Lights of Love (Hour 2)

Good morning, Wisconsin. Morning, world. It's a new day.

Sometimes I'm right, and I can be wrong. My own beliefs are in my song.

Time for our two-of-the-morning show here at 97-5 FM, 13-20 AM, locally-grown radio, WFHR,

Got your host, James. Join by Aliyah. And the best listeners and radio.

Thanks for being here, everybody. We hope you're having a great Wednesday out there.

Lee and I are going to have some fun. We got some entertainment news coming up for you in a little bit.

We're also going to get into, uh, is waiting good for the brain. Science says yes.

We will get into that all coming up for you. But we're going to kick off the hour local, everybody.

The way we like to. We got our good friends from Aspires Health Foundation over here.

And Marie is with us. Volunteer coordinator with Aspires. And how you doing?

I'm doing well. Thank you.

Thanks a lot for being here. And we appreciate the time.

So I want to get into light to love with you. Talk a little bit about this.

One of our, I would say one of our signature events in this community.

It's been going on for quite some time. For people that may be new to the area or not familiar with light to love.

Can you give them a bit of a description?

Sure. Light to love is an opportunity for us as a community to remember or honor loved ones

that have either left us or that have been struggling through a health crisis.

And they can purchase light on the trees that we light on that evening.

And they stay lit throughout the holiday season.

So it's an opportunity for us to come together as community to honor those folks.

Oh, one of the things that I've, I really appreciate about this event.

And events like this is while we are a tight knit community.

More times than not, you will have strangers meeting strangers at these events or running into each other.

And while they may not know each other, there is a look that you have or a feeling that you have

when you see somebody who is also mourning.

And there's just this relationship that is immediately built in understanding that is there.

That can be so helping with the healing process.

It sure can. And last year was the first time I ever was in attendance at this event.

And I was there because I was invited to be this year's coordinator.

And I wanted to observe what, you know, we were having going on.

And I had a person that came up to me.

And she said, I'm not sure why I'm here.

She goes, I got a letter saying that a light was paid for for my father who recently passed away.

And I happened to know what that was about.

So I explained to her, you know, that the Richie funeral home spelled in a Richie funeral home pays for these lights

for those that they have served throughout the previous year.

So it's really beautiful gesture of community, right?

So she, you know, she then understood why she was there.

And she really appreciated the fact that they were being remembered as a family

that they had this great loss just a few months prior.

Shout out to Richie, funeral home as well.

Great people over there doing it.

And they do things like that. It's wonderful to hear that.

It's also not shocking. They do things like that all the time in this community.

As long as I've lived in this area.

When it comes to, you know, doing something like this, I wanted to also, you know, let people know

while my family has done this when my Nana passed away and it was very healing and helpful for us,

we did this as well with relatives even years after they passed.

You know, it may be a fresh, you know, somebody that just lost you just lost

or maybe it's somebody that you lost years ago, but you still want to honor them and remember them.

There's no bad way to do this.

Correct. You know, some families have long lists of people that they name person by person.

Some families say, you know, deceased members of the such and such family.

So it is something that there's no wrong way to do it.

One of the things that I think is really beautiful about it is that to light a light,

the bare minimum is $3. So everybody can participate.

And then there's a tier of 25 and a tier of 100.

But, you know, for somebody that may have, you know, limited means,

they can still participate and still remember those that are, you know, dear to them

or honor somebody that's come through a health crisis.

You know, of all the stresses to deal with when you're mourning and everything,

finances can be one of those things that can be taxing.

$3 is affordable for most all of us, and I really do appreciate that out of them doing that this way.

And really, as long as I can tell, the price isn't really changed.

It's always been that pretty much. That's very cool, noteworthy.

A big shout out to not only Aspirus, but the sponsors and the people that help keep those prices that way.

Correct. Yeah. It is really beautiful.

With the event we're talking in a pregame a little bit and everything,

and Anne helped me out with some of the details of the event.

Now, we've kind of cut off. The registration is ended as far as buying a light for this year,

but people can look into next year and stuff. We want to have them keep that in mind.

Yeah, they can buy the lights throughout the year.

We have a cut off only because we create.

The list has grown so tremendously that it's about a 40 page document that lists all the people that are being remembered or honored for lights of love.

So in order to create that document and get it ready to be made public,

we have to cut it off somewhere.

So if we get the money now between now and next November first, then it'll go on next year's list.

And we had a handful of those that made this year's list that came in after the deadline last year.

So it happens.

Yeah.

This is how it went for us with my Nana, and we waited the year.

And it still hit the heart. It still meant just as much to us.

And it was a wonderful way, especially it being over there,

where she kind of spent her last days and everything was over at a spire.

So it really was fitting.

And a lot more healing than I know that I or my papa would have thought it was at the time until we're actually there and experiencing it and everything.

And granted, while there's a lot of us that are in those moments to have those feelings going on,

even if you don't, this is a beautiful thing to be a part of.

God bless each one of you that has not had any loss recently or anything like that.

I hope everybody, I hope everybody out there listening has none of that.

But if you are in that realm, I think this event can still be just as beautiful and impactful to you.

Yeah.

The thing that I think is really beautiful about the event is we do bring in the community in a lot of different ways.

We have the Grove School, 3rd through 5th grade choir, comes out and sings some holiday songs as part of the festive atmosphere.

We have the 6th graders of our Wisconsin Rapids area, middle school, right essays for an essay contest.

And the winners of that contest get to read their essays over the air.

And it's all about giving in community.

And so.

And I see that you're even going to have a live radio broadcast.

Whiffer is going to be a whiffer.

I don't know if I'm saying no WFA chart. That's us.

Oh, we're going to be.

Yes.

We are humbled and always appreciative to be a part of this event we have for many, many years.

I've hosted Melissa's done it.

I believe Beth will be doing it this year.

We're already making sure should be warm enough.

We are passing around a collection plate for bigger, bigger jackets for her.

But it's the heart is warm the whole time this event.

It really is.

And this is a beautiful one.

Let's get into the details of when the event is taking place and let people know how they can make plans mark their calendar.

Excellent.

The actual tree lighting ceremony will begin at 5.30 p.m.

I know there are some pre event interviews that will be broadcast.

But then the actual ceremony will begin at 5.30.

We will hear from the president of Aspirus.

We'll hear from a local pastor.

The essays will be read.

The kids will sing some songs.

And then we'll all count down together for the tree lighting.

And Dr. Anna Olsen, one of our oncology doctors, will give a message about community support.

Oh, cool.

Yeah.

And these are, I'm so glad you brought up the other parts with the kids and all these other things.

Because the lights part is certainly a big part of it.

The headline, but there's so many other great parts of this event that are great to take in.

Good for the heart, especially this time of year.

Whatever you and your family are feeling or experiencing right now,

this is an event that I think can be so meaningful and impactful and really hit the heart.

When it comes to the lights of love tree lighting ceremony,

it takes place Wednesday, November 19th at 5.30 over at Aspirus as Ann was just telling us

if people want to find out more information or anything about it.

And is there a good way to do that?

Can they reach out to you?

Yes, they're welcome to reach out to me.

My direct line at Aspirus is 715-421-7963.

And I'd be happy to answer any questions about it.

Keep in mind everyone is invited in person around the trees from your vehicle.

You can pull up there and park and listen to the the broad live broadcast.

It'll be here on WFHR.

Again, I believe Beth will be doing that.

Well, more details for you as we get a little closer to the event.

But really looking forward to this and really appreciate the time and thanks so much for joining us.

You're welcome. Thank you for having me.

Say hi to the team over there for us as Aspirus and we'll talk again soon.

Okay, thank you.

Leigh and I will be back with more show coming up right here at WFHR.

Welcome back everyone.

Morning show here at WFHR.

Locally grown radio.

Leigh and James hanging out with you.

Thanks for hanging out with us.

Hope you're having a good Wednesday out there, everybody.

A big shout out to Ann Marie for joining us from Aspirus.

Talk about light to love.

That was a lot of fun.

Appreciate that Ann.

Thank you.

Let's dive into a little bit of entertainment news.

Okay.

And the big, I would say one of the bigger TV or streaming moments that has been building and building is the wrap up of Stranger Things.

It does right around the corner.

And Stranger Things has killed off a lot of side characters.

But the main cast is intact as we head into season five.

That almost wasn't the case though.

Two of the show's biggest characters almost didn't make it.

Leigh, are you a fan of the show?

I know one that you're going to say.

But I'm curious who the other one is.

I felt from the very first episode that this one character was never meant to carry on.

And I couldn't tell you exactly why but there was something about it.

And so it's not shocking there.

But the other one really threw me.

So Jim Hopper is one of them.

I remember at the end of season three when it appeared that he had died in an explosion and all that stuff and everything.

Well, the creators had seriously discussions about killing him off right there.

And they were not going to bring him back.

I feel like they've almost sneakishly tried to kill him off every single season though.

I thought after the first episode.

Yeah.

I thought I didn't think he was going to survive the first episode.

I was a little surprised and I only see him keep going.

But his character kind of expand and become bigger and bigger.

Luckily they felt Hopper still had some growing to do.

So they saved him and David Harbroll lived on and all that.

The other one is Steve Harrington.

That's the one that I did know about.

If you can believe it, he was supposed to bite it way back in season one.

Yeah.

But everybody fell in love with Joe Kerney.

And so they kept him on.

I can't argue with that.

Obviously the right call since Steve Harrington became one of the show's most popular characters.

He's so good.

And I don't know if it really is it's thought about by others or anything like that.

But not only for people in real life, but just in stories and all that.

I love arc.

I love the arc of a character.

Oh yeah.

We meet them here.

They become this.

Yep.

And what I love about it is when it's done right.

When it's actually believable and all that.

Yeah.

His is one of the better ones I've seen written.

Absolutely.

Where when you first meet him and all these things, you have this immediate like.

Just taste.

I knew that kid in high school.

Yeah.

I hated that kid in high school and all that.

And because of not only the actor's talent and charisma and skill, but the writers getting

this and working with that and being able to.

Like a good coach that can take that skill set and win with it.

Very good writers, good directors can do that with a certain actor.

And they really did that with this kid.

Yeah.

They really did to a point where he became one of people's favorite parts of the show.

Even though the original concept, you write that you write these scripts and it's not just episode one.

You wrote out the whole first season.

Yeah.

And he ain't in the whole first season.

He's only in one episode.

Right.

So they got to go back and rewrite these things and work it in so it makes sense and all that.

And they do it because of an actor.

It's one of the dreams of every actor.

Oh, sure.

Because it's not just, oh, I'm getting more work and everything about this industry is getting what's my paycheck.

Where's my next paycheck coming from?

But as an actor, especially a young actor, I can't imagine the confidence builder that.

Oh, yeah.

Chris Pratt, famously, two parts of it.

I literally was thinking that exact same thing.

Yeah.

Had the same thing happen for him.

Yeah.

He was only supposed to be in one episode.

I mean, honestly, that's how I feel I ended up here on the morning show.

You met me.

You met me when we were doing on Golden Pond and one day you pulled me aside.

That's funny.

Hey, you want to be on the radio?

Oh, my God.

I've been discovered.

I don't think I told you this part.

I had, if I had to bet on that at the moment, I would have bet that you didn't want to.

I didn't actually think you were going to spend more time with you James.

You called my bluff.

Exactly.

You called my bluff.

Oh, no.

I saw what everybody else did.

I love this for these actors.

I think that's really cool.

It's also just a really interesting thing to think of when the Duffer Brothers working on this for years.

They put a script together finally rewrite after rewrite.

They go in there and they're finally getting to do their dream.

Yeah.

Because just as much as I talk about that with these actors, nobody loves stranger things more than Duffer Brothers.

This is their baby.

This is their creation.

Well, and they have really built like an absolute time capsule to the 1980s.

So I remember when the first season came out, I worked with a whole bunch of people that were about 10 years my junior.

So they did not grow up in the 80s like I did.

And they were all talking about, oh, yeah, this seems really accurate.

And I turned around to the rest of these children.

And I was like, no, it's so accurate.

You don't even understand down to the Pringles cans.

This is one of the things that I think that more and more businesses, more and more companies are starting to pick up on.

They're doing it a little late that these two mastered in this first episode.

They did it so well.

Not only starting with a Halloween episode, but because of that, you have costumes that are throwbacks.

Oh, yeah.

And getting the actual costumes, not like modernizing and making new ones or anything, but the actual like old costumes from that time.

The ones that like the really hard masks that would cut off your breathing, I remember going as Casper the Ghost in 1981.

And I'm still suffering the trauma of that to this day.

Yes, yeah, understandable.

None of our lips are right.

Now, all of us have messed up lips because of those masks.

Every one of us.

It's really, they could write a master class on a pilot episode.

Because that pilot episode is stranger things.

Hope to.

Even if it wasn't your kind of genre, if you were from that era, it pulled you right in the nostalgia overload.

I watched the entire first season, like I started it at like nine o'clock at night stupidly and at five o'clock in the morning.

I'm like, I guess I should go to bed now.

It's over, but I need more.

If I, if I didn't do it with the whole season, I did it for at least like three episodes up with you.

Yeah, I binge the first three or so.

And I think it was like the first show I did that with.

I don't, I don't remember binging a lot.

I still don't binge a lot of stuff, but that one I couldn't help it.

That one was just so captivating.

It is.

We are in the holiday marathon right now.

It is a stressful, busy time.

And one of the things that we try to do on the show is give you a break from a lot of that.

Give you a little bit of lightness throughout the day.

Serious comedy to start your days.

Line of always going on.

And certainly giving you tips on how to get through the holidays.

One of the things is, I think it's a great one is meditation.

And really being able to take a breath, take a moment.

And turn down for what?

Yes.

What?

Yeah.

Because that makes me relaxed.

Have you ever meditated to a little job?

So for those in our audience that don't know what late, late early,

Otts rapper, I'm not sure exactly where a little John stretch was,

but it was a while ago.

Yeah.

It was a while ago.

His big thing in his songs.

Oh, yeah.

And it's a lot.

And some of that and everything.

So not exactly the person that you would think of as a meditation teacher.

Absolutely not.

But now you can.

Little John just released a collection of guided meditations

that remix six of his biggest hits into soundscapes

that can help you find your center.

That's absolutely wild.

Get low lovers and friends.

Alive.

Good.

Good old goodies.

All these have been remixed.

The album is called Remix Meditation.

And John says, quote,

there was a time in my life where there was a lot of stuff going on,

a meditation and staying, saying affirmations,

helped me to get back to a positive mindset

when I was drifting away from it.

It helped me to really manifest what I wanted out of life.

So it was important to share all of that stuff with people.

I mean, good on him, but I do not find his voice soothing.

No, no, not at all.

But, you know, similar to what we were talking about earlier,

with candy canes and everything, when you're trying to reinvent the wheel,

when you're trying to come up with new ways of selling your music,

or even maybe, you know, especially in the rap game,

as you get older, some of this stuff doesn't hit the same.

No.

It's like we've all seen that guy that should stop turning his cat backwards.

Like, stop.

You're too old.

You're not pulling it off anymore, man.

We know you're bald.

Stop it.

Like, you just turn the hat forward.

You go where it had, just turn it forward.

That's all.

Or find a more mature cat.

There's got to be a way to round this.

I still dress like a teenager, so I'm not like making fun of anybody here.

I'm just as bad.

I'm just as bad.

But, you know, as far as, okay, I can't write new music.

Like, it's hard.

I've heard Andre 3000 talk about this.

I've heard a lot of rappers talk about how, as you get older,

you know, other things come up, and it's kind of like, well,

it doesn't hit the same at a certain age.

There's very few rappers that really can stay in the game that long.

It's that kind of industry.

Now, you do get a kind of weird thing where after a little while,

you can come back.

Right.

And your stuff's nostalgic and all that.

But even that's not hitting the same as it did when you were in high school or when you were younger.

No.

There's not a lot of music genres like this.

Electronic music may be a little bit, but for the most part,

not a lot of...

So, if you're a hip-hop artist, how do you stay relevant or how do you make new music,

especially when you're a creative and you want to?

Yeah.

This is a very original idea.

I suppose so.

But it just makes me want to go.

What?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Which is not relaxing at all.

No.

I do want to hear these, though.

I do want to hear at least one or two of them.

And, you know, credit to him.

Credit to him.

I not only want people to help people, but just finding a different way of doing this.

I mean, every rapper comes out with the greatest hits,

remixes their old songs or whatever.

This is a little bit different at least.

You never know.

I mean, good on him because he's probably, hopefully,

there'll be a subset of his fans that will be like, you know what?

I've never tried meditation, and maybe it'll do them some good.

So, no harm in it.

It's just...

Well, John.

Well, of all their rappers.

I will say, there are a couple of rappers I could think of that might have been really good

at this.

Like, Ra Kim has my favorite voice in hip-hop history.

It's very low-toned and very calm, but can hit moments, you know.

It's a little bit almost monotone in some ways.

Yeah.

Think you almost need that.

Like, M&M would not be good at this.

Like, there's certain rappers that would never be good at meditation.

Yeah.

But there are some that I actually think, you know what?

They got a kind of a nut-naz.

It's got a really, like, kind of a low-key voice.

Okay.

And everything I could kind of see it.

All right.

Lorena Hill, maybe Marlon.

Compile a list and I'll consider it.

Yeah.

I'll have to take a look.

You let me know.

Yeah, Lauren Hill, for sure.

I could definitely see that.

Yeah.

She's amazing.

Just a couple of other things, one of the mentioned before,

about the entertainment segment here.

Our great friends at Family and Natural Foods are going to be joining us

a little bit later today for the rapid support.

Looking forward to hanging out with them.

Talk with Steven and Katrina.

They have a panel discussion and health talk coming up Tuesday, November 18th.

Next Tuesday, Mark your calendar.

515 over at Family and Natural Foods at 910 West Grand Avenue.

Come with questions for Family and Natural Foods.

They'll have an expert panel and they will share their perspectives on multiple topics.

It is a really cool idea.

A really kind of, just a smorgasborg, a gumbo of questions and different things

that they can cover and help with.

Especially if you're, say you want to add, you have a question,

but you haven't necessarily felt comfortable asking over the phone,

but you'd rather do it in person or something.

Here's a great opportunity for that.

That's awesome.

Not only Kat and Steven, but the whole team that they got over there,

nothing but a wealth of information.

And looking to give it to you, looking to help you stay healthy

during these winter months and everything.

That panel discussion and health talk will take place Tuesday, November 18th,

515 and 910 West Grand Avenue right here in Rapids.

Find their Facebook page, let RSVP, let them know that you're coming.

And we are collecting recipes for our WFHR cookbook.

You head on over to WFHR.com right now.

Sign up for that newsletter, got a new edition coming up for you in just a few.

Just a couple of days here and everything.

I will have that for you.

And while you're there, submit that recipe.

We are looking to collect all the recipes we can.

This is one of our ways of celebrating WFHR's 85th anniversary.

And it's a love letter to our community.

It's our way of saying thanks.

If your recipe is submitted, you'll get a free edition of the cookbook.

It's a really fun way of doing this.

Have you entered a recipe yet?

I have.

I thought so.

I've got another one in mind.

But also really great opportunity to share your Thanksgiving recipes.

Yes.

Do you have any crazy jello recipes that are rattling around in your brain?

Any ethnic foods?

I mean, you don't get a lot of it.

That's what I did because my family, my dad was from Pakistan.

So I threw in one of our curry recipes.

I am going to go back and throw in a sandwich recipe that my mom made just invented out of the blue when I was a child.

So I'm going to submit that.

And then yeah, just some good old home cooking.

Get it in there.

I think that I love what you said about the ethnic foods.

I love being able to put some representation in there.

Let's get some Italian.

Are there any long recipes out there that we can include?

We've got a more vibrant community than I think people think.

And so let's display our good old traditional Wisconsin dishes.

A lot of German food out there, I know.

A lot of great Mexican restaurants in town.

Hey, get all of your cooks to go on our website and throw those recipes up there.

I know my Italian grandmother loved Polish food.

And made us a lot of great Polish food over the years.

I know we've got a lot of that out there.

We want those recipes.

Because we want this to be a representation of our area.

And as Alia well said, our area has got a lot of this to it.

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Submit that recipe, be a part of the cookbook.

We are going to be having our cutoff for this is this Friday.

So please get that recipe in by this Friday everybody.

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Yes.

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Speaking of Mal, we got our news coming up right here.

Well, I also have sports, entertainment, our partners.

And when Alia and I get back, waiting.

Science says waiting is good for the brain.

You will wait for that discussion in the details of that.

It's coming up.

But it'll be good for you.

It'll be good for you.

It's okay.

Welcome back everybody.

Morning show here at WFHR.

Locally grown radio.

Alia and James hanging out with you.

Thanks for hanging out with us.

I know.

The waiting is the hardest part.

Tom Petty tried to teach us this.

I got to.

I had to do it.

I'm just ignoring that.

That's the best, the happiest thing you could do.

Keep that in your pocket.

I totally in my pocket.

Not the last time you're going to need to use that.

If you pulled 100 people and asked them the question,

do you enjoy waiting?

How many people do you actually think would say yes?

Maybe a couple?

I don't know.

Not many.

I don't think I would not be on the list of people that said yes.

I enjoy it.

Call up if you do.

715-424-2600.

Call their Texas through the Civic Media app as well.

Thanks so much to everybody downloading the app.

Because I'm curious now.

Now that we're actually talking about it.

I don't know if you might get 100% of the vote.

Nobody likes to wait.

I don't know if we've ever said anything on the air

that we get 100% of the vote.

That might be the one.

But a new study just came out that says

waiting is really good for you.

I don't believe it.

Nobody wants to.

So try to remember that the next time you are losing your mind

waiting in line.

Here are the reasons why.

Being okay with waiting improves your self-control.

Waiting is an exercise in patience.

So being able to regulate your emotions

and not get annoyed will only help you in the long run.

And you talk about something that you can pick up and put

in almost everything in life, whether it's business,

it's your personal life, it's work, whatever it might be.

That what I just said there can be benefit.

It can be applied to it.

But that's so vague.

How is this going to help me in the long run?

Yeah.

It's one of those things where this is one of those things

where the science necessarily can't give you the numbers.

They can't really back up.

It's a feel, I think.

I mean, I guess if you look at it sociologically

at how we've been conditioned as a society

with the advance of technology over the last several decades,

we're so used to like, you know,

there's a comedian out there.

I think his name is Ronnie Chung

that in one of his stand-ups, he's like,

I want Amazon now.

Like, you know, I'm going to buy a snack.

I want to do my mouth right now.

Like, I don't even want to wait.

And like, I get that.

And that's something that my family

would joke about that all the time at home.

But yeah, I can understand like that waiting piece

just maybe to ground you.

Maybe that's what little John's all about right now.

So yeah, I guess, you know,

you know, you shouldn't get what you want

right away all the time.

But also, if I am in a line

at a grocery store or a pharmacy or something,

I don't want to wait.

I just want my stuff and to get home to my family.

It's all we want.

It's all ready of us want.

Yeah, it's a very relatable though.

I will say this though.

Think about like our generation.

We can be impatient.

We can be a little bit give it to us now.

We are the, you know,

minute microwave generation and stuff.

The beginnings of microwave meals

and stuff like that and everything.

We're also the generation

that had to wait three minutes

for our TV shows to come back on.

And some of those things.

Yeah.

So we at least come into this with this modern world.

The times we're in right now and everything

with some idea of having what it is

to wait for this.

Yeah.

Think about the younger generation.

What?

And how are they going to be about patients?

How are they going to be about waiting?

That will be interesting.

Because I mean, I don't know

how else to word this and everything.

We better learn to teach them it

because they're going to need it.

Like there's going to be times in life.

They're going to have to wait.

Yeah.

No matter what we're talking about,

there's something in life,

a doctor's appointment or, you know,

getting their car fixed.

Our new video game coming out.

And they have to wait for the release.

So, you know, they're getting it in different ways.

But I do often feel like,

if my kids are like,

but I want it now.

And I'm like, well, you have to wait.

Like I did when I was a kid.

Then I just feel like an old,

funny, daddy.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I'm not yet.

Almost.

I will say, I think that right away,

one of the things that stands out to me,

I can't think of many things in life.

I didn't have to wait for.

And they always were better.

Like the gift was better.

The food tasted better.

The moment was better.

Waiting really leads to that.

I couldn't say that if I got it instantly,

I would feel the same just speaking for myself.

Okay.

Waiting before,

number two on this list.

Waiting before you respond to an email

or make a purchase can be a lifesaver.

People tend to read,

be read impulsively.

This internet intentional pause

before you make a big decision

could be the difference.

Think before you hit send.

Yeah.

This is something that her medwards old football coach

said a long time ago

that I applied to just about everything in modern times.

Yeah.

Email, text, whatever it is.

You're in the moment.

You're angry.

You're frustrated.

I literally just went through this everybody.

And what I did,

I pulled up a draft.

And I typed out what I was feeling.

But guess what I didn't do?

I didn't put a send.

I didn't put anybody in the sending thing.

I didn't put in any email in there.

Any address in there.

So I didn't accidentally send this email out

or anything like that.

But I got it out of my system.

I've vented to our staff.

I feel a lot better.

I apologize to everybody.

But it can do so much good.

Yes.

I'm a dictator around here.

It's important everybody finally knows.

That pause,

that pause that you give yourself can be a game changer.

Yeah.

It can keep you from not only maybe embarrassing yourself,

but possibly like burning a bridge.

Well, and I feel like that sometimes comes with maturity.

I don't think that like 20 years ago,

me would have been able to pause on hitting send.

That would have been like,

I have angry feelings.

And they must be known now.

Right.

But in a similar situation now,

I'd probably sit there and be like,

what are the ramifications of what's going to happen to me?

And do I really want to deal with the stress?

I'm Italian.

We are emotional beings.

We are emotions are not just on our sleeve.

They're on both sleeves and the sleeves are cut off.

And so they're falling all over the place.

We do everything big.

We cannot help ourselves.

And for individuals like that,

it's human nature to just immediately,

well, I'm angry about this.

I'm going to make darn sure people know about it.

It can go so much farther to have that patience.

And I also think that there's something really healing about that too.

Yeah.

When you have a breath and you think about it,

you're like,

all right, I don't know what I was so angry about.

That actually isn't that big of a deal.

Like everything's okay.

Everything's fine.

You are entitled to your feelings.

You are entitled to your emotions.

And people have a right to feel angry and things.

Absolutely.

But so much of this, like we were talking about before,

with the Thanksgiving meals,

you don't like the mashed potatoes.

What good does it really do to tell the host

you don't like the mashed potatoes?

They don't feel better.

They're not going to, I mean,

that's not going to make them go in the kitchen

and make brand new ones.

Well, you're not getting invited back to next Thanksgiving right there.

No, no.

It's about you.

Yeah.

How often, think about that.

Like when you're angry about things,

when you're frustrated about things,

are you making it all about you?

Or is it, actually,

do you really have a leg to stand on here?

Is this something worth legitimately

getting frustrated about?

Or is it,

hey, you were inconvenienced,

but you're okay.

No blood, no foul.

You're going to be all right.

Yeah.

Having that perspective,

I keep saying this perspective

could be the best friend you have,

the older you get.

Mm-hmm.

Having that.

Take a call.

Good morning.

You're on the air.

Yeah.

Waiting, actually,

can be good for you.

I mean,

I'm 71 years old,

and waiting all for the wild.

That was me that slowed all my heart for the wild.

And I also love watching other people

grow their mind,

because they can't stand waiting.

Oh, I didn't think of that.

It's for the entertainment value.

No, yes, for people watching.

That's, yes.

When you're standing in line,

people watching is one of the things

that helps pass the time.

Oh, good line.

Good points, sir.

Appreciate you.

Have a good morning.

Thank you for the call.

That's bad as good.

He goes home and he's got a good story

to tell the rest of the family.

Did you see that psychopath lose in their mind?

Well,

and let's be honest,

you feel better about you.

Yeah.

Okay.

No, I'm crazy and weird,

but I'm that crazy and weird.

Right.

A little bit of that.

A little bit of that.

A little bit of that.

A little bit of that.

And finally,

waiting can also be fun if you savor it.

How many times has the excitement

and countdown for your trip

been better than this trip itself?

The journey, not the destination.

If you turn waiting into a game,

it can be fun.

Your road trip

is the definition of this.

Yeah.

Road trips are one of the more fun,

cool things you can do with family,

with friends and all that,

at least I think it is.

Yeah.

And it's very seldom sure.

You want to get to the Grand Canyon.

You're looking forward to seeing the Grand Canyon.

Yeah.

But how many stories do you have

from the Grand Canyon

and how many stories do you have

from the road trip?

That's true.

You know,

and so much of that road trip,

you can be like you and I,

Elliott,

and planning all these things and all that.

Yeah.

There's still so much that's just going to happen.

Right.

And that's where the fun

and the story is coming,

everything.

So I actually,

I think that's a really good example of that.

Okay.

So instead of seeing,

seeing waiting as an inconvenience,

try to reframe it in your mind.

Think of it as an opportunity to reflect

or give your brain the gift

of zoning out free from judgment.

That last part, I think,

is really key to this.

And this is something that you got to want to do.

And I learn this growing up

and an addicted family

and some of those things

that nothing happens until you want it to.

Right.

But if you want to rewire your brain,

you can.

I am the definition of this.

Anybody that knows me

for longer than 20 years or whatever

would never imagine

that I would have turned out like this.

But I worked,

I worked your much,

much worse than they thought.

I'm much worse.

Much worse.

But I worked on it.

I worked on rewire in that brain.

I worked on seeing the world differently.

And instead of seeing the negative in things,

seeing the positive in things,

having perspective with life.

And not only is my life better for it

and the people around me are better for it,

but I don't even recognize old me.

I don't even know what that was like anymore.

Right.

Once I got to this certain part,

there's no going back.

That is one of those,

it also is one of those things

that can be really comforting.

It's a little bit like when the reflexes,

the doctor does,

when he hits your knee and it just goes.

You're not really making your knee go,

it just goes.

That's the way my brain works now.

It just does this.

I just cannot help but look for the silver linings

in everything in life.

What?

And it goes.

Not a bad thing to do.

It goes a lot farther.

I would say this.

I am enjoying life more.

Well, and it helps you in those moments

when you actually are faced with something

that is really traumatic or really a big deal.

If you can take that step back and say,

you know what?

I've lived through every single day.

I've lived so far and I'm still alive

and I'm still here kicking it.

And you know, how can I put a spin on this

so that I can move forward and grow

from whatever is happening right now?

And when it comes to waiting,

we wait for callvers.

We wait for callvers with no complaint.

That's the only instance where I go away to willingly.

You wait because you know it's good.

You know it's good.

You never get a bad meal from callvers.

You wait for that.

I think you can take that as an example

and how much waiting can be up.

And again, keeping in mind also,

you're going to have to wait one way or the other.

Why not try to make it somewhat enjoyable

and somewhat okay instead of just sitting there

and standing in line or waiting in the break room

or wherever it is and just being grumpy and all that.

It's going to happen one way or the other.

You choose if you want it to be enjoyable

or you want to be a grump.

I will say though,

like when you are sitting at the callvers

drive through waiting for your bag,

that is the only time

or even if you don't get your bag next,

you're still feeling joy

because you're like the next bag is going to be mine.

The fish is in there.

When you're like when you're one car away

and that car ahead of you,

all they get is a soda.

It's just like one little quick item.

That's a great feeling.

Like oh, whoa, you don't have one.

You barely have to hit the break.

You're like oh, we're moving up already.

It's such a great feeling.

You feel like you want the lottery on that.

Like I paid for this food

but you still feel like you want something.

Pretty sure I know where I'm going for lunch today now.

You are going to believe me.

We will take a quick time out.

Come back and wrap up the show.

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Thanks for hanging out with us.

Hope you're having a good one out there.

Wrap up the show.

Take it to the top of the hour.

Another great civic media program

and coming up for you throughout the day.

Be sure to stick around for it everybody.

Great stuff going on throughout the day.

We'll be back at this tomorrow with a bunch of great stuff lined up for you.

And yes, Terry is going to sit in with us tomorrow.

CEO of your United Way of Southwood at Am's counties.

I got a bunch of heavy questions for her.

Not really.

But we are going to catch up and talk about some great things going on

that the United Way is up to.

We will also be talking with our great friends from family natural foods.

That is our guest for the Rapids Report today.

Steven and Katrina Hentner are going to be with us.

Our friends family really.

They'll be here talking about some of the great stuff that they have going on.

Earlier, Alia and I were talking about the event and the panel discussion