it has to stand the test of time
There's things that happen organically if I'm feeling away or if something was said and I take it a certain way I'm able to call my friends and say hey You made me feel like this Right?
You said this and this made me feel this way and I took it this way and I just want to clarify if that's what you meant and then with that small communication comes understanding and when you have situations like this
Your friends should be able to clear it up first and foremost.
First, they're going to apologize.
They're going to clear it up and they're going to reassure you that you have nothing to worry about because you are friends, right?
Not the secret envy, not the friends who talk about you in a joke and laugh it off.
But really, they, you know, they getting at you, right?
They're really showing you who they are and how they truly feel about you.
So again, I'm grateful.
to have lifelong friends in my life that I know if I'd never meet anyone else again and they never become my friend I have this core group who knows me and it's important that we have those lifelong friends because the world can be a main place it's hard out here you need someone to go to someone who knows you someone someone especially in the line of work that I'm in
Um, a lot of people make assumptions.
A lot of people assume I ain't been through nothing because I don't look like I've been through something.
A lot of people just create their own perceptions and reality, right?
And oftentimes when you're in this line of work, it's hard to make friends, especially in the industry because it's such a fake.
Industry and it's an industry full of opportunities.
So you need someone you can go to and confide in you need someone who will not You know, just be a yes man, but they're gonna tell you when they're wrong.
They're gonna tell you when you're wrong You're gonna have conversations and they're there for you to the end, right?
Me and my friends we don't even count favors if if they hit me or I hit them Hey, man, I need a favor.
It is not counted, right?
It's not counted.
Can you pick me up?
Can you loan me this?
Whatever the case may be.
If they ever ask me for anything, I don't ask for it back.
If I ask them for anything, they don't ask for it back.
Just look out for me the next time I need your assistance.
Just be there for me.
That's it, right?
Um, amongst other things, but it's, it's small things like that that determines, um, true friends, you know, not the ones where you falling out because someone don't like what you said or it's, it's secret envy.
And a question that I want to oppose to you all is is it easier to make friends as a kids as kids or is it easier to make friends as adult and as adults and I'm so conflicted with this because a Lot of people that I grew up with I feel like when you're a child you are innocent you are pure but at the same time You're still trying to figure out who you are.
You haven't been through enough
to say these are my morals, these are my principles, this is my character, this is what I'm standing doing.
And you meet friends along the way, right?
So you meet friends in your purest form.
And what ends up happening sometimes is as you grow older and you guys grow into whoever it is that you're supposed to be, you grow apart, right?
You grow apart.
And it doesn't necessarily mean that they're not your friend anymore, it just means that you are or
are on two different paths.
But when you make friends as adults, right, yes, you can still grow apart, but more than likely you're doing it for a specific reason.
Some people build new friendships off of trauma bonds.
I know people who have lost loved ones and they go to circle meetings and they interact with other people in the community who have lost loved ones and they build their friendship off of that.
I know people who I've met
People at work who become great associates of minds So it just it just really depends but for me I feel like It's easier to meet It's easier to meet friends when you are when you are an adult and The reason why I say that is because you have the discernments to be able to tell who's genuine and who isn't when your child is hard for
to tell.
It's hard to understand if this person is really gonna be your friend or not.
I look at my teenagers, well they're young adults now, and I've never seen with this generation is so much back and forth, so much bickering, so many, so much arguing, and y'all friends one day the next day y'all telling each other business and so on and so on.
And we all know how it was in high school when we
You know, we're building friendships with people.
People can turn on you at any given time as well as in your 20s.
But I think that a lot of times as a younger person, especially the youth, they have a difficult time making friends in today's world than we did when we were younger.
When you made friends as a child back then,
You know, it was pure, you know, it was genuine.
Some of them you talk to when you grow up, some of them you don't.
Even if they disappear, it's okay.
But nowadays, I feel like it may be easier to make friends as an adult versus as a child, right?
Let's talk about the lifelong friendships, though.
I want to talk about the lifelong friendships for a minute because I feel like we don't appreciate
we don't appreciate it as much as we should.
And the world that we live in, everything and everyone is becoming so transactional, right?
It's gimme, gimme, gimme, what can you do for me?
How can I benefit from whatever it is that you have to offer?
And a lot of times we mistake people supporting us for them being friends when all actuality, all they want is something from us.
So you ever seen people that make it, right?
Entertainers, athletes.
And they say, it get lonely at the top.
Or, you know, the people who was around, they turned on me.
And this is the same story over and over and over.
And at some point it's like, is it them or is it you?
But then when I, the more I started to be involved and the more I started to see up close and personal, a lot of times people closest to you, they switch up on you.
The people that you start off with, the people that you grow up with, when they feel away because you have more than them or whatever the case may be.
There is a chance that the people who are just now coming around will treat you better than people you've known you've known for your whole life So it's very very critical Especially as an adult and you went when you're in a certain career a certain field that you cherish and value the lifelong friendships that you have and Life be life in
People are husbands and wives people are mothers and fathers.
They have their own life to live so Lifelong friends sometimes you may go a certain amount of time without talking to them as long as you catch up when you need to but it doesn't necessarily dictate the relationship It doesn't mean that the friendship is coming to an end or something is wrong.
I love my friends so much because if I go silent That's an indicator to them that something is going on
Because I'm always talking to them or I'm always reaching out and then they will reach out to me right when I have friends who are Or associates who are around that say that they're friends just to be around I don't get that right they only call when something is happening or if it is if it's an event or you know anything that's going to be again beneficial to them so again
Cherish the lifelong friendships that you have, the people that's in your corner, the people that value you, the people that don't want anything from you other than to love you and to make sure that you win.
Make sure you hold on to them.
When we come back from break, we're going to be talking about the seasonal friends, right?
The friends that come around for a season or a reason, and why we have to understand what that means before it even happens.
We got to go to Breakthrough, not touch that dial, it should grow jazz.
Tyler, 1 on 1.7 is true.
