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My way of thinking is that the parents do all they can.
But once the kids leave off that door, whatever have you, they make their own decisions.
I don't care if you 9 or 99.
It's still your decision about the situations that you get involved yourself in.
Look into their taxes.
Look into this.
We talking about elected officials doing backdoor deals and somehow she still wanna blame immigrants.
That's what we talking about right now.
We following the money and you still wanna blame black people and immigrants and welfare and all of these things for policies and backdoor deals that put poor people in worse position.
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Everybody, how are you doing?
You are now punched in on your lunch break, man.
Thank you for joining us.
We got a lot on the menu today, man.
I hope y'all got an empty plate because, man, Shannon, we got a lot.
I know we not going to get everything in today.
But I am excited.
I am excited.
I'm excited about the day.
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feeling
Oh.
Oh, yeah.
What?
I did it.
You combined them.
I did have my oats and I have my cinnamon toast crush.
It was the bottom of the bag.
So, you know, you can't just leave.
Just just rumblings around.
Yeah.
Yeah.
One bow.
One bow.
It's just a little like an added surprise.
It's weird.
eat that
word?
Oh
god,
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being nice.
No, she's being nice to
And you just put it together to make yourself feel like an adult.
But that's a very childish mix, right?
That's what you did.
You said, I'm going to eat the honey boat bunches to satisfy my adulthood.
And I'm going to get these cinnamon toast because I'm really childish.
That's what I think.
it
Wisconsin
to stay
Not doing it.
The era to stay at home, boyfriend, it's a trend that's on the rise.
We're going to get into that, Shannon.
Then we want to talk about the reverse roles because it sparked a thought.
You know, in said reverse roles, Shannon.
Are men actually stepping up, or are women having to step in even more while still outnumbering men in the workforce?
I know we made a joke yesterday about you cleaning up my mess and say, you know how women be like, men don't ever clean up, right?
We still gotta always go and clean up behind them.
And that might be more facts than just funny.
So we gonna get into that, Shannon.
And then,
I got a special segment that I want to talk about.
Never giving up and the cost of quitting too soon.
I think, you know, as humans, as people, you know, as creatives, as entrepreneurs, we have these dreams and these aspirations and
You know, time.
Time is is is a true teller of strength, in my opinion.
Over time, your dreams is going to be tested.
You're going to be tested.
And.
It's a challenge to hold on to it, right?
It's a challenge to hold on to your creativity, to hold on to that dream, especially with all everything else that's going on, things that change in life.
And then we give up too soon.
We give up too soon and then we watch somebody else live out our dreams.
And then we got to sit with that.
So we want to talk about that, Shannon too.
And then today on the menu as well, Shannon, you brought this up.
Men are lonelier in nursing homes.
Not that this is funny, by the way.
It's nothing because
you trying to throw me under the bus they gonna be on my heels bring
loneliness wait no man
I'm not dealing with dog today, man.
It's 300,000 people listening to us on the radio.
Guru, you is not going to get me distracted today.
But Shannon, we want to talk about lonelier, men are lonelier in the nursing homes.
And then we also want to focus on our nursing homes actually safe for our loved ones.
The people that we're, you know, putting in, in trust of taking care of our family members.
And we want to talk about that as well.
And then we got Malcolm Jamal Warner's widow breaks her silence.
And some of us may have seen it, you know, she said basically she was left with
Well, nothing you would say Shannon
The economy might be changing more than your wallet.
It could be changing your relationship, too.
A new report says women now outnumber men in the workforce, and that is helping drive the rise of the stay-at-home boyfriend.
Boyfriend, not even husband.
One report saying, quote, they seem comfortable with being pampered and paid for, maybe a little too comfortable.
On TikTok, they call their girlfriends mommies, and they refer to themselves as sugar babies.
Gross.
Fox News
contributor Brett Cooper joins us now.
Brett, I'm reading this.
men held nearly 7 million more jobs than women.
In 2026 this year, more women held jobs than men in the U.S.
Would you ever go for this?
Would you let your boyfriend stay at home while you go out and work?
No, not at all.
And what's so funny is that a couple of years ago on TikTok, the opposite was true.
There were all of these stay-at-home girlfriends that were going viral, and all the men in the comment section were going, this is so ridiculous.
You go to Pilates, you get your nails done, and we're providing for you.
We're not even married.
You don't have kids or anything here.
This is so ridiculous.
And so it's hilarious to see it switch.
But honestly, I'm not surprised by this.
I feel like if you look at the numbers of what's been happening with men and women, this should be expected.
I mean, we spent the last decade trying to keep straight white men out of the workforce and promoting women above them.
So this seems like, unfortunately, the logical conclusion of all of that.
So if you're happy with it, society, it's the bed we made.
the
Oh my God.
This is the bad way now.
Oh my God.
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Because Anita in the building.
Man, this is going to be a fun topic, man.
So Shannon, you was just fired up.
She said, excuse me.
Did she
out of the workforce.
It took
heard it wrong.
Maybe
heard it wrong.
I'll just replay it here.
you to sound off my bad rewind it one
I was talking.
But honestly, I'm not surprised by this.
I feel like if you look at the numbers of what's been happening with men and women, this should be expected.
I mean, we spent the last decade trying to keep straight white men out of the workforce and promoting women above them.
So.
this
Okay,
straight white men.
Made it very.
like those
then they
though
Explore is yours.
Keep going.
This this is all you, Shannon.
You got the ingredients, the seasoning.
You got the spices.
You got the veggies in the meat sweats for the pot.
As of early 2026, women hold more U.S.
payroll jobs than men.
Only the third time this has happened in rec and recorded history.
An economist says, this time looks structurally permanent rather than a temporary recession blip.
In the early 1900s, men held nearly 7 million more jobs than women.
That entire gap has now closed.
Over the most recent 12 months, men lost a net.
142,000 jobs while women gained 298,000.
Of the 1.2 million jobs added between February 2024 and February 2026, roughly two thirds went to women.
So I'm just, can we pause and just dive into that a little?
Let me see what you think on that, Shannon.
So it just seems, you know what?
Well, let's finish the stats.
Male labor force participation has fallen almost 20 points since tracking began in 1948.
From 86% down to 67% today.
The lowest on record outside the pandemic.
Female participation, however, rose 32%, rose from 32% to 57% over that same period.
So.
See, this is why I paused and read the rest of this.
Because this answered my thing that I was just going to set you off.
So it's not just women entering.
Men are, and they caps like this, leaving at a faster rate.
Male participation dropped to two full points since right before COVID.
So it was already on that before COVID.
So 69% to 67%.
then female participation dropped only 0.6% in that same span.
So, let's start there, Shannon.
Hearing those numbers, what's the first thoughts that jump out to
I'm back on that, but
Listen.
It sounds to me like men are willingly leaving the workforce.
Is that not what that said?
They are leaving.
They are backing down and women are rising to the occasion.
I also feel like I saw somewhere that most jobs that are on the rise are like in the healthcare fields and feels that men typically don't want to go for.
Who fault is that?
That's not women's fault.
We got more questions, comments, and concerns after this break.
I know we did have like one minute before break and I don't want to go over time.
You know what I'm saying?
But yeah, if you guys have questions, comments, and concerns, go ahead, give us a call at 833-212-1017.
We're talking about stay at home boyfriends, not husbands, boyfriends.
And in the, you know, we ain't gonna talk about what the Fox lady said.
That's
all
What
I'm just going to stop.
I kid, I kid, I don't condone.
She
joke.
And that's the truth.
truth.
Because I didn't even expect for that lady to say that at the end like you know like when we was having a food truck conversation and that lady called in like bless her And then they're on
How do we go from people choosing to be stay-at-home boyfriends to her being like, women created the problem.
Like a woman, women for men wanting to stay home and be boyfriends.
What are we talking about?
Ma'am, you act like we said, they took our jobs.
Like that's what it was getting.
It's
dogs in your front yard, just slow upstairs.
I'm going hard.
I'm just playing.
They ain't calling those dogs, but they refer.
I think that somebody was an excellent artist and had a real good bar there.
But Anita said it ain't safe.
We got Rebecca on the line.
Good afternoon, Rebecca.
How you doing?
You are listening to The Lunch Break with Ray Nitty and maybe Shannon.
How are you feeling today, Rebecca?
Thank you.
Glad that you received my call.
Oh, Lord Jesus, no.
No.
I just wanted the opportunity to put another spin at how we might look at this.
I'm not saying I'm right.
I'm just saying it could be another spin at looking at this.
I'm going to let you cook.
Thank you.
The statement that we stuck on is pushing the straight white men
out of the jobs and women being a higher number in the job market of today.
There are a few things I believe we can look at.
One thing, maybe we never push them out.
I have asked the question from time to time when the doors are finally open to women and...
brown and black-skinned people, where did the straight white men go to work as to how come these positions are finally open?
Another thing we may look at, women are more eager for their first-time positions when it's only about 60, 65 years ago.
We did not even have the rights to vote.
We were marching in the 60s for rights to vote, much less
It may choose to hire the women than any men straight or not straight just because we are not accustomed to a higher bracket of pay so they could save on their packages.
A lot of people are not going to work for under a certain amount of money that they're accustomed to as opposed to the one who is now coming into that position.
And those are just some of the views I thought about.
here.
mic a little bit for you,
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it
That's
And I do want us to get to that topic first.
I just kind of heard that end statement because I was filming when she was saying, I was like, yeah, that's true.
Men are staying at home and I don't think I want to stay at home, boyfriend.
And then she just had to throw that in there.
And it just, you know, railroaded me a little bit.
That's all.
My
Please speak right.
So yeah, I was saying, Madame Shannon, that what I heard earlier was a couple of things, right?
So yes, that women have, you know,
been long waiting to get this type of respect in the workforce.
So, yeah, they'll jump at the opportunities is what I was hearing her say.
But something else that stood out to me as well was the question that she asked.
And she was like, where did all these straight white men go to work?
So I think that that was a very interesting question because I'm like, where did they
I'm
Just want to chime in on this conversation about you know gender roles today and like people feeling comfortable because you know back in the day like you know you said something funny like you know kicking people out the workforce and that happened a while ago There's still this issue about like you know dominance and then discomfort and everything like that
you know, this culture clash of generations I've been mentioning for a while is like, you know, just deeper than like, you know, race and religion and everything.
It goes back to, you know, back then with civil rights and the suffrage movement and women and everything.
And it's just like, you know, a lot of the stuff that we go through right now, like abuse and like, you know, just like, you know, people having like ego trips is kind of like just, um, best way to put it is like,
I don't want to
like, you know, seem like I'm accusing them, but it's like almost retaliatory.
Like they're like, some women are kind of like, you know,
Vengeful like it was like a chance for revenge.
It's like, you know new New opportunity of freedom and everything so they lash out they scratch, you know, they you know take advantage by whoever like, you know He might you know help push their agenda or like, you know intimidate or whatever like that.
So that's something we need to look at, too
Yeah, definitely definitely understand that and I think like looking into you know actions in the workplace is very important
But I ain't say none of that, by the way, Brother Israel.
I didn't say anything about pushing anybody out just to be clear.
I didn't say that.
And thank you, Miss Shannon, for allowing us to take his call
anywhere
What's up, what's up?
Oh my
and burnt
Going through it like they just haven't like but would you know where that rhetoric is coming from?
And that's what irritates me like that whole movement of like straight white men are being put out of America guys We gotta stand up Like there's like a whole movement of women Acting like we should lose our rights to vote guys.
Let's stop voting Let the man lead again.
What are we doing guys?
That's the side of tiktok she on
Where do I sign?
Stay-at-home boyfriend, that's a roommate.
And if I'm busy, that's literally a roommate.
A stay-at-home boyfriend is a roommate.
What are we doing here?
And as a woman, like you said, a lot of times men weaponize incompetence.
Like they'll be like, well, I don't know how to change the diaper.
And they won't Google how.
You just got to do it.
Well, I never washed my clothes before my mom did it.
And you're like, OK, I guess I'll do it.
I don't know how to microwave my own noodles.
So you come home after a 12-hour shift.
You cooking, you cleaning, you changing the baby diaper.
He kicked up rubbing his toes together on your couch, watching TV or playing whatever game you then bought him for Christmas like another kid.
I wanted to adopt the kids.
I would have did that.
I'm not adopting no kids.
I'm busy working.
The frying pan of shame.
What are
But when I say like a husband is different because what I.
Well, not all the time, because sometimes y'all take that boyfriend and marry him and y'all y'all got the same situation.
But what I will say is even in my parent, in my parents' marriage, they weren't married.
My dad ended up injured and he had to stay home.
But he did know how to cook.
He did do our hair before school because my mom was first shift.
Like they balanced each other out.
And a lot of times you don't see that and I'm starting to notice that's very rare.
And a lot of these men aren't like,
In my eyes, a man is somebody that step up when needed, period.
I'm gonna get in where I fit in, okay?
A lot of these men, they will not have a job and they will still be like, that's the woman's job to cook and clean.
That's the woman's job to take care of the kids.
Well, your job was to get a job and you ain't do that.
So what are we doing?
So now, not only am I carrying the emotional labor, the unpaid labor and the workforce labor.
What are we doing?
My only beef there if it's a equally like it's one of those situations where it balances out completely fine But what we're not gonna do is turn me into a slave Because I want I want a roommate that bad.
I'll pay my full rent and adopt the needing a child in need.
What are we talking about?
And if that's what, and if I'm going to really drag myself to the dirt, I'm going to adopt a dog and I'm going to adopt a child that has a sad backstory, not no grown man that refused that's electing not to go into the workforce because he wants to be a stay at home boyfriend.
He's acting like Francesca supporters.
A stay at home boyfriend is insane.
A stay at home husband should be established as a benefit to the entire family.
Oh man.
So I know we was doing this subject today.
So I was like, you know what, let me take this out to the, put it on the side of the house before my wife can get back home.
She'd be like, this box has been sitting here.
Since yesterday.
So the box is up.
The box is up.
Trying to help you be a stronger black.
We don't say that no more creation.
We should go to break, huh?
Oh, you got three minutes.
Oh, we got three minutes.
Let's talk about which jobs are actually growing, Shannon.
You mentioned health care and social assistance, a sector that's 78.9, so essentially 79% women.
Is using the word female derogatory?
I feel like people said you shouldn't use the word female.
I
Does that mean the internet is a man?
Because that's how it chooses to spit out stats.
That makes no sense.
But anyway, added 1.8 million jobs between mid 2023 and mid 2025.
More than half of all US job growth in that window male heavy sectors like manufacturing tech and financial activities Have been flat or shrinking women already dominate the training pipeline for the fastest growing field 87% of nursing bachelor students and 96% of speech language pathology master students are women
Per recent enrollment data, economists also point to non-economic factors compounding a drop in male participation.
The opioid epidemic hit non-college educated men especially hard, and men largely don't qualify for assistance programs like SNAP or TANF without a disability.
So when they exit the workforce, the financial burden lands on whoever is closest to them
Often a partner.
What you think of that, Shannon?
Hmm.
Shannon, I don't think I got to do my research on that.
She likes to hit with all of that.
is now a
A real measurable pattern layered on top of the jobs data, roughly one in three American men age 20 plus are now entirely outside of the labor force, neither working nor looking.
Jesus.
Um among men age 25 40 percent of Millennials Gen Z are out of the labor force versus just seven percent of baby boomer men at the same age Miss Shannon can I have permission to take a break?
Very demure very mindful you in charge.
I won't hear you say that
Say it!
I'm in charge!
You're my partner!
I'm in charge!
I'm
in charge!
What's
up?
What's up?
You
Regathering ourselves here.
We talking about the stay at home boyfriend We talked about the workforce and women forcing white straight men out of the workforce Well, we didn't talk about it the lady on Fox six Fox news said something about it and Shannon Prepared for us what a meal using those ingredients It was it was delicious
I hope you all enjoyed it.
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Maybe, Shay, anything else?
Anything else?
We won't talk before we go to segment two.
I said
You know what?
Honestly, that's all I wanted to say.
If I was like a millionaire and I had a stay at home boyfriend that actually was worth a, you know...
worth anything, I'd be fine with that.
But what we are seeing now are men that are electing to stay home and also not do nothing there either.
And like I said, you have a few conversations with these people and they'll be like, that's a woman's job, cooking and cleaning and then they jobless, but they want her at work, come home and do everything.
It'd be different if people were just getting in where they fit in and it was a partnership where if I work,
You do this and help out.
If you do that, I'll do this, but it ain't like that.
It ain't a whole lot of give and take.
It's just give, give, give.
And then you go to Fox six news and you got that lovely woman talking how, how women is pushing white straight men out the workforce.
And this is why all the men's want to stay at home.
That's what happened today on this episode.
That's literally what people, you know, that's what I'm like, you know what?
I don't feel like most men are are or I don't feel like they feel comfortable enough to be like, oh, okay.
Like I do understand she's working.
I'm going to get in where I fit in.
Like I said, I don't have a problem if it was a partnership where somebody is stepping up and pick a slack after I work.
Sure.
Why not?
But that's just not what's happening.
And I think they like, I don't know, I'm going to let you read the stats, but I feel like a lot of divorces come from that, right?
Where people are basically saying, I'm working and he's not carrying the emotional labor.
He's not even doing the non paid labor at home.
Got to come home and I got to scrub the floor.
I'm not happening.
Those
brothers.
University of Bath and just said it.
I'm gonna have to Google this university.
University of Bath found mothers report 67% more household management than fathers on average.
And this holds true regardless of how much money the woman earns or whether she's the primary breadwinner.
Employment and higher earnings do reduce a mother's physical workload, but they do not reduce her cognitive slash mental labor.
The planning, remembering, scheduling it.
Oh, I'd be like, damn, I'm not.
She just be like, I'm not answering you.
Well, I was like, where are my keys at?
She's like, I don't know.
Scheduling.
And
ma'am?
Ray please.
By contrast with fathers earn more or work more both their physical and cognitive household work drops Meaning income and time don't buy men and women out of housework the same way All right a warthorne economists describe this as an existential problem for men
The old logic of he earns more, so she handles more at home is being upended by the job's data.
But the cultural infrastructure to absorb that shift doesn't yet exist.
Meaning household habits haven't caught up to the new income reality.
I think we kind of was talking about that earlier, right Sharon?
When we said...
That's why I said, like, I know I'm grateful and I'm happy that I know men that are willing to step up, like, actually, and, like, really...
be like that partner.
I do know men like that.
And I do know men that do actually try.
But the reality is not that out here.
Like when I go on dates or when I just talk to random people outside, like, or I watch TikTok and YouTube, I'm like, these
They don't want to work.
They don't want to clean.
They don't want, they don't even want to hear you.
Don't let you be educated.
They still, well, I'm the man.
You shut up.
Degrees don't mean nothing.
Like, dang.
Oh, okay.
That's all.
And then, like you said, the studies show that this is real.
If you find a gym that's willing to work with you, sure.
Be a sugar mama if you will.
Take care of that, man.
If he's a good man, Savannah, do it.
But the sad reality is a lot of nima.
You ain't slick.
You said Savannah.
He's a good man, Savannah.
Y'all don't remember that sound?
You know
what, brother, I'm gonna send it to you.
He's a good
Yeah.
Now what's up, y'all?
I
wanted to uh man y'all been on point today I'm not gonna lie but um man to that culture shit I couldn't um like fit it better I'm kind of living in a unique situation like culturally I would say uh my wife like makes double what I make you know um but like you said like we both work completely full-time this and that but it's also like
I gotta be able to learn how to cook.
You know, we got our son turn one on Saturday, and this past year has been a learning curve like no other.
She got it way faster than I did, but I had to step up, had some quite a bit of arguments and different things, but man, this new quote on quote generation, like it's this new version of a relationship is, yeah, it can look a lot of different ways, but.
Yeah, even just being quote-unquote being a man and and making less than my wife like that That was tough for me for a while and this and that but I couldn't do what I love if it wasn't for her like stabilizing the crib and like Just it's almost more to it and just I don't know nuance so
man,
It's very, you know, it don't take a lot.
And she'll be smitten by that, bro.
I'm telling you, we need to have more support groups for men.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, yo, this is how you cook this, bro.
You got to El Dente De Pasta fail.
She'll love it.
And you know, just let me know, bro.
Hit me offline.
I got you.
I got
you.
Love my brother.
You're
You hear what he say?
He said, listen, I'm learning.
It's been a learning curve, but I'm trying.
He's trying.
Like I said, it's hard to get men to understand like, yo, like, if you realize she is carrying the weight of the work,
Step in where you can learn.
TikTok is here.
There's so much stuff you can learn.
And like you said, Ray making a man support group.
Come on, look.
Somebody, how do y'all just do these dishes, man?
First of all, I got like dishes trauma from how I grew up.
Like me and my sister, we had to like, man.
come from a family of immigrants, man.
Like moms was like the Harriet Tubman for for the family like on the underground railroad to citizenship.
You know what I'm saying?
So we always had a house full of family members.
And, you know, it was really on me, my sister and my cousin at the time to do the dishes for about a household.
And we probably had 13 people at one time living in the crib.
This is like a bodega.
That's my team.
Straight up.
So, you know, we had to do it when it was your week to do the dishes.
You had to do the dishes.
And sometimes there'd be so many dishes, you'd be like, I'm not doing it.
But the consequences was you had to do an extra week.
So imagine like you just like looking at a upper yard kitchen full of damn dishes and Caribbean sauces and spices all over the damn place that, you know, you like, man, I'm not doing this today.
So now you looking at a month worth of dishes for 13 people.
And I vowed to myself, I'm never doing dishes again when I have kids.
My daughter already in college, son on the way, about to start his junior year.
And my wife was like, so what are we going to do about these dishes when these kids out in the house?
This is how strategic women be.
They'll have this conversation two years in advance.
Especially she
Yes, ma'am.
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Who run the world?
Thank you.
Shannon.
Hey.
episode.
funny.
Yeah, you hear that Anita?
read
Oh my god.
Go
ahead.
I'm trying to beat that dog.
Bark when you come home lick your hand or face.
Bark with somebody at the door.
All I need is three meals a day.
That's what the comment said.
You figure that out.
See Ray, what you doing off eating the cat?
oughta
Oh my goodness.
What now?
why they said it.
Somebody come and look at
do this.
We can't.
We can't.
It's such a
lie.
Oh my god.
88%
Yeah, yeah, I'm doing it.
Doing a great damn job.
But Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Time use data shows women still average nearly two hours a day on cooking, cleaning, yard work, roughly double what their male partner's average.
Men have increased their housework time over recent decades.
mostly in meal preparation.
We cook it.
But overall, the gaps persists.
It's often cited by women as a reason for divorce.
Damn.
Harvard, UW Madison, social.
OK.
Madison sociologist, Alison Daminger.
I don't like that last name.
Research found women carrying a heavy mental load.
report higher anxiety and burnout and notably lower political participation tied directly to how much they carry at home.
Damn.
Women ain't even voting because they tied the niggas.
That's crazy.
Like, how we do that one?
I'm sick of this nigga.
I ain't even going
to vote today.
right.
Oh
Oh yeah, we got to that.
So women ain't even voting because they tired of men, or men that have made them tired.
They're not voting no more.
We're not no more.
They lowered participation.
But that don't sound like a black woman problem though, because black women has been turning out in the last few elections.
That sound like the
That probably is because what I will say is the feminism movement is very different for white women than it is for black women Just throwing that out there.
So when we do look at these stats is very I Think it's important to remember It is a little bit different But um, I think all in all the general consensus is we sick
of
you
about it.
I
We're going to say that for tomorrow as a continuation of this.
This wasn't there.
So we'll save men are lonelier in nursing homes because I think it's a good segue to the our nursing homes actually safe for our families.
So I think we're going to save.
We're going to save these chunks for tomorrow.
But I say we could today when we come back from break, y'all.
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Fitting music for our closing topic fitting music the cost of quitting too soon And we want to talk about some real life examples, right?
Let me give y'all some real life examples and I got a story about a homie that inspired me and You know, I want us to to understand the importance of like man when you when when God Gives you a vision It's our responsibility to uphold that vision because he's gonna give us all the tools to get to the end goal but
He's also going to give us challenges to see if we deserve the end goal.
So a lot of times when things are taking longer for us to see the results that we want to see is God just saying you need a little more practice.
You need to go through a little more training.
I still need to prepare you a little bit more.
So.
I think it's important that we learn how to be still enough.
and and stay focused enough to stay consistent.
And nobody's saying don't take a break.
I understand life is busy.
We get tired.
You got to stay home, boyfriends, distracting you, discourages you, draining your energy.
You only want to vote.
You know.
But you have to find time and not give up on yourself.
And I want to give us some real life examples, right?
Matt LeBlanc has said he had just, I don't even know who Matt LeBlanc is, but we're going to figure out who he is.
So he had just $11 in his bank account and had it seriously considered giving up acting for a real job.
And shortly before landing the audition for Friends, which ran for 10 seasons.
So imagine if he just, you know, I got $11.
That's it.
Damn.
Let me see what you do with this $11 in your account.
Is you going to stay disciplined and focused and stay working on the things that you prayed to me for that I'm laying out in front of you, but I got to test you.
I got to see if you built for what you asked for.
People ask for a lot of things that they don't really deserve or they worked hard enough to get.
So are you willing to go through what it is that we need to go through in order to get what it is that we want?
So that's one example.
That season ran for 10 years.
Then we got Robert Pattinson.
Has said that his twilight audition went so badly.
He called his parents and told him that he was done He got the call back and he was Edward Cullen the very next day
and didn't that movie have like three or four
that
movie was huge.
He almost
Shannon
Then
one sent to Neo had what he described as an existential crisis about quitting acting early and considered moving to another country.
Shortly after he booked the fosters, which led directly to all the boys I've loved before.
I don't know what that means.
That was strange.
But he almost gave up.
These is just a few examples.
Few examples.
But I want to I want to give you all a real example.
I got a good friend, good friend of mine.
He was doing podcasting before podcasting was even a thing right before people even understood what podcasting was.
And I want to say it had to be maybe 2017.
I could be wrong, but it was a while ago him and Jasmine, if I'm not mistaken, alongside with Ivy.
So Jadon, Jasmine and Ivy, they put something on a while ago called podcast festival, the podcast festival.
And it was so new, people didn't even know, like, what the hell is a podcast festival?
They didn't know what it was.
People didn't even know what podcasts were, you know?
And he was like, man, I'm telling you, it's gonna be big.
It's gonna be a market.
It's gonna be so much revenue.
At the time, wasn't no revenue in it.
Let's start there as well.
It was not a market.
If I'm...
Check me if I'm lying.
There was no market for podcasts like that.
I ain't saying they didn't exist.
But I know for 100% there was no such thing as a podcast festival.
And what they did is they had a bunch of the other podcasts from the city gave them an hour or 30 minutes to have a topic and they created an open discussion and the audience participated.
All of that stuff that we see and now when they talking about like, let's discuss it live or whatever, you know, the podcast people that they go on the tour.
Yeah.
That was egos and opinions.
That was the podcast festival.
They did that on a large scale before it was even to scale.
They also brought at the time, I want to say the name of the podcast was Inglorious Bastards or something like that.
Charlemagne the God.
And Andy, whoever the other guy is.
Oh, he's actually in the chat right now.
Look at that.
So I saw the weave in the chat.
And I'm glad he here because I bothered him.
I bought he's like, you know, he stepped away from he stepped away from it.
Life happened, had kids, grew in his job.
Bought two houses.
He was getting money.
And probably saw a podcast that was costing them money.
You know, and it's a lot of growing pains when you develop in a business or dream.
But those growing pains, like I said, I think it's God testing us, preparing us for what's greater.
And I broke it.
I hope he calls in so we can have this conversation.
You know, I was I was to the point.
Damn, they're harassing, bro.
To the point where he was almost like, man, bro, it is what it is.
Just like kind of like stop asking me about this, bro.
I'm not doing
it.
Leave me
On this day of Hollister, leave me alone.
So I'm like, damn, all right.
Then couple like year to go by and behold, Black Effect Black Effect podcast network, Charlemagne the guy.
who I know Charlemagne never saw a podcast festival in his life.
Came to Milwaukee.
They I think they even said on stage is like, I don't even know what a podcast festival is, but we hear.
And what, 10, 10 years later.
Black Effect podcast is doing probably the biggest podcast festival in the world.
And it's not.
I'm saying that to say like so many things like this happened to me as well.
Things that people have encouraged me to continue to do.
And I like and I just like, you know what?
I'm on something else right now.
But as a human, for me, Shannon, like it brilliant idiots is what it was called.
And for me.
It's like damn, I gotta watch these people just do my dream Like I ain't shared it with them and told them what was going on and now
So exactly so and I feel like we gonna need more time to get into this tomorrow as well, but I think it is very important that We stay consistent now if you just don't want to do it.
No, you don't got the passion for it no more
Then that's fine.
I get it.
I get it But when you got a gift a God-given gift and a natural talent I Think we do ourselves other society A disservice by not living out
to the greatness that we do have within us.
And I hope Bro could call and share his perspective.
I know he in the chat, probably working on some multi-million dollar energy contract out there in Texas or something.
I get it, bro.
You rich.
I get it.
Bro was online, popping his stuff, pause.
He had hit some stocks.
He had some stocks.
I was like, man, you know, he's gigging it.
He's living good.
I get it.
But this is somebody that I believe in so much that I didn't want to see them like not doing something that I know was super special.
But hopefully this is him calling.
We're going to talk to him after the break if it is him.
So, uh, yeah, that is him.
That is him.
So we'll talk to him on the other side of the break, Shannon.
Maybe Shannon got some questions for him as well.
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We got the homie Weave on the line.
Weave, how you feeling, boss?
Yo.
You live.
We're right here.
Maybe Shannon, man.
We good, boss.
You know, Shannon, she shut the show down today.
Man,
she's amazing.
She's
though?
Oh, thank you.
good
You know it's one of those things where you know The podcast started organically right and I think we happen to take off faster
than any of us anticipated.
And I think my biggest mistake, just looking back now, was having that conversation with my co-host to understand what she wanted out of this as well.
Because I've been talking to you about podcasts since like 2014.
But in typical fashion, I would talk about it, but never see it through.
And Ivy was like, OK, listen, bro, if I got to join this as well to get the wheels turning, let's lock in.
But we didn't know that it would take off the way it did.
I mean bro it was a lot Sam you know my son had just turned a year you
took me away from my household it took me away from my child uh you know COVID happened like it was a lot going on and yeah it wasn't no money in the podcast and now everybody making millions of dollars you know it's like it's like digging for the treasure and stopping
world cause you know but it's like so there there's some trauma
associated with it as well, because I did have, and I mean, whatever, I'll kind of just talk my stuff, right?
Like, I had the city on my phone.
Like, I was doing it at a level that my peers weren't.
I was attaining things, building relationships.
Like, I would've never thought I'd see myself on the same stage as Charlemagne.
Took a phone call, shopped with his manager, it all came on.
The money didn't matter, you know what I'm saying?
Like, anything to propel my platform to where
I felt it needed to be or to put me in the room with the people I felt I could be a part of.
Now it's like I look at it.
You can't watch a TV show without hearing a podcast,
movie, whatever the case may be.
And I remember having a conversation with the Bucks for $10,000 sponsorship.
And I had to put together this presentation to explain to them what that purple apple in the iPhone was, you know, like how it will be.
the next source of media and so when you're putting in this type of work bro and yeah to my fault you know I think there's certain things that I could have done differently um but like you know COVID like once COVID happened it was over like I was like it was I never forget my last part was when Colby died.
And it was just like, you know, we were still matched up, you know, one of my homies was just like, yo, whatever, you tested, stick the stuff up your nose, you good, let's rock and let's record, you know?
And it just became a lot.
I was trying to buy a house.
I was getting into my job.
I had a daughter and my wife just like, hey, with the first shout, I held it down completely.
I watched all the dishes.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I was living like this day at home husband, you know what I'm saying?
Like, so it was just,
One of those situations where like I had to kind of reassess and when I looked at my daughter, bro And I started identifying moments that I did not remember with my son That's when I knew I messed up and I had to kind of reassess what was worth it and That's when I walked away.
Now these kids self-sufficient.
So like yeah diving back in today is a different conversation, but you know
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You are the goat.
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Excuse me?
What?
Very demure.
Very mindful.
up?
What's up?
Re-gathering ourselves here.
We talking about the stay at home boyfriend We talked about the workforce and women forcing white straight men out of the workforce Well, we didn't talk about it the lady on Fox six Fox news said something about it and Shannon Prepared for us what a meal using those ingredients It was it was delicious
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Who want to talk before we go to segment two?
I said
You know what?
Honestly, that's all I wanted to say.
If I was like a millionaire and I had a stay at home boyfriend that actually was worth a, you know...
worth anything, I'd be fine with that.
But what we are seeing now are men that are electing to stay home and also not do nothing there either.
And like I said, you have a few conversations with these people and they'd be like, that's a woman's job, cooking and cleaning and then they jobless, but they want her at work, come home and do everything.
It'd be different if people were just getting in where they fit in and it was a partnership where if I work,
You do this and help out.
If you do that, I'll do this, but it ain't like that.
It ain't a whole lot of give and take.
It's just give, give, give.
And then you go to Fox six news and you got that lovely woman talking how, how women is pushing white straight men out the workforce.
And this is why all the men's want to stay at home.
That's what happened today on this episode.
I don't feel like most men are are or I don't feel like they feel comfortable enough to be like, oh, okay.
Like I do understand she's working.
I'm going to get in where I fit in.
Like I said, I don't have a problem if it was a partnership where somebody is stepping up and pick a slack after I work.
Sure.
Why not?
But that's just not what's happening.
And I think they like, I don't know, I'm going to let you read the stats, but I feel like a lot of divorces come from that, right?
Where people are basically saying, I'm working and he's not carrying the emotional labor.
He's not even doing the non paid labor at home.
Got to come home and I got to scrub the floor.
What is happening?
Those brothers.
University of Bath, just said it!
I'm gonna have to Google this university.
The University of Bath found mothers report 67% more household management than fathers on average.
And this holds true regardless of how much money the woman earns or whether she's the primary breadwinner.
Employment and higher earnings do reduce a mother's physical workload, but they do not reduce her cognitive slash mental labor.
The planning, remembering, scheduling it.
Oh, I'd be like, damn, I'm not.
She just be like, I'm not answering you.
Well, I was like, where are my keys at?
She's like, I don't know.
Scheduling.
Oh.
By contrast with fathers earn more or work more both their physical and cognitive household work drops Meaning income and time don't buy men and women out of housework the same way All right a warthorne economists describe this as an existential problem for men
The old logic of he earns more, so she handles more at home is being upended by the job's data.
But the cultural infrastructure to absorb that shift doesn't yet exist.
Meaning household habits haven't caught up to the new income reality.
I think we kind of was talking about that earlier, right, Sharon?
When we said...
That's why I said, like, I know I'm grateful and I'm happy that I know men that are willing to step up, like, actually and, like, really...
be like that partner.
I do know men like that, and I do know men that do actually try.
But the reality is not that out here.
Like when I go on dates or when I just talk to random people outside, like, or I watch TikTok and YouTube, I'm like, these
man's is
It is scary out here.
The likeliness of a woman bringing in the money and then marrying a man that not only wants to be baby girl, a passenger princess, but also not take on the other household stuff.
It's so high out here.
I'm scared.
I'm scared.
They trying to take my dog to that place.
Like I said, it's not even like they want to come in and just be like, let me help you where I can.
They don't want to clean.
They don't even want to hear you.
Don't let you be educated.
They still, well, I'm the man.
You shut up.
Degrees don't mean nothing.
Like, dang.
Oh, okay.
That's all.
And then, like you said, the studies show that this is real.
If you find a gym that's willing to work with you, sure.
Be a sugar mama if you will.
Take care of that, man.
If he's a good man, Savannah, do it.
But the sad reality is a lot of email.
You ain't slick.
Savannah.
light
I just wanted to uh man y'all been on point today I'm not gonna lie but um man to that culture shit I couldn't uh um like fit it better I'm kind of living in a unique situation like culturally I would say uh my wife like makes double what I make you know um but like you said like we both work completely full-time this and that but it's also like
I gotta be able to learn how to cook.
You know, we got our son turning one on Saturday and this past year has been a learning curve like no other.
She got it way faster than I did, but I had to step up, had some quite a bit of arguments and different things, but man, this new quote on quote generation, like it's this new version of a relationship is, yeah, it can look a lot of different ways, but.
Yeah, even just being quote-unquote being a man and and making less than my wife like that That was tough for me for a while and this and that but I couldn't do what I love if it wasn't for her like stabilizing the crib and like Just it's almost more to it and just I don't know nuance so
man,
It's very, you know, it don't take a lot.
And she'll be smitten by that, bro.
I'm telling you, we need to have more support groups for men.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, yo, this is how you cook this, bro.
You got a El Dente De Pasta fail.
She love it.
And you know, just let me know, bro.
Hit me offline.
I got you.
I got
you.
Love
You hear what he said?
He said, listen, I'm learning.
It's been a learning curve, but I'm trying.
He's trying.
Like I said, it's hard to get men to understand like, yo, like if you realize she is carrying the weight of the work.
Step in where you can learn.
TikTok is here.
There's so much stuff you can learn.
And like you said, Ray making a man support group.
Come on, look.
Somebody, how do y'all just do these dishes, man?
First of all, I got dishes trauma from how I grew up.
Like me and my sister, we had to like.
Man come from a family of immigrants man like moms was like the Harriet Tubman for for the family like on the ground railroad to citizenship You know what I'm saying?
So we always had a house full of family members and You know, it was really on me my sister and my cousin at the time to do the dishes for about a household of
And we probably had 13 people at one time living in the crib.
This is like a bodega.
That's my team.
Straight up.
So, you know, we had to do it.
When it was your week to do the dishes, you had to do the dishes.
And sometimes there'd be so many dishes, you'd be like, I'm not doing it.
But the consequences was you had to do an extra week.
So imagine like you just like looking at a upper yard kitchen full of damn dishes and Caribbean sauces and spices all over the damn place that, you know, you like, man, I'm not doing this today.
So now you looking at a month worth of dishes for 13 people.
And I vowed to myself, I'm never doing dishes again when I have kids.
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Who run the world?
Thank you.
Shannon.
you hear that Anita?
trying to be that dog bark when you come home lick your hand or face bark with somebody at the door all I need is three meals a day
three
He
our sensual.
Oh, go, go, go.
Oh,
do this.
We can't.
We can't.
It's such a lie.
Yeah.
Yeah, I'm doing it.
Doing a great damn job, but Bureau of Labor Statistics.
Time use data shows women still average nearly two hours a day on cooking, cleaning, yard work, roughly double what their male partner's average.
Men have increased their housework time over recent decades, mostly in meal preparation.
We cook it, but overall the gaps persist.
It's often cited by women as a reason for divorce.
Damn Harvard UW Madison social.
Okay Madison sociologist Allison Daminger Research found women carrying a heavy mental load report higher anxiety and burnout and notably lower political
Participation tied directly to how much they carry at home.
Damn.
Women ain't even voting because they tied the niggas.
That's crazy.
Like, how we do that?
I'm sick of this nigga.
I ain't even
So women ain't even voting.
because they tired of men, or men that made them tired.
And I vote no more.
Well, not no more.
They lowered participation.
But that don't sound like a black woman problem, though, because black women has been turning out in the last few elections.
That sound like the
That probably is because what I will say is the feminism movement is very different for white women than it is for black women Just throwing that out there.
So when we do look at these stats is very I Think it's important to remember It is a little bit different But I think all in all the general consensus is we sick of
you
Damn.
We're going to say that for tomorrow as a continuation of this.
This wasn't there.
So we'll save men are lonelier in nursing homes because I think it's a good segue to the our nursing homes actually safe for our families.
So I think we're going to save.
We're going to save these chunks for tomorrow.
But I say we could today when we come back from break, y'all.
We want to talk about Never give up and the cost of quitting too soon So don't go anywhere y'all this is a lunch break with Ray nitty and maybe Shannon on the award-winning one on one seven the truth
I know you are tired.
I Know life has not been easy But please Do not give up now
You.
What's up?
Welcome back to the lunch break with Ray Nitty and maybe Shannon.
You are listening to the award-winning Truth 1017.
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Fitting music for our closing topic fitting music the cost of quitting too soon And we want to talk about some real life examples, right?
McGee awesome real life examples and I got a story about a homie that inspired me and You know, I want us to to understand the importance of like man when you when when God Gives you a vision It's our responsibility to uphold that vision because he's gonna give us all the tools to get to the end goal but
He's also going to give us challenges to see if we deserve the end goal.
So a lot of times when things are taking longer for us to see the results that we want to see is God just saying you need a little more practice.
You need to go through a little more training.
I still need to prepare you a little bit more.
So.
I think it's important that we learn how to be still enough.
and and stay focused enough to stay consistent.
And nobody's saying don't take a break.
I understand life is busy.
We get tired.
You got to stay home, boyfriends, distracting you, discourages you, draining your energy.
You only want to vote.
You know.
But you have to find time and not give up on yourself.
And I wanna give us some real life examples, right?
Matt LeBlanc has said he had just, I don't even know who Matt LeBlanc is, but we gonna figure out who he is.
So he had just $11 in his bank account and had it seriously considered giving up acting for a real job.
And shortly before landing the audition for Friends, which ran for 10 seasons.
So imagine if he just, you know, I got $11.
That's it.
Damn.
Let me see what you do with this $11 in your account.
Is you going to stay disciplined and focused and stay working on the things that you prayed to me for that I'm laying out in front of you, but I got to test you.
I got to see if you built for what you asked for.
People ask for a lot of things that they don't really deserve or they worked hard enough to get.
So are you willing to go through what it is that we need to go through in order to get what it is that we want?
So that's one example.
That season ran for 10 years.
Then we got Robert Pattinson.
Has said that his Twilight audition went so badly he called his parents and told him that he was done He got the call back and he was Edward Cullen the very next day
and didn't that movie have like three or four
He almost
Shannon
one sent to Neo had what he described as an existential crisis about quitting acting early and considered moving to another country.
Shortly after he booked the fosters, which led directly to all the boys I've loved before.
I don't know what that means.
That was strange.
But he almost gave up.
These is just a few examples.
Few examples.
But I want to I want to give you all a real example.
I got a good friend, good friend of mine.
He was doing podcasting before podcasting was even a thing right before people even understood what podcasting was.
And I wanna say it had to be maybe 2017, I could be wrong.
But it was a while ago, him and Jasmine, if I'm not mistaken, alongside with Ivy, so Jadon, Jasmine and Ivy, they put something on a while ago called Podcast Festival, the podcast festival.
And it was so new, people didn't even know, like, what the hell is a podcast festival?
They didn't know what it was.
People didn't even know what podcasts were, you know?
And he was like, man, I'm telling you, it's going to be big.
It's going to be a market.
It's going to be so much revenue.
At the time, there wasn't no revenue in it.
Let's start there as well.
It was not a market.
Check me if I'm lying.
There was no market for podcasts like that.
I ain't saying they didn't exist.
But I know for 100% there was no such thing as a podcast festival.
And what they did is they had a bunch of the other podcasts from the city gave them an hour or 30 minutes to have a topic and they created an open discussion and the audience participated.
All of that stuff that we see and now when they talking about like, let's discuss it live or whatever, you know, the podcast people that they go on the tour.
Yeah.
That was egos and opinions.
That was the podcast festival.
They did that on a large scale before it was even to scale.
They also brought at the time, I want to say the name of the podcast was Inglorious Bastards or something like that.
Charlemagne the God.
And Andy, whoever the other guy is.
Oh, he's actually in the chat right now.
Look at that.
So I saw the weave in the chat.
And I'm glad he here because I bothered him.
I bought he's like, you know, he stepped away from he stepped away from it.
Life happened, had kids, grew in his job.
Bought two houses.
He was getting money.
And probably saw a podcast that was costing them money.
You know, and it's a lot of growing pains when you develop in a business or dream.
But those growing pains, like I said, I think it's God testing us.
Preparing us for what's greater.
And I broke it.
I hope he calls in so we can have this conversation.
You know, I was I was to the point damn near harassing bro to the point where he was almost like man, bro It is what it is.
Just like kind of like stop asking me about this, bro.
I'm not on this damn Hollister leave me alone So I'm like damn, all right Then couple like year to go by and behold black effect black effect podcast network.
Charlemagne the guy
who I know Charlemagne never saw a podcast festival in his life.
Came to Milwaukee.
They I think they even said on stage is like, I don't even know what a podcast festival is, but we hear.
And what, 10, 10 years later.
Black Effect podcast is doing probably the biggest podcast festival in the world.
And it's not, I'm saying that to say like so many things like this is happening to me as well.
Things that people have encouraged me to continue to do.
And I just like, you know what?
I'm on something else right now.
But as a human, for me, Shannon, like brilliant idiots is what it was called.
And for me,
It's like, damn, I got to watch these people just do my dream.
Like I ain't shared it with them and told them what was going on.
And now they just.
So I'm in
So and I feel like we're going to need more time to get into this tomorrow as well.
But I think it is very important that we stay consistent.
Now, if you just don't want to do it, no, you don't got the passion for it no more.
Then that's fine.
I get it.
I get it But when you got a gift a God-given gift and a natural talent I Think we do ourselves other society A disservice by not living out
to the greatness that we do have within us.
And I hope Broker call and share his perspective.
I know he in the chat, he probably working on some multi-million dollar energy contract out there in Texas or something.
I get it, bro.
You rich.
I get it.
Bro was online, popping his stuff, pause.
He had hit
some
He had some stocks.
I was like, man, you know, he's kicking it.
He's living good.
I get it.
But this is somebody that I believe in so much that I didn't want to see them like not doing something that I know was super special.
But hopefully this is him calling.
We're going to talk to him after the break if it is him.
So, uh, yeah, that is him.
That is him.
So we'll talk to him on the other side of the break, Shannon.
Maybe Shannon got some questions for him as well.
But don't go anywhere.
This is the lunch break with Ray Nitty and maybe Shannon.
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Yo.
You live, we're
in.
Man, she's amazing.
She's amazing.
that, man.
He took
think, you know, it's one of those things where, you know, the podcast started organically, right?
And
I think we happen to take off faster than any of us anticipated.
And I think my biggest mistake, just looking back now, was having that conversation with my co-host to understand what she wanted out of this as well.
Because I've been talking to you about podcasts since like 2014.
But in typical fashion, I would talk about it, but never see it through.
And Ivy was like, OK, listen, bro, if I got to join this as well to get the wheels turning,
Let's lock in.
But we didn't know that it would take off the way it did.
And I mean, bro, it was a lot, Sam.
You know, my son had just turned a year.
You know, it took me away from my household.
It took me away from my child.
You know, COVID happened like it was a lot going on.
And yeah, it wasn't no money in the podcast.
And now everybody making millions of dollars.
You know, it's like it's like digging for the treasure and stopping right before you know, but it's like.
So there's some trauma associated with it as well, because I did have, and I mean, whatever, I'll kind of just talk my stuff, right?
I had the city on my phone.
Like I was doing it at a level that my peers weren't.
I was attaining things, building relationships.
Like I would have never thought I'd see myself on the same stage as Charlemagne.
Took a phone call.
shop with his managers all come on.
The money didn't matter.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, anything to propel my platform to where I felt it needed to be or to put me in the room with the people I felt I could be a part of.
Now it's like, I look at it.
You can't watch a TV show without hearing a podcast or
a
movie, whatever the case may be.
And I remember having a conversation with the Bucks for a $10,000 sponsorship.
And I had to put together this presentation to explain to them
what that purple apple in the iPhone was, you know, like how it will be the next source of media.
And so when you're putting in this type of work, bro, and yeah, to my fault, you know, I think there's certain things that I could have done differently.
But like, you know, COVID, like once COVID happened, it was over.
Like I was like, it was, I never forget my last part was when Kobe died.
And it was just like, you know,
We were still matched up, you know, one of my homies was just like, yo, whatever, you tested, stick the stuff up your nose, you good, let's rock and let's record, you know, and, um, it just became a lot.
I was trying to buy a house.
I was getting into my job.
I had a daughter and my wife just like, Hey, for the, with the first shout, I held it down completely.
I watched all the dishes.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, I was, I was living like the stay at home husband.
You know what I'm saying?
Like, so it was just one of those situations where like, I had to kind of reassess and
When I looked at my daughter, bro, and I started identifying moments that I did not remember with my son.
That's when I knew I messed up and I had to kind of reassess what was worth it.
And that's when I walked away.
Now these kids self-sufficient.
So like, yeah, diving back in today is a different conversation, but you know, there was a lot.
to
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You are the goat.
I love everything about what you do here.
Continue being greater.
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