Good morning, Wisconsin. Good morning, world. It's a new day. Thanks for kicking it off
with us right here at WFHR, locally grown radio. Got your host, James J. I am joined by
our head of news, Melissa K. Good morning. And the heart of WFHR, Pam Hilke. Good morning.
Hey, Pam. Good, good to have you with us. Thanks for joining us. We are also joined. We
got another member joining us. We got a good friend, Paul, from the weather I weather center
with us right now. Good morning, Paul. Paul, are you there? All right. I don't know what
is going on with our connection with Paul here. He has not been able to hear us the last
couple of days. And I can't figure out what it is about this system that is doing that because
we've gotten every other phone call. Everybody else that's been calling up, we've been able
to get, but we haven't been able, we hear him, but he doesn't hear us. Yeah, that's
weird. Got to reach out to him. We got to get him on because we've got some things going on.
I think with our weather, I'm not 100% on that. I've not been getting a backup on that, but
we'll find out. We'll figure it out. We're going to have some good forecast for you going into
the new year. It's going to be exciting. We've got some really fun things going on in 2024.
We'll be touching on a little bit as we're leading into the new year. We want to welcome
him in Pam Hilke. Good to have you here, Pam. Thank you. Thank you. It's a pleasure to be here.
How are you doing this morning? I'm doing pretty good. We saw the sun out there. We're going to
have sunshine for a change for a morning. I can't remember the last time you were in with us, Pam,
but it's been a while. I think it has been. I don't know if the sun was out the last time,
but it's nice that the sun came out the first time in like weeks or the feels like it. It seems
like it, right? Yeah. And I don't think you and Melissa have been able to be on the air together
yet. So that'll be fun. No, I don't. I believe so. Yeah, that's going to be fun. We're
looking forward to it. We got a lot to do today. We are going to get to. We're going to have,
of course, Misty's menu birthday and anniversary club and just a little bit looking forward to
that one. I also want to get into New Year's resolutions. The top reasons your New Year's
resolution may not happen and how we can help you with that maybe getting to all those things.
In the towards the end of the hour here, we will have, of course, our friends from quality
plus printing joining us with our wicked awesome word of Wednesday. That's Wednesday already.
Yeah, I know. Snuck up on me too. I did not realize it was Wednesday until I jumped on the
air actually. I was like, Oh, yeah, it's Wednesday. There we go. Right. Yes, your way. It was Tuesday,
not Monday. And I spent most of the day saying, Happy Monday.
I want to get into a couple of other things with you too as well. We've got some entertainment
news. We're going to touch on. It's going to be fun. And also want to touch on in the nine o'clock
different things at different New Year's events up and down the state here in Wisconsin.
Did some reporting this weekend with our friends at Travel Wisconsin. Talk to them. I had a really
good conversation actually with a couple of people there, including why are you there? It's Christmas
weekend. Why are you working? And they asked me the same thing. So we'll be talking about that a
little bit. That's going to be a lot of fun. All these things coming up. But I want to start with
something that I think Melissa is very good at whether she realizes it or not. And Pam is an
ace at Pam could teach a master class at this everybody. Small talk. If you listen to me for five
seconds, especially after 20 some years in radio and a good seven or eight in talk radio,
I don't abbreviate anything. I'm horrible at this. I'm bad at elevator talk. You know,
because when I think a small talk, this first thing I think of is elevator talking. You get an
elevator. How you doing? Maybe a smile. Yeah, that's about it, right? But small talk is one of
those things that I marvel at people that are very good at it. Because you know, Melissa does this
all the time, I think, where it's a conversation that takes me about 20 minutes to describe. She's
done in a second. And still hitting the point, still getting all the key things in there. So I did
a little homework on this that will research on small talk. And I came across a really interesting
article about the number one phrase, people who are good at small talk always use. This is
according to Stanford University. So you two agree with me, though, that you both think you are
good at small talk. Or do you do like, what is he talking about? Melissa, do you think? Yeah.
Melissa, I have my moments. Sometimes I have to work at small talk. Okay. Yeah. In social settings,
I'm not great at it, necessarily if I don't, you know, if I'm not the mood, let's just put it
that way. Yeah. Yeah. That's, I think that is a different category. Yes. Agreed. Yes.
Pam, about you. Because I see you do up there at that front desk for almost 20, we've worked together
almost my whole career in radio. And I watched you for so long up there. And you and Carl had this
mastered where from at the time, Morning magazine, where they would come in, you would, you would
set them up and he would knock them down, kind of thing. You know, where you, you got them
calm and relaxed. They come in here and Carl is just, you know, handles his business with them.
And they leave smiling and happy. Do you think you're good at this? I guess. So I, you know,
what we have our guests that come in. And I'll just have a little conversation with them. Yeah.
And most of them I know from, you know, years on or some of them are just people that I've known
for only a few years. Or some people I don't even know, but I guess I can just strike up a
conversation in that period. It's a talent. It really is. It's a great skill to have. Yeah. Yeah.
And it's something that I don't know. According to the experts, it's something that you can master,
but it's not something that everybody necessarily has in their wheelhouse. For me, I think what
part of what makes me a good interviewer is the follow up questions and thinking of those things.
Not so much in small talk. Not so much. You know, how's the weather? Well, it's great. Well,
actually, you know, out in the east coast right now, it is just coming down like great. Like, no,
no, no, no, no, no, slow down. I just asked how the weather I did. Tell me the time. Because it
needs to be a one-sided conversation, James. Right. So small talk might seem trivial, but it can
deliver big results. It can help us forge new or deeper connections with others by allowing us to
discover unexpected areas of common interest. It can enable us to establish or reinforce our
personal reputations, giving us an opportunity to demonstrate warmth and empathy. And a Stanford
lecturer has a podcast as well, talked about communication and talked about the number one phrase
that keep people that are good with small talk use and the people who want to get better at it
should use. And I'm going to give it to you, everybody. Okay. At the end of the show. No, I'm joking.
I'll get to it right now. I'm going to give it to you right now. The favorite phrase is,
tell me more. Tell me more. Most members of any family, most people that you know in your workforce
and everything, you know, whether you have a good relationship with them or not, they are,
you know, you're in an environment where you're sharing. And one of the key things that you could
say in almost any conversation, tell me more. That's it. That's the phrase. And it's in that,
almost every, it's, this is weird when we see this. Like when they interviewed people,
90 some percent of people agreed that this is the number one phrase to go to. If you,
especially if you don't have anything else to say, or if you don't know what to say, or if you're
just sitting. Don't have a follow up question. Yeah. Yeah. You're just sitting there. Mm-hmm.
Oh, no. Oh, you don't say really. Get out of here. Like if you're tired of saying some of those
things, tell me more. It is one of those go two phrases. Well, I think that in conversations,
like that, sometimes those of us that are, are responding to a question, you're kind of trying to
do it in a, give and take relationship of small talk of, okay, I've asked you a question,
you've responded. Now, now it's your turn to talk. Yeah. As opposed to being the, the constantly
talking. I'm, I am of the type that if I'm in a small talk situation, I'm usually the one
that's going to keep asking the, oh yeah, well, tell me more about that. I have these follow up
questions because then I don't have to talk. You're right. Exactly. Exactly. I have mastered
deflecting where you guys are at small talk. I'm very good at deflecting. The best communicators
give support responses. That is another thing that came out of this article. Tell me more is the
support response. It supports what the other person is saying. The opposite is a shift response,
which is a statement that shifts the conversation back to you. We deal with this a lot with, at
least I know I have in my life where it, which is easy for, or helpful for people that don't
necessarily want to talk about themselves like me. I don't mind it as much, but it is also a side
of narcissism at a side of ego and a couple of other things oftentimes, where it's a person who
cannot wait to tell you what their, their affected them or how they are anything. Whereas a,
a good communicator, according again to this article, is going to ask more, tell me more than,
I broke my leg. That's nothing. I broke both my legs last year. That kind of thing. You broke
your leg. Tell me more. That's responsive. That's supportive in everything. I don't know how
much people care about these things necessarily anymore, but communication I think is incredibly
important. Obviously with what we do, it's our business. It's our jam is doing communication.
But in day to day life, I think that we need to focus on it even more. I think we need even more
attention to it. We've already gotten away from the word, from what words used to mean. We need to
get back to that and, and listening to each other, making eye contact with each other. That's,
we keep looking and starving for ways to find and create more empathy in life. I just gave you
two right there that we're supposed to do all the time anyway. Well, and to be genuinely interested,
I think can go a long way. It makes it easy to engage in a conversation then because you're
actually listening with both ears and paying attention to what the person is saying. And you want
to know more because you're genuinely interested. Sorry, what was that? What was that? Pam,
we appreciate it. You're welcome. Thank you for putting up with me. We are going to take a quick
commercial break. We'll come back and do some celebrate with Misty's Menu Birthday and End of
Herstory Club. It's coming up. Pam, Melissa and James here with you on WFHR's Morning Show.
It's time to do some celebrate with our good friends over at Misty's Menu. We encourage you to
treat yourself. Get on over to Misty's when they open their doors again and done the new year.
Misty's will be closed for this week right here. They will be opening their doors again back
on January 2nd. I believe. Let me double check. Yes, January 2nd. I'm sorry. Yeah, January 2nd.
They will be open again and they will be open on Wednesdays again. Keep that in mind, everybody.
Get us those birthdays and anniversaries. We want to celebrate with you. Send them to infoatwfhr.com,
james.mailup at civicmedia.us. We can email any of our staff here. You can of course call
up 424-1300. Get your birthday to Pam at the front desk. Call me up during the day.
Direct messages on our Facebook pages. We always love that as well. Love hearing from you guys.
Be sure to use our Facebook pages as well to post photos and pictures of different events
and things going on in the area. I want to see more of that in 2024. I'd like to interact with
you guys a lot more. That's one of the ways we can do that through Facebook. Go ahead and do that.
And boy, there was another way. There was another way. Boy, uh, smoke signals. No, no, no, no.
More, more code. No, no, no. Something like calling phones, phones. Geez, phones. We use those
still, right? We still use phones. Call up. Call up. Call up. Enjoy the conversation, everybody.
715-424-2600-424-2600. Of course, if you're listening to us on the civic media app,
just a couple of touches away from getting right to us. One button dialing. Melissa, I'm going to have
to make you work a little bit here. I need a one through three. Let's go with three. All right,
gives us that qualifier so we can get right into the celebration. And first up, I want to wish
a happy birthday to a former student and somebody who can't win because she's in Alabama, but
wish a happy birthday to Raven Uptane. Happy birthday, Raven. Happy birthday. Wishing you a good
one. Enjoy your day. We also want to wish a very happy birthday to Mary Grootback.
Happy birthday. Happy birthday. Mary and Joy. Hope it's a great day for you. And we wish a happy
birthday to Dolores Ott, Linda Garski's mom. Oh, happy birthday, Dolores. Happy birthday.
Wonderful lady. Wonderful lady. Uh, incredible lady. We wish her the best of days. Enjoy your day,
Dolores. And celebrating their 48th anniversary, Ray and Sue on on Netsi are qualifiers.
Happy anniversary. Oh, happy anniversary. Congratulations. Happy 48th, Ray and Sue. Wow.
That's incredible. God, that's beautiful. That's a really good one. I should see here because I know
50 is 50 the diamond is no 50 is gold. Right. So Sapphire was 45. 50 is gold and then 55 is Emerald
diamond. Okay, 60 is diamond. There you go. Yeah. Almost up to that golden. Get in there. Get in there,
you two. Hang in there and enjoy your anniversary, you guys. I see and celebrate all week. I
celebrate all week, you guys. I say that's for sure. Keep getting us those birthdays and
anniversaries. Everybody we love celebrating with you. Let's take a look at our celebrity list of
birthdays and anniversaries. Brock Purdy is 23. San Francisco 49ers starting quarterback,
Brock Purdy was the last pick in the NFL draft. And usually that is reserved for players that are
probably not going to make the cut or if they do, they're usually a backup center or something like
that. If you're a quarterback and you drafted last in the complete in the all of the NFL draft,
chances are you are not going to make the team. Brock Purdy could end up being the MVP of the leak.
That's that's what this young man has done. What he has accomplished right here from going from
that position to getting an opportunity with one of the best teams in the NFL and literally
taking the ball and running with it. And let's see here. Also want to wish a very happy birthday
to Haley Williams who is 34 today. Paramore I think leads singer. Yeah, yeah, lead singer for
Paramore. Good singer and songwriter. I haven't heard from them in a while either, but they were
huge. They were for quite some time. You know they're huge. If I know their bands lead singer,
but I can't name you one song of theirs. I don't say that as an insult. I say that as somebody who's
not hip. I say that as somebody who's just not in the know it a lot of pop music and everything.
So I have a birthday to her. A happy 27th birthday to I think the best young actor in the game,
Timothy Shalameh. If you don't, if you don't agree with me, that's fine. The rest of Hollywood does.
This young man is just a start as a young Willie Wonka and Wonka. You saw him in June. You saw him in
et cetera, et cetera, like he is all over the place. Just the thing that I keep supporting and I
like so much about him is the way he has been able to not only keep his feet on the ground. He's
one of these guys brings his mom to awards ceremonies and those things, but you see him in interviews
and you see him talking and you just you get this feeling from him. Watch an interview with
Timothy Shalameh. Just watch one interview and you'll see what I'm talking about I think. You see
his work and the attention to detail he is paying at such a young age, the time and the work and
the patience he's putting into this. I've only seen about two or three actors in my life that
have done this at this age, the way what he has done and where his star has gone. He's just
incredibly good. He's very, very good. Yeah, he's handsome. There's no getting around that. He's
a handsome kid, but I genuinely think that doesn't his looks don't matter when it comes to that skill
level. I think he reminds me very much of Leonardo DiCaprio. Leonardo DiCaprio, one of the best
young actors I'll ever see. Go ahead and watch what's eating what's eating Gilbert grape and tell me
that's not one of the best young actors you've ever seen. Basketball Diaries, plenty of movies
that Leo did back the day trying to kind of gain a little bit of respect because of his he be
and the cover of teen beat at like 22 or 25 and trying to get like serious roles and everything,
but oh no, he's just a he's a he's just a handsome face. Yeah, we're not going to use that. Yeah,
he will put him in the teen bopper movies and things and we'll put him in romcoms. Well,
if you had noticed Leonardo DiCaprio never did any of those movies because he'd never wanted to be
he didn't want to keep giving into that kind of. He didn't want to be just a pretty face. Yeah,
and kind of labeled as that. Timothy Shallabe learned from that, I think, and has done an incredible
job of that while also understanding. Yeah, people are going to cast me because of this. I'm just
going to get up with real talent. Exactly. And if you need a laugh, watch him on Saturday at life.
Oh my goodness. He's so good out there. He's hilarious out there. Really looking forward to seeing
the next thing he does in Wonka is most recent movie. You're doing very well. Right. Just came out,
wasn't it? Yeah, yeah. It's been you know, during a week where a lot of movies have a month where
a lot of movies have not been doing well, that one is actually held up. All right, done pretty good.
Bill Goldberg is 56 of WWC WCW wrestler for a long time had a had a streak going of like
a hundred matches or something like that where he didn't lose a match. Let's see. It's Nick
Chobb is 27 football player Emily Derraven, good actress 41 for her. And let's see here. I was
trying to see if there was been the where our list of people no longer with us. Where is that?
My computer's not working too well. Everybody I apologize.
Marlene Dietrich born in the state of nature in one Pesway in 1992, famous movie actress.
Now he's going to do it for our list for today. That should wrap it up. But let's go ahead and one
more time. We should very happy birthday to Mary Grootback. Happy birthday. Happy birthday to the
Loris. Happy birthday. Happy birthday to Loris. Enjoy your day to Loris. And a very happy 40th
anniversary to Ray and Sue on Netsie. And I say in that right, Melissa. Pam, am I saying that
last name right? Let me take a look at that. I want to make sure to get that right. Ray and Sue,
maybe it's honesty. Honesty. Well, Ray and Sue, you call up and correct me. 715-424-2600. And
that's the case anytime I get a name wrong. Please call up and join the conversation and correct me
out of the air. I don't mind. I really don't. It's more important to get the name. Yes.
Yes. Really. Feel free to call up and join us, everybody. For now, we're going to go ahead and get
to some state and local news. When we come back, I want to talk a little bit about these top
new, top reasons your New Year's resolution is not going to, maybe not going to make it.
And how we can help you do that. How we can help you make it. Coming up on the morning show here
at WFHR, where we are locally grown radio.
Welcome back, everyone. Morning show here at WFHR locally grown radio. Little 80s to play
Melissa Pam and I in. Not bad. Not bad. Let's go ahead and dive into a fun one here. I've got a
New Year's resolution in mind. I may want to take you look at this list and see how it matches
up against it here. See how it goes against and what we can do to not only and make sure our
resolutions come through, but what can be the de facto why they don't why don't they.
An early poll on New Year's resolutions found the easiest ones are practicing better hygiene
and drinking some water. Anything harder takes motivation and here are the top five excuses for
not following through with a resolution. You want to dive into these and then we'll add some of
our own to this list of things reasons why we don't think they work or don't always happen.
All right, the cost. Like you say you'll join a gym then realize it could be expensive.
I could see that being one of the factors. Yeah, and sometimes once you join, you're stuck.
Yeah, yeah. You're stuck or you're stuck with the guilt of not using that gym membership that you have.
Being too busy. That can definitely be one. That's easy. I mean, that's an easy reason.
We get so busy. We try to add something else in. Like I'm an exercise every day.
Okay, where's that going to go? Yeah, yeah. Sometimes you think just, you know,
short about a time. Okay, let's start at five minutes a day of whatever it is.
Resolving to do. Yeah, not enough support from family or friends. That tends to be one of the
biggest ones on this list of people saying of reasons why they don't accomplish them.
Well, that one's a little hard for me because that's you're asking for other people to dedicate
time to your endeavor. I think support and encouragement are very important. They cost them.
They cost nothing. They are great. But you can't, they cannot be the deciding factor for you.
Right. You got to light the fire under yourself sometimes. It's your own personal resolution too.
Right, right, right. I can't blame, you know, my brother Chris for the fact that I don't exercise
every day. Like I resolved to why aren't you supporting me? What's your news resolution?
Every morning and tell me to do it. Well, my news resolution is our New Year's
Resolute. Like, no, that's not how it works. That's not the other.
Brothers, you're in this with me. A general lack of motivation. That is number two. That is
number two on the list of things that reasons why these things don't get done.
I wanted to get to the rest of the list, but I really, I don't really feeling it. I really
motivated. That's a tough one. Motivation is I think not even forget about New Year's
Resolutions and everything. I think that could be a really tough one just in general. Yeah.
Yeah. And especially I think in the colder months, I think we is even harder to motivate us.
I didn't feel like this when I was younger. I feel like when I was younger, I felt like I was
stuck inside a lot more. And I was always looking for things to do and keep myself busy. And
motivation didn't seem as much. I don't know. I feel like as great as my motivation is when it comes
to work, when it comes to motivating me to do things for me, you know, I'll get to it eventually.
I don't know. That's that to me. I wonder if it's a case of not if it's motivation or if it's
a case of self-motivation, motivating you for things about you. Maybe it may be the opposite for
some. They have a hard time being motivated at work, but you know, you know, are a lot easier
motivating themselves. Well, and sometimes too, it's the, okay, I want to do this because I know
it's good for me and it will help me, but having the motivation to do it or to follow through with
plans, that's that's part of the struggle too, because I don't know about you guys, but I'm tired
all the time. Yes. Yes. Yes. Well, James was good reason. You don't sleep, but I bow out. I bow.
You're right. What were you say, Pam? Well, with Melissa, I'm sure she's getting up quite early
because of just your working hours. Yeah. That's amazing. But even just in general, like I don't
know if it's just part of being the age that we are or if it's the society that we live in or
because it's not just me that I'm hearing this from other my friends, my age say similar things.
Yes, I want to go out with friends and, you know, I make these plans, but then when it comes time
to follow through on the plans, I'm like, yeah, but I could also just be sitting on my couch doing
nothing. Right. Time to relax. Yes. Oh, I could go play basketball with the guys or I could watch
basketball. Yes. Yes. I think Pam brings up a really good point about you, Melissa, with your
schedule. Yeah, we don't have to get too into the weeds on this, but Melissa going to sleep early
getting up a lot earlier than even I do. And I, you know, when I do sleep, I'm up around a little
before five in the morning. Melissa is going away before that. So when you have a different schedule,
maybe even one, even if you've been doing it for a couple of years, it in our brains, oh,
I exercise at this time. I do this at this time. It can, it can probably shift that around,
mess that up a little bit and take some time to kind of get in a place, especially if you don't
have the time to put it in place because we're all busy and we're all tired and not motivated.
Well, in life's change as we age, I mean, for people who have kids every, you know,
every milestone, things change. And then by the time you figure your kids get out of the house,
then life completely changes. And for those of us who have changed careers over the years or,
you know, were in school, aren't in school. I mean, there's a lot of factors that lead into
why we're tired and why we don't have motivation. Yeah. Yeah, the different chapters in your life.
Another one here is you don't see results right away and get discouraged.
This can, I heard this one a lot with weight loss. I hear this one a lot with like learning a new
language. That's one that I have a lot of friends that have done over the years they want to do.
And I checked them, I checked in with them at the like middle of January, the end of January. Hey,
how's it going learning Spanish or German or something like that? Nine, you know, that's it. That's
all they got. That's it. Yeah, it's one of those things where it can be a little discouraging.
And especially when society continues to tell us everything's supposed to happen now. Everything's
supposed to happen. That instant gratification. I would like to see more of us, more of us approach
life as culverts. Culverts, they have great ingredients. They do it right. And do you wait a moment?
Time. Yeah. Yeah. Have you ever been disappointed by that meal, though? Probably not. I know I have,
I'll speak for myself. I have not. I've been going to culverts for over 20 years and never had a
bad meal. I will make, I'll put my name on that. Those extra minutes that you got to wait
for them to bring out your food is worth it. Yes. I mean, in comparison to other fast foods. Look
at that. It doesn't have to, you know, you give something an extra couple of minutes and it gets
done right instead of fast. I personally am more interested in being right than being the first
to a take or the first to a, you know, oh, this breaking news. This happens all the time to us on
the air. There's something breaking. There's, there's a big story. I'll see it. I turned the commercial
break. I'll do my run through of my, my reputable sources, my places that I know, okay, this is a
real fact. This is really true. And then the next segment will come through with it. Sometimes
we're the first with the story like we were with the horrible Charlie Hobo situation in some years
back the, the attack on the Paris Newt newspaper. Bob and I were on the air. That story was breaking.
Bob was talking. I was researching it while we were talking. The next segment we were able to go
with it and we were the first people in the state to cover that story live on the air. Things like
that are important. But, you know, you've got to be back. You've got to back it up. You have to
actually know what you're talking about. You have to do the homework on it. You can't just, oh my
god, something happened. Right. We, we, we, we need to, as a society, I think we need to get
better about this of what we ask. I don't blame businesses for this. I don't blame, you know,
the news for this or anything. They're only, I used to get, I used to sit there as a kid and look
at like National Inquirer and all these newspapers. Why do they do this? Who, who, what is this
for in everything? And as I get older and I realize, you know, every time I'm passing those,
there's like one left because people are buying them because people are using them. I get really
bent out of shape about reality TV. I can't understand why it's so popular. Why is it so big?
Well, why are these companies constantly putting out reality TV shows? Because people are watching
them. Yeah. I mean, if we ask for it, the business world will answer it. If we say, you know,
what we want things on time, but we want them done right, maybe we get a little bit more of that
instead of instant, instant, instant, instant. And none of it good. 75% of people claim that they
usually said a New Year's resolution. Another 12% said sometimes, but not always. And despite the
excuses, we don't always fail, 83% said that they have had at least some success with a resolution
before. That's a lot higher than I would have expected. That kind of me too, because I have never
really been one for making New Year's resolutions. I did when I was younger, and I can remember like
a couple of them coming through. But as I couldn't tell you the last time I did this, I will say, I think
that one of the key ways, and Katrina Hittner is going to join us on Friday's show. We're going to
talk a little more in depth about how to keep those New Year's resolutions. But one of the things that
I think is big, a big helpful part of this to me at least, it seems. Keep it to yourself.
It doesn't, not everything has to be broadcast. Not everything has to be put out there and everything.
If this is, you know yourself better than anybody. If you're the kind of person where accountability
does mean something, and it's telling people, hey, I want to stop smoking. I want to lose five pounds
or something like that. Maybe your friends and you know your support system. Maybe that's a good idea.
Again, you know your support system. Maybe it's not a good idea to share it. Maybe it's something
to just keep to yourself. If you don't accomplish it, it's just you that knows. And if you do
accomplishment, it is one of those gifts you can give to yourself.
Yeah, without the pressure of feeling guilty for letting other people down.
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Welcome back to the show, everybody, to the morning show.
Hope you're enjoying it. We have a good show today. Pam, Melissa, James here with you.
A little prince to play us in. I was just talking to Phil Hartley during our break there.
He was hearing static, so he was having a hard time getting through. He wasn't here in much.
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For now, let's keep the show moving and diving into wedding etiquette.
Yeah, wedding season is not that far away.
That's what I found out, Melissa. I did not realize that, but I came looking for different topics
and different things for us to talk about. Certainly, a lot of New Year's talk this time of year,
but was looking for things that aren't just New Year's conversations. But I came in that I found
out that, yeah, there's a lot of weddings planned for January, February, a lot of destination
weddings happen to be planned in the beginning of the year. I didn't realize this. 46, and I didn't
realize that this would have. So we got this great article sent to us and one of the dive into
this one. What's the worst thing a guest can do? What a wedding. A new survey looked at it,
and you can, I think, guess a lot of these, but let's get into it. Here are the five
rudest things a wedding guest can do. Number one, not RSV-ping. Yes or no? Oh, yeah. 80%.
Yes. It's mostly for meal planning. Or RSV-ping that you would be there and then,
I mean, something terribly unforeseen that you have to control over. But that's a really good point,
yes. Right. The dress code is formal, but you dress casual, like showing up in jeans, 79% say it's
inappropriate. Yeah. It's a little rude, I guess. I think that it matters. This is something that
bugs me a little bit about weddings. Your bank account is not the same as my bank account.
Sometimes the expectation of certain things that a family, you know that person, you know
who you invited to your wedding, if they can afford or do some of these things. I had a friend
in my early 20s. They, they did a destination way into Mexico and asked me, you know, so,
you know, are you bringing somebody with you or not? I'm like, what are you talking about, man?
Like, are you going to, you're getting married in 10 pico? I'm going to be able to make it to
Mexico. What are you talking about? Oh, come on, you got to go. You're going to be there.
I'm like, am I standing up? No, then I ain't going to be there. I'm sorry. I would love to.
It was a good friend to buy it and everything, but I was in my mid 20s. I can afford a destination
wedding in my mid 20s. Like, come, come on. Wearing something fancier or more extravagant than the
couple, 77% of people say that that is rude. Don't show up in a white dress. I gotta think if
you're doing that, you know what you're doing. I'm sorry. You, you, there is not a personal
live. I am one of the most unintelligent people in the world when it comes to weddings and all
these things. And even I know, you don't wear a white to a wedding. There's one person wear a
white to a wedding, the bride. That's it. There shouldn't be. I mean, we've moved away from that a
little bit, but still. I would think that if you had it, like, you got a white dress or a white
suit, whatever it is that you really want to wear, find out from the bride. Hey, you know, I don't
need to know anything about the dressable color, is it? You know, I don't think that's asking.
I don't think that's doing too much. I think that's actually a very, you know, kind of kind
thing to do, it seemed like. Considerate. Again, I know nothing about weddings. So I have a
getting to drunk 74% said it's rude, 7% are neutral, 9% 19% think it's fine. So one in five of us
think you should expect drunk people at weddings. Well, if you're offering free alcohol, you're taking
that risk. Yeah, yeah, yeah. If you have alcohol, if you don't live in a dry state, basically,
you know, if you're having your wedding, yeah, exactly. Yeah. Yeah. If you're having your wedding,
maybe in like parts of Utah, I don't know. Out of that, I'm not sure that you're going to be able
to avoid this. If you're having a wedding in Wisconsin, good luck. Good luck with that one,
because that's, I mean, that is like a standard. Yeah. Yeah. I do think that there's a line in the
sand, of course, of having a good time and, you know, getting too out of hand and all that. Not
over noting. I also wonder if there was ever a point in history where they had drinking going
on before the ceremony. I've always felt, am I alone on this one? The, I speak now or forever
hold your peace. Like that being incorporated in such a traditional part of weddings. What was going
on in weddings that they needed to have that in there? It feels like such a debris, like such a,
like a shift in conversation. Do you take this person to be? Do you take this person? Love,
love, forever, love, love. By the way, anybody got a problem with this. You know, now, now's the time.
Now is the only time after this time. No more. Yeah. Yeah. What was going on in weddings where they
were first putting this together. They'd like, you know what? We better incorporate this. We,
but we better have this in the wedding because we've got so much of this. I wonder if it was,
they were people drinking during the wedding and then they had to incorporate that. I'm not sure.
I don't know. Never gave that a thought though, but. Oh, leave it to me. Leave it to me, don't
come from the book of common prayer. Okay. Okay. Yeah. Yep. That would, that would answer that.
All right. Because it's, should anyone present no of any reason that this couple should not
be joined in holy matrimony, speak now or forever, hold your peace.
When, you know, if, if, if like, especially if it's a relative or a friend of mine and, and that's
when they decide to like, you could have said something beforehand. You didn't, you, you didn't
have to wait until right now to say something. You could have said something log beforehand.
First published in 1549. Wow. That's incredible. 1549. We've been doing that. Wow. That's really
cool. Actually, thank you for looking that up, Melissa. Must have had reasons that they,
got that going then. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I, in my head, I like the idea of like every wedding up
until then always had this, like in a couple people in the back. No, I got a problem with this.
They don't work. I'm sorry. They don't work there. The top vote getters are asking guests to
pay for their own meal. The bride's dress showing too much skin. This is as far as, I'm sorry,
the poll also looked at most inappropriate things couples can do. So asking guests to pay for their
own meal, the bride's dress showing too much skin, not allowing, not allowing a plus one and
making people pay for their drinks. So open bars are still very popular.
Is that the first and the last ones I don't have an issue with? Yeah. I mean, then maybe you make
the meal optional. Yeah. The bride should wear what the bride wants to wear. Oh, yeah. I think,
I think. And that includes the color of the dress or anything else. Not allowing a plus one
if you are having a smaller wedding. I get that. You know, yeah, especially if you were paying
for everything, yeah, yeah, paying for the drinks and paying for the meal. I do think it, I do
prefer, you know, it teets their own. I do think it should be one of the other either have them
paid for the meal or pay for the drinks or one of the other or if you're going to, I mean,
bless you if you can do both free, but charging for both goes back to again. Okay, but you're going
there's a lot of people who are probably not going to go to your wedding because they're not
for the meal. I don't think I've ever heard of that. Yeah, I mean, I've only, I've only heard of it
a couple of times. Yeah, it's, yeah, it's a more recent phenomenon. Yeah, I'm not going to that
way unless it's literally one of my children. I'm not going to that. I have no interest in that.
No, there's, yeah, sometimes open bar would be only certain beverages. Yes. Yeah. They have a
kega beer. That's the free. I often say like the only way I'm going to drink light beer is if
it's free at a wedding. Last few stats, the most popular old school wedding traditions today are
the father daughter dance, the father giving the bride away, the mother son dance, the groom asking
for the dad's blessing and tossing the bouquet. The least popular by far is the bride vowing to obey
her husband. Only 15% think we should keep that tradition. 15% is way high to me. That is a very
high number. This whole article you can find it you gov a shout out to our friends that you
gov do some really good reporting. Yeah, we don't think we need to get into that one. That needs
to be out of there. I don't think it should be either way. Man, woman, nobody should be obeying
anybody. You're in a partnership here. You're in a, you're forming a team. You are not, this isn't
a dictatorship or a hierarchy you're joining right now as far as weddings go. From what I understand,
again, not my wheelhouse. Well, and I agree with that. It shouldn't be one should not be subservient
to the other. You're in a partnership. I like some of these old school traditions that are still
around though. I do like the father daughter dances. Yeah, I like the mother daughter, the mother
son dance. I like all of those. Yeah, those are always fun. And I have been engaged three times.
I've been engaged three times in my life. And every time I asked for the blood blessing,
but it was always the mom. Each time it was there was a situation with the father one thing or
another where it just made more sense to ask the mom. The mom was the one that the blessing meant
some from. And thankfully each time three for three. I've been married once and divorced once.
I don't know how good my stats on my badgie averages with this. But I think that that to me is one
of the cooler traditions that exist. Just generally, I'm not saying that you ask. They say no,
okay, honey, we can't get married. I don't mean that. I think that it's one of those things that
is more of a respect thing and a way of trying to show that you want to be a part of this family.
And you want that family to be a part of yours. But I don't know how much that exists anymore.
I couldn't tell you the last time I heard somebody ever even talking about that.
Well, yeah, I think it's important to have that communication and know that yeah,
yeah, of course we want you to marry our son or our daughter or you know whatever it is. But
involvement and sorry, my brain went down the track of reading on father and laws or mother
and laws who came to Christmas and ruined your knives or ruined your meat for some reason.
I went that way. Okay, all right. Yeah, I don't want to get into that though. That sounds
interesting. I want to know more about that. Don't sharpen other people's knives is pretty much
what it boils down to. Yeah, who's doing that? Oh, that's a that's a party foul right there.
That's a kitchen foul. I don't know what word you want to use for that. But that does seem
right. No, that does not seem like a good idea. I saw this one. I wanted the touch on that I
thought was kind of interesting just the other day. The world's largest Rubik's cube was built in
Dubai. Oh, how big are we talking about it? So let's see here. They did this to celebrate the 20th
anniversary of creating the of the Rubik's, no, can't be. All right. So Dubai knowledge park
celebrated 20th anniversary by creating the world's largest Rubik's cube. Okay. Ah, the park's
anniversary. Yes, I was going to say the Rubik's cube's got to be a lot older than 20 years.
So which is the home to 700 schools and other educational institutions built a functional
puzzle cube measuring 9.8 feet on each side. Oh, wow. Oh, how does they move it? The fiberglass
carefully. Yeah. Nicely done you too. The fiberglass cube weighs in at more than 660 pounds.
Dubai knowledge park set on social media post. The cube was built to mirror the approach to lifelong
learning at Dubai knowledge park, which every step represents a new skill acquired. The puzzle
was examined by Guinness World Records officials and confirmed to be the largest Rubik's cube in the
world. Wow. New New World record. I think that they may have, whether they realize it or
not, I think they also may have stumbled onto a new way of playing board games and of doing these
things. Like a lot of the things that we used to love. Like the remember the slinky? Oh yes.
And you see it go down the steps. Yeah. That never worked for me by the way. It'll go like two
steps. Yeah. Okay. I always thought I was doing it. I never had one. Okay. I thought I was doing
it wrong. I thought I was doing it wrong. I think I don't know how you messed up a slinky thing.
Take it back to the store. My slinky does not. My slinky is defective. Yeah. I got a defective
when the metal gets twisted or a kink a little bit because your brothers are playing with it and
tangled it all up. Oh yeah. That'll do that. That's what happens. I like the idea of a gigantic
life sives like shoots and ladders. Like I like I want more of these. I want a life size candy
lamp. I like things like that. Kind of a little bit more of a fad with these lawn games that we have
that are like big size now. Like checkers and chess. I've seen big chessboards in places where they're
you know as big as a toddler. Like the pieces. They're light enough to move around. I saw one at the
Central Wisconsin Airport. They have one set up in the waiting area. Oh yeah. Yeah. We are going to
get out of here for a second. Get to some CBS state and local news. We come back. Another
bit of fun. Great things lined up for you on the morning show here at WFHR where we are locally
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