Can You Tell Them? (Hour 1)

Good morning, Wisconsin. Morning, world. It's a new day. Thanks for kicking it off with us at W.F.H.I.

Got your host, James J behind the mic. I am joined by our head of news, our co-host, Melissa K.

and the best listeners in radio. Wow, Melissa, you sound really low right there. We got to change that.

I'm going to up it on my end. Okay, I'll see if I can do it so on Mars too here. We're going to have some fun this morning.

We're going to kick things off the way we like to with a good friend, Brittany Merlowe. Brittany, good morning.

Good morning. How are you guys doing?

Doing good over here. Doing good.

Brittany, I want to just real quickly show my brains here a little bit because I did some homework.

By that, I mean, I signed up for the Up North newsletter, which I encourage everybody to do.

I saw a really nice article on here about some of our coldest temperatures we've ever had here in Wisconsin.

What do you think? What do you think?

So on February 2nd and February 4th in 1996, the Badger State recorded its two coldest temperatures in history,

negative 55 in Cordory, Wisconsin, in Sawyer County, and then the highest temperature was 114 on July 13th in 1936.

That was an interesting one.

Most snowfall we got was in Nielsville in 1904.

I don't know if we're going to beat that Nielsville one.

I don't know if we're going to beat that one from 1904 anytime soon, but it is interesting to see these low temps.

I don't know about other people, but between my love of history and weather, I find this stuff to make it a little bit warmer.

It's not negative 55 at least.

That was an actual temperature. That wasn't even a windshield.

That was the actual temperature following the 55 below zero.

It was darn cold that day.

It was crazy.

Yeah, that warms you up. I like your method here.

Whatever you got to do, right?

What does it look like for us today?

All right, now our temperatures are at a mere two degrees that it feels about 15 below zero.

When you think about 55 below, like you said, feels warm.

It's not so bad.

Not so bad.

Not too bad, right?

It will be mostly cloudy today.

Those winds will ease up this afternoon so that wind show will become less and less.

And our highs today, they don't really get too warm.

They stayed about 15 degrees.

So a chilly crisp one today, but the clouds still hanging on.

They'll still be here tomorrow, too.

But we will warm up a little bit to the upper 20s by tomorrow all ahead of another shot of light snow.

That looks to move in by tomorrow night, probably after six or seven or so.

Continue through the overnight and be done by Thursday morning.

But it's a little bit sloppy.

This one wants to bring in snow and potentially some freezing rain.

So Thursday morning there could be icy spots, especially on those untreated roads or ramps or areas like that.

Keep that in mind.

But otherwise, we'll be mild to end the week with temperatures in the 20s and partly sunny skies.

So a little bit of sunshine to close the week out, which will brighten the mood.

Yeah, that helps a little bit.

As long as we stay out of the ditches, it'll be bright.

Yeah.

Yeah.

I don't know if we are both doing it at the same time or not, Melissa.

But as she was saying, the temperatures, I was rubbing my hands.

I'm indoors and I was rubbing my hands to try to warm them up even though this.

Well, to be fair, I'm rubbing in lotion at the moment.

Yeah, we were actually doing it at the same time.

I was nodding my head as she was going 20s.

Oh, there we go.

We appreciate you, Brittany.

Thanks so much for hanging out with us.

We'll talk tomorrow.

Hey, warm.

Have a good day.

You too.

Appreciate you, Brittany.

Best in the business right there.

Brittany Burlow joined against every morning right in this time slot.

You sound great now, Melissa.

Volume sounds great.

Yeah.

Yeah, I had to up.

See, look behind the curtain for the audience.

We had an update on clean feed and man, everything looked weird this morning.

Yeah, it did.

It should be, too.

It's like bright, brighter and things are more rounded.

It kind of looks a little more cartoony, but you know, so far so good.

Well, as long as it's working and we got you on, that's what matters.

And I had to adjust my settings again to get me, you know, to boost things up.

But that's why I have to type in your first name every morning.

I have to tie.

I know I don't, again, look, look even farther behind the curtain.

I've never been great at spelling the name Melissa.

Until the last couple of years, now I got a doubt.

Well, now you've had practice.

And this is the traditional spelling of Melissa.

Not everybody spells it this way.

Oh, I didn't know that.

Oh, that's cool.

We got some other cool stuff lined up for you today.

A little bit later, of course, we're going to get in just a little bit.

We'll get into the El Caffe birthday anniversary club looking forward to that.

We are going to get into, would you tell a friend if they had BO?

How many of us would do that?

And what we're comfortable with telling our close friends are not.

You know, you got something between your teeth, that kind of thing.

Oh, that always.

Strangers.

I would do that for strangers.

Absolutely.

We got hot food takes.

We're going to be getting into, we'll get into some of those.

Not a clock hour, we'll feature some entertainment.

Got an old TV show coming back.

Another one that is stalled.

And I want to remind everybody about some local theater coming up and going on.

Getting to all of that.

And it is Facebook's 21st birthday.

So we've got 21 things to never post on there.

I'm going to get into that.

Got advice.

And before we wrap up, came across a really cool story about an individual entrepreneur

transforming old cement bags into solar charging backpacks to help children read at night.

Oh, that's awesome.

Yeah, it's a pretty cool article.

I'll get into that one a little bit later.

But right now, it is a Super Bowl week.

And whether you care, like the Super Bowl or not.

Yeah, exactly.

I love this part of our show that we have such a two different side.

There's a million shows out there with a bunch of yes people and stuff.

I want you to be yourself.

I want you to be honest about it.

And I think that you represent a good portion of the audience.

There's plenty, especially this year, where not many people really like the teams that are involved in everything.

But let's be also honest about this.

Most of us are at least going to catch some of the game or pay attention to the commercials or something.

So hey, why not get paid for it?

The site finance buzz is looking to hire someone to taste test 20 different Super Bowl snacks from Costco.

It'll pay a thousand bucks plus a five hundred dollar gift card.

Anyone can apply.

You can just have you just have to live someone close to a Costco and have access to a Costco membership.

Dang it.

That is a little bit of a catch.

Yeah, they're calling it the sideline sampler side hustle.

You'll taste test 20 different snacks, including wings, pizza, mini tacos, mozzarella sticks and more.

You'll photograph each of them, write a brief description, and then rate them all based on how good they are and how hard they are to make.

I kind of like that last part.

Yeah, that you actually have to make the food too.

That's you're working for it then.

And they cut off.

You might think, well, it's already Super Bowl week, but the cutoff is tomorrow.

So you still got time to do this, everybody.

You can go to financebuzz.com to find out more financebuzz.com.

I love the idea of going to a Super Bowl party and you're the only one doing this.

Like people wondering what you're doing.

Like you're taking photos all your fun.

Why you brought 20 different SNOOP snacks.

Yeah.

I like that.

And I kind of, I will admit that there is a part of me that wanted to just jump on the fact of the side hustle and how bad,

how everybody has to have a side hustle nowadays because nobody's getting paid with their worth

or should be getting paid as far as the economy and all that.

But moving on from that, because I think we can all agree.

Most of us can agree on that.

If you can't, it must be nice to be making the kind of money you're making.

But as far as this goes, I think this also would be a really great way of getting, say,

there are plenty of people out there that are going to be doing this just because they're significant other

or their friends are doing it.

So maybe this would make it more entertaining for those people.

You know, really don't care much about the game, but there there's this.

Yeah, it could be.

And it does sound like something that would interest you, James, because, yes, side hustle, check, sports, check, snack food, check.

Yeah, I'm a grazer.

It's all I do.

This is like 90% of my diet.

This seems like the perfect side hustle for you.

It really is.

So why aren't you doing this?

I actually thought about it.

I actually thought about it.

Well, where is, I have to look, where is our closest Costco?

That's a great question.

I did not look that up.

Because you know, I have, I have actually more and more respect for that company as time goes on.

Well, they're, they're one of the ones that it does look like.

Well, certainly, I've known a couple of people, when I lived in Illinois, I knew a couple of people that worked there.

And they always talked very highly about working for Costco.

I, you know, that's, that's here or there, but it did speak to me pretty well.

Because I, I think the same thing about Quicktrip.

I've known a lot of people that have worked at Quicktrips and I've always heard that they get treated good.

Yeah.

Looks like Appleton.

Okay.

Yeah, that makes sense.

Yeah.

Yeah, that makes sense.

I'll go visit my brother and I'll go check out a Milwaukee herd game error.

I don't know.

I don't know.

I don't know.

So you can go ahead and do this.

Everybody if you'd like.

I think it'd be a fun try.

And it might make the, might make the game a little more interesting to you.

More entertaining.

No.

And you will have lots of snacks.

20.

Now, say you can't, you don't feel like it or you can't or you don't have the time or do, you know,

do you want to do the side hustle thing or sign up for it or anything like that.

What about just making a game of things?

Your own game.

It would send a game.

And, you know, with the snacks or something like that.

Something reasonable.

You don't want to do one of those.

Hey, who can eat the most, you know, mozzarella sticks things.

Those only end badly.

But, you know, coming up with side hustle games can, it could be fun.

Could make it part of the game, you know.

Well, don't they have like a, like a bingo card for the Super Bowl or something?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Like, what are the things you expect to see in the commercials?

Make it all about the commercials.

That way you're, you know, and here's one of the dirty secrets about football.

These guys only pay play like actually 10 minutes of the game.

Like, the actual playing of the game.

You can basketball and hockey and other sports and everything.

It's pretty much consistent action.

And football stops, starts, stops, starts.

I mean, it's a lot of go when they're going.

Absolutely.

Yeah.

And there's something they're warriors.

There's some of the toughest people on the planet.

Yeah.

It's like getting, it's like a car crash every time those guys run into each other.

Yes.

Yeah.

We're not minimizing that at all.

No, but, but as far as the time of the game, it's not really that much.

You can make an argument.

There's as much time commercial time as there is actual gameplay.

So why not make the game the commercials?

Four hours.

Yeah.

Oh, yeah.

Yeah.

And you're not even talking about the pregame, which I believe starts in about an hour.

The pregame for the Super Bowl starts by, it's insane.

Every year, it seems like there's another hour tacked on to the pregame.

To the point where it used to be like you're getting these back stories of the backup quarterback and everything.

And his, how he made it to where now every single player basically gets like a bio.

Every player.

Like the water boy is getting away.

Melissa, it is, it is very cool.

You're absolutely right.

Because I would probably watch that over the game itself.

And that might be why they're doing it.

To appeal to people like me who could not give two hoots about the actual game.

Well, I will say one of the funny things to me is as smart as most of these businesses are out there.

It doesn't seem like like the NFL has tried so hard to appeal to women to appeal to minorities.

And how have they done that with the like lamest attempts I've ever seen at anything?

End racism.

Like just end racism in the back.

It's the end so just no no like inspirational thing.

Know how to end racism or anything like that.

Just hey, let's end racism.

Great idea.

You know what?

Like you couldn't you couldn't get more generic or like if you threw it into an AI system,

it wouldn't come up with something.

Let's create it.

I don't know.

Haven't done James.

They haven't done with football what they've done with basically every women's sports.

Why aren't those absolutely racked football players wearing crop tops and shorts?

Yeah.

I will admit.

Like seriously.

Why not?

Personally, I'm glad that isn't happening.

But I do agree with you.

I do.

I do understand what you're saying.

I mean, you're okay for women's sports.

Look at the volleyball outfits.

You're right.

Look at the things they expected, the gymnasts and the athletes at the Olympics to wear.

It is something women.

It is something that is I don't think it's I don't I don't want to say it's gotten better

because I don't know enough about the subject to say that.

But I do think that we've made improvements and it does remind me of one of my favorite

scenes from a League of their own.

But that that movie actually brought light to a lot of those things with women's uniforms

and so many of the other topics of that that I don't think a lot of us men understood.

I don't think and we still don't understand completely.

But understand it a little bit better.

And that means something not just for empathy and understanding, but certainly you have

a lot of the people designing you in modern uniforms.

They're men and for that have a little more understanding of that.

But one of the improvements has been having women in those rooms, having women designers,

having that more of that.

Again, has made everything completely better.

But I do think there's been improvement there what the what you're talking about.

I think it's the other and taking it the other direction and I love it.

I think it's a great deal.

You want me to watch a football game?

Put those boys in Daisy Dukes.

I'm telling you though, it didn't matter to my mother.

I will never forget sitting back watching the 70s.

I'm trying to remember what baseball all-star game it was.

One of my favorite players, Cal Ripkin, is up there at bat.

My mom comes into the room with me and my buddies and we're all sitting there watching the game.

We're like 13, 12, 13 or something like that.

My mom just walks in and is like, whoa, he's got a nice caboose.

It just walks out.

Just walks out.

I think it was Cal Ripkin.

Yes, I heard all of my aunts do that as well.

It might have been Ricky Henderson, I'm not sure which one it was.

We will take a quick commercial break.

We'll come back with the Elcaf Abertin anniversary club on the morning show at WFHR.

It's time for the Elcaf Abertin anniversary club.

One of our favorite parts of the day, we celebrate you and our great friends over at Elcaf A.

Treat yourself.

Get on over there today, 221 Market Avenue and beautiful port at WFHR.

Their doors are open everybody.

That's right.

It's their Monday.

I mean Tuesday.

Oh, they've got their specials today.

A bacon cheeseburger skillet.

And then a bacon cheeseburger breakfast.

I got to go.

Nope.

You got to stick around, James.

I can't run the board from here.

But they do have a hot meatloaf sandwich for lunch.

You could get over there for lunch.

James, don't leave me hanging.

Seriously.

Melissa, did you see bacon cheeseburger breakfast for the burrito?

I did.

I did and I know what's your favorite.

It's not a double though.

They got some great stuff over there.

We'll meet you there, everybody.

Head on over to 221 Market Avenue and beautiful port.

We wish you a great day from all of us by local support local.

Get us those birthdays and anniversaries.

We love to celebrate with you.

Info at WFHR.com is where you can email us.

You can direct messages on our Facebook pages as well.

And of course, call up.

That's right.

715-424-2600.

You can tell us your birthday anniversary live on air.

Melissa, what if people wanted to text us their birthday?

They could do that through the civic media app.

Yeah.

I'm way too happy about that.

I'm way too excited about that.

We haven't had direct access to it as easily as we have for WIRRI.

So it is exciting, James.

And I will say too, we're just letting you guys completely

behind the curtain all morning today.

This happens when you and I do this show together.

For many years.

Sorry, were those things supposed to be secret?

No, no, no.

For many years, many of our long-time listeners,

I've actually exchanged phone numbers with and they text me

throughout the hours and stuff.

So now it's a lot more, I think it's a better fit.

Everybody can see the text and they can share it on it and stuff.

That's going to be a lot of fun.

We have got three possible qualifiers.

Let's get a one through three from you, Emma.

Let's go with two.

All right.

Give us that qualifier.

We can get right into this celebration.

First up, I want to wish Happy Birthday to somebody who can't win

because they live in Illinois.

But I want to wish Happy Birthday to one of my favorite directors

of all time, Mr. Tim Ball.

Oh, Happy Birthday, Tim.

Few directors I've worked with that I feel like we see the same thing.

We want the same thing.

Everything is just on the same page.

And at the same time, I think Tim, I've told him this before,

was so good at being a player's coach.

And being an actor's director.

While at the same time holding down the fork when we had to settle down

and all those things.

I've directed a little bit, but it's not easy to be able to

want to get along with everybody, want everybody to have fun

and also, hey, we've got to get our lines down.

Hey, we've got to get our blocking down.

Because the audience, I think,

whether you've been a part of a player or not, you can understand,

actors can be children at times.

And by that, I mean, we were talking behind the, you know,

we're doing all these different things.

Happy attention.

Yeah, and especially Tim directed us in and then there were none.

Which is a pretty big cast in Agatha Christie Classic and everything.

And we had some knuckleheads on that show, including me.

And it was great.

Tim's an awesome guy, great director, also a lover of rabbits.

And him and his wife have quite a few.

Well, wishing you a great day, Mr. Ball.

Have a good one.

Talk to you soon, Tim.

I'll work with you soon, too.

We also want to wish Happy Birthday to an old friend of mine

and many in this community, Marissa Overt.

Happy birthday, Marissa.

Enjoy your day, Marissa.

Hope it's a good one for you.

We want to wish a very happy birthday also to Mr. Ron Herman.

Happy birthday, Ron.

Enjoy the day, Ron.

Hope it's a good one for you.

And our qualifier today, Linda Wall.

Happy birthday, Linda.

Enjoy your day, Wall.

I hope it's a good one for you.

It's a great day.

Linda Wall.

Enjoy your day, Miss Wall.

And we bragged everybody that you're a qualifier.

Bragged everybody that you're a qualifier.

Bragged everybody.

Absolutely.

And get over to El Caffe because you'll get free pie.

Yes.

Yes.

Thank you for the reminder, Melissa.

We take a look at our celebrity birthdays.

Hannibal Burris is 42.

A comedian, writer, very funny.

Been on 30 Rock and a couple of other shows

that you may have seen out there.

I don't want to say he's most famous for it

because I think he's had some other parts and everything.

But he is kind of known for the guy who first

brought attention to Bill Cosby.

And like, hey, something's not right here.

There's a lot of stories about this guy.

And it kind of led to, not kind of,

it really was one of the first domino, I would say.

Not the first, but one of the first dominoes

in the fall of one of the biggest names in comedic history.

Which is tough if you're a comedian, a standup comedian,

to have your kind of name built on that.

Yeah.

And I don't think that's fair to Hannibal Burris

because he's very funny, has done a lot of great writing.

He really wasn't, he was trying to bring attention to this

while also telling jokes.

So he'll be the first to tell you.

He wasn't necessarily trying to be a hero here or anything.

But there's many, many people out there who do believe

that he is one and brought a light to something

that I know I think was important.

Yes, absolutely.

And Gavin DeGrasse is 48.

His song, I don't want to be blew up in part

because of the theme song to One Tree Hill.

Great singer and songwriter.

Kind of, I think, underrated.

I got to see him when I was in Illinois.

He did a live radio thing for, and it was on there

and invited a bunch of fans down.

And my roommate at the time, she is the biggest

Gavin DeGrasse fan there's ever been.

So we went down and saw him.

I didn't know much about him, to be honest.

I went there, I was very impressed.

It was very good, very good, very good with the people.

Like, really friendly, really nice.

Yeah, like a good guy.

Like a good guy.

Like a good guy.

I think a recognizable voice.

I think a good singer, songwriter.

It just hasn't really, other than that hit

hasn't really had much others.

But a good one.

Oscar De La Jolla is 52, one of the

more well-rounded boxers I've ever seen.

And Olympic Old Mentalist, I believe, too.

A Rod Cordray is 54.

A hilarious former Daily Show correspondent.

He was in hot tub time machine, and ballers,

and a bunch of other shows.

Rod Cordray, I think one of those guys you might know

if you saw, I'm very good.

Yeah, you recognize him if you see him.

Not as much with glasses, without his glasses.

I think he looks more recognizable, but.

Good interview, too.

One of the bigger names in country music history.

Clint Black is 63.

Wow, 63.

Kicked off our sunrise show today with Killin' Time.

That's easily.

That's not just my favorite killing black song.

That's one of my favorite country songs.

I love that one.

That does not get old to me.

That's a good one right there.

One of the greatest, we're talking about Super Bowl Week

and everything.

One of the greatest players in football history.

Little lone linebackers or defensive players.

Lawrence Taylor is 66 today.

Played 13 seasons with New York Giants.

Multiple Pro Bowl or Hollow Famer.

Super Bowl winner.

And easily the most, maybe intimidating man.

In his era, in his era.

Also, not a bad actor.

Not a bad actor at all.

No, I was very surprised by that.

Lawrence, I shouldn't be because all these guys do commercials and things.

Nowadays, so many of them go through media training.

So, I mean, it's not too surprising.

But Lawrence Taylor was way ahead of that time.

He wasn't a part of the any of that stuff.

I thought he was good.

He was inducted into the Hollow Famer in 1999.

Also, Hollow Famer, Alice Cooper is 77 today.

Still out there touring and doing his thing.

A couple of big ones out there.

My dad was a big Alice Cooper fan,

so I know quite a bit about him.

I know he's got a lot of hits out there,

but I think if you're curious about the creativity and the writing

and the voice of Alice Cooper,

the ballad of Dwight Fly is probably the best day.

I think the best example of that.

He's got plenty of hits, you know, schools out,

and no more missing nice guy and all that.

But the ballad of Dwight Fly, I think, is his best written and sung song.

I don't know if I'm saying that right, but.

You are, but he's definitely best known for the raspy voice.

Yeah.

And the macabre stage presence.

Also, one of those people, he's a huge golfer, like a huge golfer.

He'll go out there in the makeup too, though.

He'll have your typical golf outfit,

but then with the Alice Cooper makeup,

like he just goes all in and I give him credit for it.

Do you know his real name?

I think I've heard it, but what is it?

Yeah, Vincent Damian Furnier.

See now, if your middle name is Damian,

and you go by Alice,

like Damian, right?

I said a wrong Damian.

Either one.

I mean, I'd play, I'd lean into that, I would think.

I don't know, but that wasn't the bit.

That wasn't the bit.

Apparently Alice Cooper came from a session with a Ouija board.

Oh, interesting.

And people no longer with us.

One of the greatest, if not the greatest horror director of all time,

George A. Romero born on this day in 1940,

Night of the Living Dead and all of its sequels.

But Night of the Living Dead changed cinema,

let alone the horror genre and everything.

Because George A Romero went into it

and it wasn't just a horror movie about zombies,

it was supposed to be about the way we are treating people at that time.

And social relevance and civil rights and so many different things.

He really, really took this format

because it wasn't just that.

Then all of a sudden people started saying,

well, I could do that with romance movies.

I could do that with action movies.

I could do that, you know?

And just really a game changer.

Rosa Parks, born on this day in 1913,

the definition of game changers.

First lady of the civil rights movement.

What I love so much is not only that we,

and our generation got a chance to be alive

when Rosa Parks was alive

and hearing her in interviews and conversations.

But so many times I remember hearing her talk about how,

well, I don't understand why you're even interviewing me.

I don't know why, you know, this wasn't,

she didn't do this necessarily to start a movement.

She did this because it was wrong.

Right.

I mean, she, a young lady,

the braveness of this.

I hope that people could even try to have some empathy

and some understanding of putting yourself in that era,

in that time, being in that young lady's shoes

and deciding enough is enough.

This is wrong.

And I would hope to think that everybody could be as brave

as her in that moment.

Just an incredible human being.

We're all human beings.

And why, what makes one person better than the other?

Yeah, nothing.

Nothing.

Nothing.

Nothing makes you or me or anybody else,

and I buy you, I mean, the audience.

But all the clueless of this.

Any of us, better than anybody else.

Not a darn thing.

Although, you know, have a nice hair that don't hurt,

that don't hurt.

I don't know where that was.

I'm thrown off, I'm still thrown off

with having the short hair.

So that's where that came from.

Are you still struggling on?

Yeah.

I got my headphone stuck.

He did, I don't know how I did it.

I don't know.

It's a challenge.

You would see that would be less like hair.

You would see that would be less like hair.

Yes, that's what at that city you're buying by yourself.

James, you're special.

Yeah, that's a good way to buy.

We'll just wrap on that.

We will be back with more show after our news.

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I can't turn down playing some Marvin and Tammy.

I cannot do it.

I honestly, I'm going to lose people like this

what I think.

That to me is the greatest pairing in music.

Yeah.

Marvin Gaye, Tammy Tarell, man, I'm talking love songs.

Not saying, you know, do all over, do it.

But if you're talking love songs or anything, you know,

you're all I need to get by to me is the greatest love song of all time.

There, I'll set it.

Okay.

All right.

That's fair.

I would argue Alison Croson.

Almost anybody she's things with except Kid Rock.

Yeah, I agreed.

Agreed.

No problem with that.

Unforgettable from that King Cole.

Actually, that might be the greatest love song of all time.

That might be that.

I don't know.

You could go on a whole tangent on this.

Really could.

That might be another segment one day.

We'll put a note in that.

We'll put a pit in that one.

We'll come back to it.

Refer right now.

You got a friend.

You guys know each other forever.

You're sitting there having dinner or something like that.

And you're out and having dinner and everything.

And they get a little piece of spin.

A little piece of something in between their teeth.

And you are presented with the question that many of us.

All of us will be if you haven't already been.

What do you do?

Do you tell your friend?

Do you embarrass them in front of the other people at the dinner or what have you?

Or do you not say anything?

This is a debate that most of us have had in our head at least a handful of times in our lives.

And now we're seeing some stats to it.

Are you close enough with any of your friends to be brutally honest with them?

Someone pulled over 1,000 Americans to see how honest we are about stuff.

A friend might not want to hear.

Would you tell a close friend about this stuff or keep quiet?

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So would you tell a close friend about this stuff or keep quiet?

They're in a toxic relationship.

74% would probably or definitely speak up.

That's a really hard one because people don't want to hear that.

And they've got to figure it out for themselves.

So you're more likely to alienate yourself if you do speak up.

But it's hard not to.

And a lot of this stuff on here is a little bit lighter.

And we're going to stick to some of the lighter ones to be honest with everybody.

But I will say that when it comes to these things,

I bring it up because in part this is modern times.

And something that I think that we need to bring out and talk about more.

Not in a hushed voice in those things.

And I think it is maybe the toughest on this list.

To be able to say something about or not say something about.

I do think that I think that you have to know your audience for one.

And know your friends know the type of person this person is.

Are they somebody who is open-minded?

Do you think we'll hear you out or they're not?

Some of those things.

I also think that there's ways of doing stuff without directly doing it.

In life.

And that's an organic thing that you can only know or figure out in real time.

But I do think that there are plenty of, you know,

and I don't mean it like this before an example.

When you're trying to, you know, the type of person that it's got to be their idea.

Otherwise, it'll never get done.

So you.

So like most of the men in my life.

Yeah.

There we go.

Sorry.

Hey, wait a minute.

Wait a minute.

No.

I'm joking.

I was being so gentle.

Yeah.

Come on.

Oh, that was great.

That was really good.

But yeah.

So that's something like that.

I don't think is a bad idea.

But I don't know.

I've been on both sides of this one where I haven't said anything.

And I have.

And, you know, I teach their own and you've got to know your audience.

Yeah.

Yeah.

It's kind of the case by case in that situation.

They're mean.

72% would say, oh, 74% would say something about a toxic relationship.

They're mean.

72% would say something about that.

That's difficult.

If their friend is being mean.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Because I mean, only if, well, I guess what I'm thinking in my head is they're being

mean to other people, but not to their friend.

If they're mean, mean to you too.

Well, yeah.

You've got to say.

And why are they your friend?

Well, yeah.

What do you do?

Yeah.

You don't have to be like, look, you don't have to be desperate here.

For me, I mean, like, there are billions of people in the world.

I've bound to find at least a couple of them that are too mean to yell at me.

It's really hard to make new friends, though, James.

You tell, like, that's, I actually have a segment I'm working on about that, about adults

making friends.

It's called, it's called adult friend finder.

No, wait.

No, that's not it.

That is not, that's wrong.

Don't, don't Google that, everybody.

No.

So they drink too much.

69% said that one.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That's another one that's hard to talk about, especially here in this state.

Yeah.

I've talked a lot about this with many, many of our midday magazine guests, and that

in the culture of that in this state, and how different it is in any other state.

And what do we do about that going forward?

Because it's not, I don't think that anybody is interested in necessarily in changing that,

but making it smarter, making it, I think having more options, you know, of things to do

that don't involve necessarily alcohol, I mean, it can, but it doesn't have to.

Yeah.

Yeah.

And just giving people more options, because telling somebody they drink too much, isn't really

going to do a lot of good.

The person who is drinking too much has to realize it and acknowledge it for themselves

and want to change, because if they don't want to change, it's not going to change.

Yeah.

Well, and, you know, that culture is affecting a lot of other things in this state, too,

that are affecting everybody's economy, whether we're talking about drunk driving or any

of those things, that's certainly understandable.

But how many businesses are not able to, yeah, there's, it's a long list of things that

are affecting people.

We could get into a whole nother side.

Yeah.

I just saw it too.

I just saw it and cut it off.

Yeah.

Well, let's move on.

Would you tell your friend that they have BO, 67% would, so a third of us, a third of

us would tell, hey, you stink.

This is another touch you want, because I mean, is it a chronic issue?

And maybe you have a conversation with your friend of, you know, like, hey, what's going

on?

You know, like, are you, are you see, and again, you have to read the room, is this a friend

you can have that conversation with?

So yeah, part of the reason I, oh, go ahead, sorry, well, I was just going to say, too,

if it's a, you know, a thing that's not normal, like, whoa, did you forget your deodorant

today?

Like, here, I got, I got an extra, because that can also be a buddy thing to do.

So part of the reason I brought up some of the serious or ones like drinking too much

or any of that, and this one is the differences here to me, the drinking too much, that's something

or something like that, it's, now you can hurt other people, obviously, but this is one

that directly pretty much affects the person, the BO thing, most people that stink, don't

know it.

They don't know that they, and it's not really affecting them, this is more affecting

others.

No, no, no, no, it's blind to sense that you're around, just like when you put on perfume,

you're not going to smell it in, you know, five minutes.

So 67% more likely to tell people of that one, similar to that, I think they have bad

breath, 56% of people would say something about that one.

And that's again, one of those things where it's probably not really affecting you directly,

although it is around about way, but it's not, you know, but it is harming others.

And would you actually say, hey, you have bad breath, or would you just offer them a

mint?

Yeah, yeah, that's a classic one.

Because as we know in the theater, James, as somebody offers you a mint, take it.

Yep, oh yeah, oh yeah, you don't think twice about it.

Don't ask, yes, yes.

Just take.

They frequently interrupt people, 65% of people would say something about that.

Yeah, this is a tough one too, because, yeah, yeah, that's tough.

And I think that it, again, every one of these, let's, you know, it's a no-your-audience

thing, and it's understanding the person.

And I think one of the key things that we need to remember with this is we're talking about

friends.

We're talking about people that know each other, people that can tell each other stuff.

And people that rip each other every once in a while, you know, those things.

So I do think that this is stuff to say now, I think you can, almost all of these, you

can bring up and not be it be like, well, you have to do this or you have that magic word

called tacked.

Yeah, yeah.

And you know, you can, you could, hey, I think you could be better at this.

I think you could improve at this.

That is what friends are for, part of what friends are for.

Relationships are work.

And if you want your relationship to be healthy and good for both of you, it's something

that's worth addressing, if it, if it will help the relationship, it's going to damage

the relationship.

Well, you know, you got to, you got to figure that out.

They've fallen for a conspiracy theory, a theory, 53% of people would say something about

that.

This is another tough one.

Yeah, yeah.

And I think that one of the important things about it is not talking down to each other.

Right.

I don't, I joke all the time about flat earthers and how that's the one line in the

sand for me.

Like, I'll listen to somebody talk about big foot or lockness monster or any of these

things.

I'll hear them out.

But the flat earth thing, I can't do it.

It's just, it's my line in the sand.

We figured this out a long time ago, we, there's plenty of other things for us to focus

on.

But, but I have, I have done that in a joking way and also because it's a little true for

me.

But it's something that I could be better about because I'm talking down to people and,

and I don't want to do that and I don't want to be like that and I don't respect people

that do that because somebody that talks down to somebody is not listening to anybody.

Right.

Think of that.

Especially in today's climate that we're in with so much misinformation out there and,

not, a lot of people struggle with knowing what sources they can trust.

Yeah.

So I think being able to be open and having those conversations and just, you know, trying

to approach it with a, okay, tell me more, you know, like, explain to me why you, why

you think this or why you believe that or where you found that information.

Let's talk about it.

Yeah.

Making those open conversations is going to benefit all parties more than, oh, my God,

you're in a conspiracy theory like that's totally, like how did you fall for that?

Yeah.

Seriously.

Yeah.

Making fun of each other talking down to people that isn't going to solve anything and,

and only, and to be honest, only kids can get away with that.

If adults are doing it, their babies, they're, their cowardly babies and child children

that are not, um, know how to, don't, don't, don't deserve respect because they don't

treat others and know how to treat others with it.

Um, those are my feelings.

I'm not putting that on anybody else, but I don't care what title you have.

I don't care how much money you have.

You treat people that way.

I got no time for you.

I got, I got no respect for you.

The respect to me is earned and, and it is something that you earn all the time.

And I don't believe that you can respect somebody that can't talk to somebody that can't

hear somebody out or go to their level.

Whatever that might be.

And I think going, you know, in, in the, the time that we're in right now, being able

to have conversations with people who may disagree with you is going to be our superpower.

Yeah.

Yeah, absolutely.

Yeah.

I think that it's going to be our saving grace as being able to have these conversations

in a, in, you know, a, a civil manner.

Anybody can tune others out.

Anybody can say, my way or the highway and all this, uh, it takes a real human being,

a real brain to be able to just listen and hear somebody out and, and, and talk to them,

have a real open conversation.

And the smartest people I've ever known know that they're dumb sometimes, know that they

don't know everything, uh, it, it's important.

The thing about conspiracy theories is there's usually a kernel of truth in there somewhere.

Yeah.

Yeah.

That's how they get to it.

It may not all be true, but there's usually a little bit of truth in it somewhere.

Two more for you, everybody.

They keep telling the same stories over and over again, 53% of people would say something

about that.

Um, so this is kind of funny for us because in radio, you kind of have to do this.

Um, very seldom are the same people listening every morning.

So you have to kind of almost, when we're retelling a story, it's kind of like previously

on.

Yeah.

It's a little like that.

But in real life, I am, I, I know I'm guilty of this.

I know that I am.

And very, every once in a while, not often enough, but every once in a while, I catch myself

in the middle of it.

And I'm like, well, do I finish or do I just be like, you know, hey, what, you know what,

I, I know I told this one, do you like three times already, dad, I'm sorry.

Like, well, and that's the thing is like, so I've, I've experienced this in a, a former

workplace.

Um, and I won't, I won't name it or, or say, you know, to protect the anonymity of

it involved, but, but I had a coworker who had, uh,

oh, oh my gosh, okay, like, so I got to experience listening to the same story told over and

over and over and over to a lot of different people, but it was the same story every time.

I got so sick of it.

So it was, it was a very good life lesson for me of, okay, I either need to learn how

to tell the same story in multiple different ways, or I share that story once I'm done.

Mm hmm.

Yeah.

I'm getting sick of hearing the same story, like I would be sick of telling the same story

over and over.

Yeah.

I don't know how people do that.

I kind of, I kind of don't mind when people tell me, yeah, I heard that.

Yeah, you told me that.

Like, because I don't want to, I don't like wasting time, I don't like wasting people's

time or anything like that.

So I kind of mind it.

And I usually do that, and it's not because I'm like, feel like they're wasting time.

I kind of don't want them to get to the end of the story and be like, oh, I already told

you this, didn't I?

Yes.

Yeah, but I was just trying to be nice, like that feels disingenuous to me.

I'm more inclined to say, James, James, we already talked about this, right?

Yeah.

Do you remember?

Yes.

See, I like that.

It's funny, too, how we look at this.

For me, if I'm telling the same story over and over again, I feel bad in wasting people's

time.

If somebody else is doing it, I want them to know, hey, I heard you the last time.

I heard you tell this story that I was paying attention.

From the final one on here, they got a bad haircut, 50% of people have people, have

the people would have the people wouldn't tell somebody they got a bad haircut.

I don't think I would.

Yeah.

Yeah.

You know, if they like it, if they like it, you know, then I'm probably not saying anything.

And it's their hair.

Yeah.

That too.

I mean, you know, if a friend comes to you and says, okay, I got this haircut, I don't,

is it bad?

Hmm.

Then we'd have a conversation about it.

I think, yeah.

They think of that.

But if a friend came to me and was like, do you like my new hair?

I love it so much.

I'd be like, it's great.

Yeah.

I'm glad you love it.

You know, I mean, and everybody is, you know, it's like art.

Yes.

It's your own opinion.

Mm-hmm.

If you don't like what I've done with my hair, okay.

I mean, if you want to tell me, sure, that's your right as a human being to say what

you want to say.

Is it going to hurt my feelings?

Probably.