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with your girl Brandy Grayson and my co-host.
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All right, we back.
We're going to wrap up this conversation around Sassy.
And we were just looking on Facebook and someone commented
in the comment section that men don't like to be called
Sassy because it is associated with being gay.
And me and April was like, oh, that makes sense.
We slow.
We get it.
My definition wasn't even, I wasn't even thinking about that.
I was in a whole new era.
Completely different.
Okay, so I could get how that could be.
But then if it's offensive, that kind of makes you homophobic,
though, it doesn't it?
Because why would you be offended by, anyway, let's not get
something.
Let's not go next week.
Okay, let's not go that deep.
Okay, okay, okay.
Wait, what was we going to talk about now?
Funding in the Madison.
Oh, yeah.
So you know everything is political.
Oh, before I get into that, I want to give a shout out
to Julian Waters.
He had his, what was that?
The Black Party.
The Black Party and basketball tournament last weekend
at Penn Park.
And that was really, really nice.
And I was there.
I was out there a couple hours.
I went in the early afternoon and then came back in the evening.
So shout out to you.
And he had like a hundred darn sponsors.
Really?
Yeah, he had so many sponsors.
And he was saying like, he was like, I just be out here hustling
because he was like, I don't get big sponsors like you.
I'm like, I don't even get sponsors.
So people don't even sponsor us.
So I think people have this illusion that urban triad just overly
supported and overly sponsored when actually we're under-supported
and undersponsored.
And people think we have more than we do.
So they don't, they, they think like, oh, yeah, so we don't get,
it's a weird thing, y'all.
It's really weird.
But anyway, shout out to Juju for that.
And also, I think it's weird how, and this isn't about Julien,
but I just wanted to bring it up.
But how is weird?
How when black men accomplish anything, everybody praises them.
And when black women accomplish things in Madison or in a Dane County,
you hear it one time and don't hear it again.
I just, I just, and it's, and I think it's patriarchy.
I think like we really appreciate black men and their, their attainments.
And it's almost like, oh my god, you did something.
Let's congratulate you everywhere all the time, a million times.
And for black women who accomplish a lot and including myself.
So let me just put myself in there.
We've accomplished some historical things.
And people are often like, oh, that's nice.
And they move on, right?
Like, and we've done some things.
And I have to really, and this is part of the conversation
with my partner when I go home.
Like, I don't need him to get emotional with me.
Like, I'm gonna go beat everybody up.
I need him to be like, girl, don't worry about everybody.
Stay focused and remember who you are.
And don't worry about how other people are edified.
Yeah.
And I share that out of vulnerability because I think people think like people
who are doing the work you just are, you don't feel nothing or something.
Well, I mean, Malcolm X said it best.
He said the most disrespect the person in the world is a black woman.
You're right.
And I said, yeah, you're right.
And it's true.
And it's sad.
But I feel like we, number one, the expectation are high.
Exceptional.
If we don't do it, oh, we'll hear about it.
But like you said, the moment we do it, it's like, okay, well, that's great.
All right.
Yep, great.
And then we were expected to carry everything.
We're expected to do X, Y, and Z.
Yeah.
The moment we don't, it's a problem.
It's just this ideology that we live in this different space.
It's just this unrealistic expectation paired with the black man
that for some reason, and I was at this rotary club, D.I. thing,
there were two black men there that I'm not going to name.
I was the only black woman in the space.
Everybody else was white.
And the two black men were saying how black men are more face more
in the community than black women.
But there's not a comparison though.
I was like, you can, number one, you can't even compare that.
It's not apples to apples.
Number one, number two, there's so much privilege that you as a man has
that a black woman doesn't even have.
And the privilege to make mistakes and being forgiven
and then edify for that given.
You know how many black men leaders we have in our community
who are pedophiles, who are on the list for staying away from children.
And how we edify them, and then we say we should forgive them.
And these people have committed rape.
They have harmed children.
And we forgive them.
And then we give them money.
And then we put them in the community.
And then we send them a community.
It doesn't make sense to me.
Because there should be boundaries.
And I'm just going to leave that there.
Because we've also had people commit some, some, some, yeah.
So, and then if a black woman does anything like say,
one time I, I said something like, oh, when I was talking about that
dude Tyson who threatened me in the, in the staircase.
And I said, and he's feminine.
And I'm not going to fight you.
Like you're still a man.
And then people were like, oh, you're so homophobic.
Like you can't even say anything without being critiqued.
You know what I mean?
Like everything I do is shadowed, you know, observed.
So anyway, so on to that.
I'm going to leave that alone.
But anyway, back to your listening to 92.7 FM,
the black conversion show with your girl Brandy Grayson.
And remember our harvest fest September 7th at our farm.
Check out our Facebook urban triage.
That's TRI AG.
You can also look us up on, you know, the web, go to our website.
All that information is there.
But I was, I did talk about funding a little bit.
I'm just going to leave it alone because I still want to,
I sent out a couple emails to a couple of big people
who were like funding us and supported us.
And then we worked with this group of young folks
who then got mad because we started raising money
to feel gaps in our budget.
So like when you get a contract with someone,
they don't always give you all the money in the grant for the program.
So then you have to solicit funds from different organizations
or corporations.
And we did that.
And then they went to the corporations and said that we were out of integrity
because we shouldn't be raising funds for this contract.
But we didn't have any administration funds left.
Meaning that we didn't have no money to cover the staff.
No, not the staff, but the accounting, the overhead, the utilities,
the office space, the supplies.
Because grants only cover certain line items.
And this funding from HUD didn't cover anything else.
So we had to go find the money.
So when they went and said that to these right institutions,
the institutions are now saying they're not going to fund us anymore
because we did something that was out of integrity.
So, but mind you, they never asked me a question.
So they just heard from the stereotype.
Right.
They never inquired and never asked a question.
And now this has happened twice.
So I just want to say this to all of our listeners and people.
You have to be careful about how you talk about black organizations.
It has a compounding effect on us like not white organizations.
If you say something about United Way,
someone's going to pick up the phone and call you 90 way and investigate.
Like we heard this.
They're not going to call the black organization.
They're just going to assume is true.
Because that is the foundation and definition of anti-blackness.
Anti-blackness looks like black people being wrong.
Even if we're not wrong, you just hear something and you go with it.
And that's what's been happening a lot for urban triads.
So I just want to encourage you all to stop doing that.
Because when you're black, you already hate it on because of the power dynamics
and just because of racism.
But I just found this out because we have this program that we're doing with MMSD.
And they reached out to this particular org.
I won't say their name.
And they shaded them around us.
But we had a great relationship.
So now I got to try to figure out what occurred,
but you know it's from gossip.
So you're listening to the black conversion show.
I want to remind y'all that being black is already hard, right?
And being a black woman, compounds it, being queer, compounds it,
being poor, compounds it, not having education, compounds it,
been differently, disabled, compounds it, being trans.
That's the intersection.
So show people grace and kindness, y'all.
And remember that black jobs are all jobs.
Okay.
All right.
We'll see you next week on 92.7 FM WMDX on the black conversion show.
Bye y'all.
